my best friend of 25 years boyfriend asks me to give him a chance i gave him a chance i dont like him, today i told my friend i dont like herboyfriend and she hung up on me. Dont i have a right to my opinion. ?She moved in with this guy who is a convicted child molester and was with a man before her. She lost her job because of him. She cant hold down a job he works till he gets fired. She is always asking for money. He is just dragging her down, the final straw was today she tells me he spent his paycheck on his fat 500lb sister who he took out to lunch. However she wants to borrow money from everyone to pay her rent. All i said is i gave him a chance i dont like him. and she hung up on me. I left a message on her answering maching telling her that i dont cae if she marrys him becuase i dont have to live with him. And i support her choice. I gave the guy a chance. So was i wrong to voice myopinionorshouldihavekeptmymouthshut
2006-09-09 07:48:59 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
hay adviser read the question, her boyfriend asks me to give him a chance to like him. to prove him sef that he is worthy of my friend. i gave him a chance so did my husband we dont ike him.
2006-09-09 07:56:18 · update #1
Your friend is looking for approval and support in her choice, and wanted you to back her up. Yet, deep down she knows he's a jerk, but the old expression, "love is blind" is certainly representative of this situation.
You did right by wanting to protect her, but protection was not what she was looking for. Unfortunately, she will have to learn the hard way since she won't listen to good advice from you, her friend. If she had asked you, "Does this dress make me look fat?" You could lie with a clear conscience by saying, "It's a great color on you. You should always wear blue." That kind of skirting the issue is okay, because you haven't lied, nor have you exactly told the truth. But when it comes down to her having a miserable life with this creep, you did right by not pretending to like him. After all, you're entitled to your opinion.
So my advice is, be there for her. She'll get over being mad at you in time, and will need your friendship. She'll have to learn things the hard way, but maybe she'll learn a valuable lesson at the same time. If you want to keep her as a friend, though, don't rub it in and say, "I told you so." Just give her a hug when she comes to you in tears, which I predict will probably happen.
2006-09-09 08:13:00 · answer #1 · answered by gldjns 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You gave your opinion and she was not receptive of it, thats her problem. She needs to take a long look at her life style and decide what she wants out of life. Obviously she need help financially, mentally, and physically but she seems to be going to all the wrong places to find happiness. If she is indeed your true friend she will come back around. It just hurt her pride a bit and she will have to suck it up and get over it. Friends might not like what you say all the time, but its life. She needs to get over it.
2006-09-09 08:05:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That what a friend is suppose to do no you wasn't wrong you did the right thing she just can't accept the fact that you said you didn't like her boyfriend you let her know that you will support her so oh well she will come around eventually
2006-09-09 07:57:18 · answer #3 · answered by tpchick22 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow hun that is intense you have the right to say soemthing especially if she is your friend and you have known her longer then he has. if she hung up on you it is because she is scared of the truth . it hurts and it can be scary but sometimes you have to go out on a limb to tell someone they are wrong for moving in with someone that has a history and background of child molestation
2006-09-09 07:52:43 · answer #4 · answered by Da Q 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Y *ould u put your friendship in jeopardy for a child mole*ting, gay, no job a***hole. No. 1 you never date your friend or relative boyfriend for any rea*on.That common decency.If your hu*band approved that* *eird. None of you have moral* and are all lo*er* A 500lb female ate a hole paycheck? Take her to therapy if u can and put her on a diet or (My keyboard key are not *orking) Keep her home and take her for bypa** surgery.You *hould keep your opinion to your*elf. I think you *anted to break them up and get rid of her..All of you have no *elf e*teem or *orth.
2006-09-09 08:19:58 · answer #5 · answered by tina 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you do have a right to express your opinion, and people do have a right to react to the opinion in their own way.
now as for your friend who chose a person of unlikable stature who spends all her money, gets her fried from place of work, that is not your choice but hers and hers alone, she hsa made a bed of sorrow for herself and one day it will happen.
you as her friend can be there for her and aide in certain aspects of the relations until it comes to a crashing halt but know where does it say as a friend that you have to like her choices in life or be financially responsible for her
2006-09-09 07:57:49 · answer #6 · answered by free2chat_tou 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't sound like a friend. She sounds like she uses you to borrow money. Sorry, but you should have left this school friend back in school.
2006-09-09 07:53:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I suspect that your question is not sincere,you have no buisness dating your best friends ex boyfriend,and if you had the common sense in you,you would know better!
2006-09-09 07:52:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Holy crap, you're so good at writing! You have such strong descriptive words. I love your story. Wish I could read more. And I thought I could write. ;)
2016-03-27 04:11:09 · answer #9 · answered by Katherine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. you should always be able to express your opinion. if your friend can't handle it or if she doesn't like it, then that's her problem. she's not a true friend for understanding what you're saying.
2006-09-09 07:51:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋