I mean sometimes I say nothing to people and it bothers them. How I know it creates this tension in their actions. Sometimes people don't trust me because they say I look too innocent. But that does not bother me. I just ask this question to hear other people's view on this issue. More seriously though could I be doing something wrong as it pertains to my relationships(socially). I don't want to be weak and whining in order to feel accepted. Am different we all are so why should I be like others. I get this treatments so often even in my local church seems like they are seeing somethings am not. I love others but it seems like people are thinking I don't. I enjoy encouraging others. And I an ugly thought come to my mind about someone I dismiss immediately and pray and it always makes me feel so bad I just keep praying grarding my mind against the enemy. But how do I show the world am genuine especially my acquantances.
2006-09-09 07:42:31 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Assure them that it is only the Lord that makes you righteous. Assure them you are a lowly sinner too. Understand you are a lowly sinner too.
2006-09-09 07:50:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really didn't understand the question but what I would say is that you can't change who you are simply because people don't like it. Not everyone is going to like you for who you are. You've already gained acceptance from Christ, people don't really make a difference. Now as long as you're not lording your religion over everyone and trying to make it seem as though you're superior then you should be fine. But that's not what Christianity is about. If people are coming to you with their problems, then don't judge them, give them your impartial opinion and move on. That's all you can do. But be yourself honey and enjoy life. Just because you're saved doesn't mean you have to be stuck up.
2006-09-09 14:46:32 · answer #2 · answered by Southern Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's interesting to see this question posed. While I would not classify myself as "Christian" I have family and friend who are. I appreciate their faith altho I don't choose that path for me. That's the difficult part because as I understand Christianity - many believe that I'm doomed to hell if I'm not Christian. Naturally, if you believe that and I'm important to you, you would want to convince me. I'm not sure how you can handle that except to continue to pray for me if that's what you believe. I find it challenging to discuss this because if you are convinced your way is the only way and I'm more of the "just don't know" school then we're kind of stuck. If I want your opinion I will ask.
What is it you want to say that you think you can't say? Do you feel the need to present and convince, i.e., witness to others and are afraid to do so? I guess it depends on what you think you need to do. I must admit I don't find conversations like that interesting and will avoid them. Perhaps it would be easier for you to be with people who think the same way you do when you discuss your beliefs or if you are discussing them with others try to come from "This is my belief and I know it might not be yours."
You sound like a good person who is trying to come to terms with liviing your own strong religious beliefs and not being offensive to others. If you come across that way you'll probably be ok most of the time. Sometimes you are just going to offend someone which is their problem and other times you might find people who want to hear what you have to say.
Good luck!
2006-09-09 14:54:49 · answer #3 · answered by Siri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're trying to hard to convince others. You can't be a confident Christian and be so troubled over others opinion as to to what you believe.
When you say you don't want to be 'weak or whining' in order to be accepted, does it mean that if you are coming off too strong about your beliefs? Unless your social relationships are at religious functions, perhaps other people don't want to hear about your religion in a social setting.
God knows if you are genuine. That's between you and Him. With others, you are trying to 'show' them, why don't you relax and forget about that, and show genuine interest in them and their interests; then they will think more kindly of you.
2006-09-09 15:00:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are not perfect and sometimes when they are around someone who appears to be (such as yourself) then it can make them uncomfortable and feel judged. When a person feels judged by another then that forces them to form judgments on the person they feel is doing the judging. We should all remember Matthew 7:1. That doesn't mean that you think you are perfect. It simply means that your quietness probably makes others feel that you don't understand what they are going through or that you feel you are better than them. I myself when I was younger was judged many times as being prissy. I learned that if I opened up more to others that they could see the real me. I focused on letting other people inside instead of always being the savior of others. Good luck to you and God bless!
2006-09-09 14:52:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your Christianity isn't all it's cracked up to be...otherwise, you could just go ask your gods what to do...I understand you Christians can have conversations with these animated made up characters.
You might want to rethink your committments. Sounds like you're not all that sure of your religion.
By the way, I shut out Christians completely, because they're obnoxious and self-righteous.
2006-09-09 14:46:55 · answer #6 · answered by Stuart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a breath and ask yourself. Why do I care what anyone thinks. As long as you treat people right and respect yourself you shouldn't worry about what other people think or say. If you do care, and they are thinking all these things of you then why would you want what they hink to matter? They have judged you unfairly and that's not somone "I" would want to be social with. Good Luck!
2006-09-09 14:47:26 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What? What a mishmash this question seems to be. If you are all that confident as you claim, why are you asking us? If you are cramming your Christianity down people's throats or encouraging those who really didn't ask for your advice, then that would annoy people to no end! Be a quiet Christian.
2006-09-09 14:44:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can not change people, but chnage yourself. Some confident christian that I know thing they are so righteous even thou their head is twisted like the knokle head Paterson. Learn to accept that other people are right in their believe.
2006-09-09 14:48:43 · answer #9 · answered by Dave S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should just be you and it will all work out dont worry what other people think.
2006-09-09 14:52:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋