Tonight I'm babysitting the girl across my street, she's about 8 years old, and her grandmother just died very suddenly. I feel terrible for her mother, but I don't know if it would be cruel for a teenager to tell her that I feel very sorry for her loss. Is that impolite? Should I tell her I'm sorry or would it be better to not say anything at all?
2006-09-09 07:27:41 · 10 answers · asked by katie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I wouldn't mention anything until she does. Be as gentle as possible and ask her questions when she opens the door for it. Like, what was the best thing about seeing your grandma? What special things did you do with her? Things like that make all the difference in the world to a kid. Just be patient with her and if she doesn't mention it, I wouldn't. But be sure to offer her mother your condolences as well.
2006-09-09 07:32:06 · answer #1 · answered by Southern Lady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would it be impolite? Just tell her you feel sorry for her loss. Just don't ask if the old bag was rich and you could use a raise in your babysitting pay. Now that would be improper.
2006-09-09 14:32:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her your sorry. That way she will know that you care about her family. IT is never impolite to ask if someone needs help after a loss
2006-09-09 14:34:58 · answer #3 · answered by laura 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear lostinblue212
You should talk to her mother freely. Everyone feels shocked when life of someone we knows ends abruptely. As a teenager, it may be even more shocking for you, But as her mother has more experience of life, she will better understand the situation you are going through.
2006-09-09 14:56:33 · answer #4 · answered by universallaw1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's true at a time like this you really don't know what to say. But just simply, tell her that your praying for her and her family and be there for the family as much as you can, as far as babysitting
2006-09-09 14:31:54 · answer #5 · answered by Ms. Educated 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might not want to say anything, even more so if she is happy and 'doing ok'. You don't need to bring up the bad thought. If she is sad and unhappy, then feel free to say your sorry. And if she is open to the idea, share grandma stories....
2006-09-09 14:32:14 · answer #6 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tell her you are sorry you might make her feel sad and upset. You can see if she says anything to you and go from there.
2006-09-09 14:30:33 · answer #7 · answered by paulb264 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to say anything at all. You will make her think bad ofherself
2006-09-09 14:33:04 · answer #8 · answered by D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would be unpolite not to say anything try to be sympothetic but dont over do it
2006-09-09 14:31:35 · answer #9 · answered by Dannyboy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell it
2006-09-09 14:33:34 · answer #10 · answered by ~tay~tay~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋