I am softmore in college and am pregnant i got drunk and had sex with my ex. bf. my bf who is his best friend and i were on a break when it happened i told him and he as really mad at first and says he will stay with me because he loves me no matter what and understood it was not on purpose. i tried calling my ex. bf but his gf called me a liar and is threatening to put a restraining oder on me. what will i say one day to my child about what happened btw me and its father?
2006-09-09 07:23:45 · 16 answers · asked by jackie w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
should i ask my bf to tell my ex. bf?
2006-09-09 07:24:25 · update #1
sorry i mispelled sophomore
i go to brookdale community college thankyou very much!!
2006-09-09 08:06:24 · update #2
Dear, you have not even had the baby yet, so I think you have many more hurdles to cross before worrying what to tell your child. And remember, the father STILL HAS LEGAL RIGHTS to the child, so don't be surprised if he comes back into the picture down the road. And why oh why weren't you on the Pill? Rhetorical. By the way, it's sophomore NOT "softmore." Are you sure you are in college?
2006-09-09 07:28:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are apparently a smart young lady. After all you made it into college. So, PLEASE tell me why smart young ladies do not have the common sense to either abstain, or get a shot every three months to prevent unwanted pregnancy's?
I was young once too. As a matter of fact I had my daughter on my high school graduation day. That was 26 years ago, and we were not informed like you are today.
Sex is not just an activity. It was designed to be something special between a man and woman. I learned this lesson way to late in life. I hope you stop your destruct lifestyle now before you too have reason in the future to regret it.
I know your boyfriend says he will be there for you and the baby, and maybe he is a stand up guy and will be. But, you do not want him to feel resentment against the baby, and hurt all your lives.
Do you feel like keeping this child is the best thing for you and the child? If not, there are MANY adult men and women that are heart broken because they are unable to have children. Maybe adoption is something you want to think about. I am not saying it is what you should do, but please consider your options.
2006-09-09 07:39:44 · answer #2 · answered by wixom62 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when the baby is born have a paternity test done to make sure who the father is. I'm not saying that you don';t already know but this way you have proof. Then tell the ex that is for sure the father then let him deal with his gf. A good man will take the responsibly of being a dad. if not the man you marry should be the kind of person that you would want to help raise you child. then tell you child when the time is right age wise for the child the truth.
2006-09-09 07:30:17 · answer #3 · answered by kimj g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1 I seriously doubt that you are in college, for the simple fact, that you cannot spell correctly.
#2 Just *why* are you drinking during your pregnancy to the point where you've made an emotional mistake?
#3 Now *who* is the father of this precious human being? Your last boy-friend, or your present boy-friend?
#4 Girl, you are now *with-child*! You are carrying inside of your body a very special and precious human being, being knit together on purpose. Get a grip on your emotions. You are going to be a Mommy who will love, and treasure and cherish every moment of your baby's' future. Every fingernail, every sensation, every fatty roll. Do you not realize that your behavior now might predict your child's' future?
#5 Stay with and keep in close touch with family, and friends. Find a Mentor--someone who's *been there* who is willing to help and guide you towards a wonderful birth!
#6 Life is precious! Please don't create mistakes which could ruin your most precious gift---the life of your 'little own you'!
#7 Telling he, or him, isn't the issue right now. The issue is *your* frame of mind, towards *your own little 'ol you'. Please protect it with the very fiber of your being. Believe me, if you don't, you'll never forgive yourself!
2006-09-09 08:04:13 · answer #4 · answered by MilkWeed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth, and also, your ex bf has a right to be part of this child's life and an obligation to pay child support. Get an attorney.
2006-09-09 07:28:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi im so glad you have a boyfriend that is so understanding and s willing to look after you and your baby. You could get your boyfriend to tell him and just see what he says, if he doesnt want to have anything to do with the baby then your baby isnt worth knowing his real dad, if your boyfriend is willing to take the place of his father and look after him and care for him thats all he needs. And when your child is older just tell him the truth, he wont hate you for it as if you stay with your current boyfriend then he most likely consider him as his father and wont need anything else. My fiancee never new his real dad and i sort of know a bit of the situation, sort of.
2006-09-09 07:33:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell your child the truth and show her that it was a bad mistake and that you didn't mean to do this. Tell your child to not make the same mistake as you did. I think that this is what you should do.
2006-09-09 07:28:59 · answer #7 · answered by D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if you can get on the Jerry Springer Show. A "softmore"? What a stupid mess.
2006-09-09 07:27:30 · answer #8 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the truth.it's up to his man to step up .you will take care of the child so all you need do is be honest as you have been already. I think that you being honest with your b/f is good,
2006-09-09 07:29:35 · answer #9 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth.
2006-09-09 07:25:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋