My brother in-law had a baby 7 years ago and wanted nothing to do with her. Well now people are giving him crap about it. HE has a 1 year old now and is married to a misable *****. He wants to get a DNA test done now so he can prove she is not his. If she is he wants custudy of her if not he wants to rub it in everyones face that ever said anything to him about her. The little girl has had a bad life in the past and now lives with an Aunt and is happy and has a Dad who is not by brother in- law. It is not fight but can he do it legally??
2006-09-09 07:03:35 · 8 answers · asked by Micollette L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If he is proven to legally be the child's father then he can fight for custody but judges look at the best interests of the child. An absentee dad wouldn't have the best shot in the world at getting her if he hasn't wanted anything to do with her til now. I would tell him to get the DNA test done and then tell him to pay child support and only if he is serious about this child should he try to have a relationship with her. If he's just going to gloat, he has no business being in her life. It would only make things worse for the child. Being a father is more than just saying you're a dad. Every little girl wants to be a daddy's girl and if the child is happy now where she is, he should leave it alone.
2006-09-09 07:09:35 · answer #1 · answered by Southern Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brother in law has not had anything to do with his child for 7 years? Why does he think he should have any right to her now? She has a good life now, and apparently a father figure. Does he even pay child support?
In my opinion, this man needs to leave well enough alone and be a dad to his one year old. (If she is his) If she is not his, I suggest to him to get his life together before he gets himself into another relationship. I am not getting down on him, I have been there. It is better to get yourself straight, before you jump into another disaster.
If he has another child, make sure he wants it, and is willing to take the part of a responsible parent.
2006-09-09 14:18:59 · answer #2 · answered by wixom62 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he dont care about the girl if he waited 7 years to find out if she is his.and if she is well adjusted and happy where she's at, he should think about what it would do to HER if he does this to her. he can do it legally if he has a stable life & job and can show the courts it will be best for the girl to be with a dad that never wanted her before. why cant grownup fight their own battles without using the kids as the weapon of choice. selfcenter jerk!
2006-09-09 14:16:46 · answer #3 · answered by tundra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he can't just take her from her aunt even if he is the dad he hasn't been there for her in seven years. that would be so messed up,but good luck
2006-09-09 14:11:03 · answer #4 · answered by Rochelle w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he can, do the dna.. but if it aint broke, dont fix it... if she is happy with the aunt, leave her there, IMHO, he is an asshole! he needs to leave well enough alone! get the DNA,and leave her with ppl that love her!
2006-09-09 14:08:13 · answer #5 · answered by Dragonflygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is life in your side of the globe..
We do not worry about that here on our side
Sorry,, be happy ... good luck
2006-09-09 14:07:31 · answer #6 · answered by yulnores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes mabee but iwould ras hell it like my dad i never seen him if he tried to get costidy after 15 years i would rase hell
2006-09-09 14:08:48 · answer #7 · answered by jerod_perkins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
each case is different! only the courts can answer!
2006-09-09 14:06:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋