My wife says she loves me , but?

Question

she will go out to a club, and sleep around . Then she tells me about it.
Its like I want to know, then I dont . Really I do not get off on this at all . she just feels like she needs to tell me. She says she loves me but she likes being a slut .
I would get a divorce but we have kids . and I wont do that to them while they are young. What should I do?

Answer 1

If you want to stay for the sake of your young children, I commend you. I wish there were more men like you and less men like your wife.

I would stop sleeping with her if you haven't all ready and totally disconnect emotionally. I would be the best husband and dad I could be, but outside the home and the view of my kids, I would try to move on.

Answer 2

Ok well if your wife is sleeping around it's only fair to you to get out now.The kids will be upset(all kids are when divorce happens) but when they are older they will understand that it was for the best.What kind of life could your kids have if they learn that their mother sleeps around and their father is hurting.And eventually they will know.Kids are more perceptive than most people think especially when they are young.Besides if something should happen in court you have your wifes confession and you'll probably gain custody of the kids.which seems like the best possible solution.Good luck

Answer 3

Let me preface by saying that I'm not married, nor do I have children. But your children are learning from you and their mom how to be married, how to be mothers and fathers. If you think this is the example they should be given, to stay with a spouse even though they cheat, or that cheating is okay and can go without consequences, then do exactly what you're doing : nothing.

But if you want them to grow up with respect for the union of marriage, to be able to set good, solid standards for themselves in their relationships, then perhaps you need to reconsider whether staying together under these circumstances is really the best choice.

Good luck.

Answer 4

I understand you not wanting to divorce because of the kids, BUT do you want your kids to grow up and learn what their mother has been doing to their father? It's unhealthy for children to be involved in a bad marriage. There is less pain when the kids don't have to see two parent's not getting along. And if they are too young to understand then I think it would be easier for them now rather than when they are older.

Answer 5

Oh please, Do that to them. They will be forever thankful to you. You may have a chance to take those kids from her. She's not being a good role model for them. And definitely not a good wife to you. I am so so sorry to hear that you have to go through that. If you think back to the very beginning, you probably could have seen this all coming.

It will get worst. If you think there is a chance that she could and would change, then you guys better get to a good marriage councilor quick. I'll say a prayer for you. Just remember, don't stay there for the kids. That will back fire in your face later.

Answer 6

cardog buddy r u insane 2 put up with treatment? u need a divorce. staying 2gether 4 kids winds up hurting kids more. u think they can't feel differences in their parents. either she wants 2 b single or married. not sounding like she wants 2 b married. just someone 2 pay the bills so they can continue 2 play. maybe turn the tables, let her c what it is like from the other side. move on.

Answer 7

A kid would rather be from a broken home than be in a broken home-Dr Phil

First let's define the word love
A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness.

Does that sound like your relationship? I don't think so. She doesn't even try to hide her infidelities. It seems like she wants to hurt you. You need to understand that you deserve better. There is someone out there that will love you faithfully for who you are and also love your children. I hope you don't have girls. Do you realize your wife is teaching them to be ****s just like her. Even if you have boys, what definition of a good woman are they getting? Please take your children and get out. Fight for custody of them. Get proof of all she is doing so you can take it to court. Good Luck to you and your precious children.

Answer 8

Tell her that what she is doing is not right. If she loves you then she would not be running around and playing with other men for fun.

Also what she is doing will have a negative affect on her kids and you must explain to her that in time your kids will learn about what she has done and they will like her all the less.

I"m not realy shure how to aviod a divorce.......you kinda have to work it out with her........

Answer 9

Sleeping around and admits it? What a rare thing to happen. You have ammunition. You need to protect your children and your health. How do you know she isn't bringing something home that will affect YOU for the rest of your life?
Also, have you been faithful? Is she getting 'revenge'? Not condoning it, but if so, ya'll are in big trouble.

Answer 10

WHATEVER you do--please go get tested yourself NOW and make sure that she has not brought you a "gift that keeps on giving" so to speak!
I am heartbroken to hear that this is your treatment, and all I can say is that a good couple's counselor may help, if you can get her to go. I do not understand why any wife would want to hurt a husband that way--and in the end, she could not possibly feel better about herself for having behaved so.
Please think about my suggestion, and know that whatever you choose to do, it will become a blueprint for how your children will lead their lives in the future--many of us tend to replicate our parents' mistakes!
Good Luck, and May God Bless.