I'm thinking of the interior "you." The part that can be around people but yet is still alone; the part that is exclusive to you only. The place that you can share with others but no one can ever enter there.
I'm picturing someone dying who is surrounded by friends and family but yet this person is alone. Whatever happens during and after death, no one there can experience it but the person going through it.
(Not referring to loneliness)
Are you comfortable with this inner aloneness?
2006-09-09 06:37:03 · 24 answers · asked by .. 5 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
I can tell someone my thoughts or my experience and they may have similar thoughts and experiences but they can never see my thoughts or experience my experiences. Even if I'm with friends and loved ones after death I'm still alone---inside. Assuming i have some sort of "body" and I'm not transparent. hehe
2006-09-09 08:15:57 · update #1
I can relate what you were asking.
When my father-in-law was on his death bed, I can see the fear in his eyes. He knows his life is coming to an end, but he does not know what to expect next. He does not know where he will be going, and he will be doing this journey alone, no matter how many family members are surrounding him at that time.
It's different from walking into a posh restaurant, dining with no one, but alone. It's not too same too as driving along Alaskan highway alone.
In fact, every of our soul journey is a large amount of aloneness. By looking inwards, it is easier for us to adjust and acknowledge that. Because of what I have seen in my father-in-law's experience, I have really gave it a very good thought. I started to bring myself to this form of awareness. And I am sure when it's my time, I will confident and comfortable to face it.
2006-09-12 00:15:52 · answer #1 · answered by Pencil 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not sure if I understand u correctly, but I think we are all the same, with similar hurts, fears, insecurities and perceptions, BUT we like to think or are conditioned to think we are different, special, or unique. In fact, we are encouraged to think this for esteem reasons.
I agree we are alone when we die, and when we live, because we are the only ones experiencing things from our own point of view, however identical it might be to others who experience the same thing with the same feelings at a different time.
Am I comfortable with my aloneness? I have often felt outcast, or different in not fitting in, EVEN THOUGH I consciously recognize that others probably feel the same way. Nonetheless, my aloneness is compunded by MY feelinh, BUT the upside is that you get use to that.
Actually, I think you ask a tough but good question.
I lost a friend to suicide. She was alone in that she did this herself, I never felt what she felt, although I got the sense that she felt very much alone. My point is that like u said, we are ultimately alone. For anyone who doesn't believe that, think of your body. My ailments are not exactly like others, and vice versa. Our chemistry is not identical in measurements or balance, and organs are not exactly alike in wear. I mean the combination never matches perfectly.
I think I am comfortable with my aloneness, but my personality is not one that needs alot of people around, and maybe that influences my feelings.
However, if people were all "open" as I usually am, I trust we'd find alot more similarities than differences. Attend a self-help group and while yo are STILL alone, u will find others feel what u feel. Does this make your aloneness any better? I don't think so, BUT at least u know that you are not crazy.
I don't think aloneness, or this state of being has a remedy, or is it even a problem? good question.
2006-09-09 07:14:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It does not bother me .. Obviously on the surface I am a social creature .. but I can honestly say- the last five years or so- I have come to relish what I can get done on my own .. and it is a time that doesn't have "all this anxiety that I recall in periods of loneliness when I was young".. okay, I realise I hopped to loneliness a bit- but they have an octave of tying in with one another .. The inner "aloneness" may have vistas .. :D
2006-09-10 09:59:27 · answer #3 · answered by gmonkai 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am most comfortable in my aloneness.
On the material level i mean. Spending alone time is crucial for me to just recenter myself and rediscover that inner stillness, if only for a moment. I'm annoying to the people around me in those times when i am recharging my batteries and be really silent, in fact i'm very quite in life. I don't despise society, yet i ofte find the world to be too troubling,full of discord and it doesn't sit well with me. I'm one of those people who need to escape.
Spiritually , well i can accept that singularity is the natural state of man,.....probably explains why spending time alone is so important. To be able to listen to your inner self again i guess.
I'm pretty comfortable with that "aloneness " of which you speak. But a little afraid as well.
It's kind of beautiful in a sense.....it's almost as though we have a secret to keep , a secret we ourselves do not absolutely comprehend.
I hope that makes sense. I'm usually blabbering when answering your questions , i realise that. Sorry.
2006-09-11 05:56:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
aloneness is sometimes very beautiful, sometimes mischievous, sometimes a 'it'!
its what makes us what we are ~ unique & antique.
its the only thing which is a secret in itself, a mystery which when tried to solve reveals love, kindness & all other feelings, but still remains a puzzle to others & even thyself.
its what which never lets us really die, which leaves a mark wherever we go and makes us remembered even if we are not there. its the only finite definig infinite.
is it possible to be uncomfortable with such vastness, this simpilcity? I think not and have never been nor plan to either. but life is long, i haven't even lived 20% of it, so i am sorry i can be wrong. one thing the vastness has taught me 'nothing is impossible' :)
2006-09-09 21:40:42 · answer #5 · answered by Kelrec 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am very comfortable listening to my own thoughts and my stream of conscience. i enjoy spending tI'me alone. i am a fairly selfish individual and im just fine with that fact. i have an inner dialog that keeps me questioning and answering myself. i have a beautiful husband and a puppy that is only the greatest puppy ever, but i also have me, the me inside that only i know. i know all the bad and the good, the silly and the embarrassing. I'm cool with me.
2006-09-11 14:57:39 · answer #6 · answered by sabrina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely.
2006-09-09 06:42:08 · answer #7 · answered by worldneverchanges 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, actually I prefer to go through life alone then with someone else.
2006-09-09 07:21:17 · answer #8 · answered by hpotter4ever2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking am I comfortable with my essence, Yes.
I have been with people when they die. They are never alone, they are cognitive of others, loved ones who have past, that I can not perceive.
2006-09-09 06:43:43 · answer #9 · answered by Nora Explora 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm getting there. I've lost a lot of friends this year. They were all too young to die. It forces you to review your own life. My friends will not ever understand how I feel & why.
2006-09-09 06:45:33 · answer #10 · answered by shermynewstart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋