i loved my best friend which is a gurl. i wanted to be with her cuz all the dudes she has been with have hurt her. now she is back with the dude that hurt her the worst and says she is going out with him and that they are stronger then ever! i love her but i keep getting hurt by her! now ireally don't want to end our friendship but everytime i talk to her my heart just melts! it seems as though she doesn't want me but it hurts that i can't accept it! what should i do?
2006-09-09 06:32:19 · 3 answers · asked by truejdm_86 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
YOU NEED TO REALIZE THAT SHE COULD BE ANYBODY IN HER SITUATION, AND YOU WOULD FEEL THE SAME WAY.
YOU HAVE A SAVIOR COMPLEX, AND IT WILL GET YOU INTO TROUBLE.
THIS GIRL HAS ISSUES WITH MAKING EXCUSES FOR ALLOWING GUYS TO MISTREAT HER. YOU CANNOT FIX HER OR CHANGE HER. AND WHEN SHE DOES FINALLY COME AROUND AND STAND ON HER OWN TWO FEET, YOU WILL LOSE INTEREST BECAUSE SHE NO LONGER NEEDS YOU TO SAVE HER OR TAKE CARE OF HER.
"STRAY PUPPIES AND STRAY KITTENS." YOU ARE ATTRACTED TO THOSE IN NEED OR DISTRESS, EVEN IF IT IS OF THEIR OWN MAKING. IT SERVES YOUR EGO TO BE NEEDED, AND IT MAKES YOU FEEL POWERFUL.
REJECTION OF ANY TYPE HURTS. IS THAT WHY YOU ARE NOT ATTRACTED TO GIRLS WHO HAVE A HEALTHY SELF-CONFIDENCE, AND LACK ESTEEM ISSUES?
MOVE ON FROM HER AND LET HER MARINATE IN HER OWN JUICES. SHE CHOSE TO BE WHERE SHE IS, SO YOU SHOULD JUST RESPECT THAT AND MOVE ON.
MAYBE SOME DAY YOU WILL GROW ENOUGH SELF ESTEEM TO FIND A GIRL WHO DOESN'T NEED TO BE SAVED......
2006-09-09 06:43:00 · answer #1 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, realize that you HAVE TO accept it. If you ask her out 3x and she says no 3X, just forget it. Be friends if you can both handle it, otherwise just stay away from her. Find someone better. Maybe in time you can forget her, maybe not.
Also, your reason for wanting to be with her is not a good one.
good luck, beer works for that sometimes
2006-09-09 13:38:03 · answer #2 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is tell her how you feel honestly. She may not like it, but thats the way it is. She may want to keep you as a friend, which is understandable, but if doing so hurts you, she should be able to repect that.
2006-09-09 13:35:53 · answer #3 · answered by Chris D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋