I came home early from work and he and another guy were going at it really hard on the couch. I didn't let him see me so I left out the door very quietly. Should I say something to him?
2006-09-09 06:08:38 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
your "straight" roommate isnt so straight then, hes probably bi or gay but fears the disapproval of you and the other straight guys that are going to beat him senseless for being "gay." i would let it go and never mention it to anyone. if you feel that you cant just let it go just say something about that you came home earlier the other day and saw something happening but you arent sure what it was. let him explain himself but dont accuse him of anything and dont go running your mouth to everyone you know.
2006-09-09 08:31:01 · answer #1 · answered by Craig M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's probably not straight.
If the situation of him not being straight bothers you or changes the living environment you share- then I suggest you have a conversation with him not necessarily about the situation you found him in but about sexuality and relationships. This may bring up a conversation that may straighten out any questions you have about him but without making him feel uncomfortable- even if it is talking about yourself and your relationships first and then see if he confides in you. If you are uncomfortable with this then maybe just don't bring it up and see if after a few weeks it is less of an issue. If he is "just" your room mate then let his personal life stay his private business and mention to him that you think his bedroom would be best for any future relations.
2006-09-09 06:22:14 · answer #2 · answered by M C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may be an isolated incident as far as involving the common areas of your home. If this person is a true friend to you then in private, you might want to let him know that you accidentally saw him with his partner and that everything is "cool." If you have a problem with what you saw and your roommate, you might need to think of changing your living arrangements. But let's face the truth, we are all human beings which means that we have all either experimented or at the very least fantasized about having sex with someone of the same sex....including yourself if you can be that honest with yourself. Let your conscience be your guide.
2006-09-09 07:44:47 · answer #3 · answered by inet_guy_84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a situation which you need to let go if you can. I say if you can because he has violated your space. He presumably has a bedroom. The roommate should have been more discreet. He is not to know when you are coming home. If this plays on your mind and disturbs you, then you need to sit down and talk with him and tell him what you saw and make it clear what you think of it. Alternatively, if you feel you can let it go, then I suggest you do. Frankly, I think it's a pity you had to see it in your home.
2006-09-09 06:16:41 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wanted you to know he would have told you. Sometimes sexuality is a very hard thing to talk about even when you really are straight. The question you should be asking yourself is, is it safe to share the same shower, or toilet, or even do your laundry together? Who cares if he is striaght or not! But you need to be safe, with all the crap that's going around everywhere, your safety should come first. Hope this helps....Good luck!
2006-09-09 06:15:27 · answer #5 · answered by boohoo_29 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you caught your "straight male roommate" having sex with another man, he's not straight. Say something if you want, maybe in reference to if he's going to have company over to keep it in his own room and not the shared living space.
2006-09-09 06:26:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you want to talk about and think he does too. Why?
My hubby had a roommate (before we were married) who turned out to be bi and the poor guy was too embarrassed to admit it, even when his guy friend left a long, sexually oriented message on the answering machine for him. He became shyer after that, till he knew we were cool with him still. So if you are friends with your roommate, you might talk to him. If you have a problem, you should talk to him about it for that reason too.
Otherwise...I might keep quiet till he comes out.
2006-09-09 06:13:34 · answer #7 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-06 23:43:20 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the future, try calling him to let him know you're comming home earlier than expected...that way he can stop having sex in the common area of the house and go to his room, or somewhere else.
2006-09-09 09:01:04 · answer #9 · answered by PaPi X 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why? Who do you think you’re to do that?
If you only believe your friendship is close then you have to be bothered for his behaviour.
And on that case you even could ask for more......
Everybody has his sexuality and the freedom to play with it.
If you haven’t prejudice and homophobia, he still can be your mate.
2006-09-09 06:23:38 · answer #10 · answered by whole_feelings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋