not heard from him since junior high because his family moved away. We talked and it pretty much ended there, till 5 months later when he called and asked if i wanted to meet for lunch or dinner sometime as i had suggested. We met and talked again over the phone. We then made tenative plans to do something. The nite before he called and had to beg off cause a family reunion was that day and he had just been notified. He kept saying he didnt want to go alone all that way and i didnt volunteer to accompany him (figured he would ask if he wanted me to). We then made other tenative arrangements.That time no call and it turns out he went with a friend somewhere.We did meet once after that and he asked if i wanted to take a day to travel north checking out the sites and go fishing sometime. He then lost his dog and I made posters for him and dropped them off at his house.At that time he asked me to stay for dinner, but I had other things to do.Havent heard anything more whats up with this?
2006-09-09 06:00:32 · 4 answers · asked by L E. G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First, regarding the passing of your sister, let me say that I'm sorry for your loss.
Next, I believe the others have captured the essence of the guy in question: it certainly seems a relationship with that guy would only hurt you in ways and on levels that you can't yet begin to imagine.
If he returns and attempts to get in touch with you, he's either doing it on purpose or he's doing it because of a character flaw that he can't control; either way is bad.
In the former case, he knows he's going to hurt you, and either he wants to or he doesn't care; in the latter case, he's not capable of appreciating the harm he does, and therefore cannot hold for you any genuine sentiment.
You seem to be a really great person that's been through an awful tragedy -- and no matter how strong you personally feel, there has been some hurt.
I can't tell for sure whether you're at the stage that admitting the hurt is better than ignoring it: we each have our own mechanisms for dealing with difficult circumstances and for recovering from the wounds we receive in the battle of life.
Regardless, I hope that you can move on to healthy relationships with people that aren't carrying with them the sort of baggage that describes the fellow you identified as your first grammar school boyfriend.
Peace, joy, love and happiness to you.
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2006-09-14 18:02:13 · answer #1 · answered by wireflight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called "the end".
2006-09-09 06:02:56 · answer #2 · answered by mad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a PLAYER!! No good can come out of that relationship!!
2006-09-09 06:05:20 · answer #3 · answered by lariat_sonata 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget about him and move on. If he was truly interested, he would be purusing you a bit more agressively.
2006-09-09 06:15:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋