she wants a divorce based on her "feelings"
is this a sound decision ????
2006-09-09 05:47:59 · 14 answers · asked by lordfatrat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
All people's feelings are theirs, they own it. Nobody can change that, it is what it is. It is what is happening or not happening in your marriage that these feelings are based upon, right or wrong, that is how she feels. Is it based upon that you guys have tried to work things out for years?Gone to counseling?Talked to one another about your gut feelings and tried to work it out, but can't? Does one or both of you have past issues that you need to seek seperate counseling and get support from friends and family to make things work out? Something like this, unless it is a situation of somebody cheating on somebody, somebody using and continuing to abuse drugs/alcohol/sex/gambling, etc, doesn't happen overnight. It is something that has been underlying in your marriage probably for awhile. So if you want her, if you want things to change, to be together, than do something about it!!!!She obviously has these feelings, for a reason! I would have you guys go back and revisit why you wanted to be married in the first place, try to rekindle what was there and could be there again, depending upon how much both of you want it. Also are there any physical issues, as you both may need to have a good physical? Are there chemical imbalances, mental health issues that are going on that need to be addressed? There are lots of people who are out there, who can help you both, if you want it. It takes two for the marriage to work, but no matter what, feelings are what they are, and she has the right to feel what she wants. Now it is up to both of you, to listen to one another's feelings and do something about it if you don't want to head to divorce court! It is a lot of work ahead of you but it can be very worthwhile if you still love one another, if kids are involved, if you have a foundation that has been built on love............my heart goes out to both of you. Good luck!
2006-09-09 06:08:44 · answer #1 · answered by Laurie S 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
YES it is a sound decision if that is what she want s to do. It is probably something that she has thought about for along time. I know when i made the decision i thought about for a few years before i finally decided to leave. It has been the best thing for both of us.
2006-09-09 06:59:28 · answer #2 · answered by kimj g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHE obviously needs to LEAVE -- because you are a CONTROLLING and Manipulative skunk that is trying to DEMEAN her and DISRESPECT HER by saying she does not have the right or ability to trust her "Feelings" on the relationship.
She has the ability to "Feel" that the relationship is NOT going anywhere --
She has the ability to "Feel" that you are involved in an extramarital affair -- after all, what evidence have you left for her to find? E-Messages, Instant Messages, Text Messages, repeat Phone calls (from cell or home) to another's residence, disappearing and then showing back up, finding things in the vehicles that are DEFINITELY not hers, etc etc etc.
She has the ability to "Feel" she is being ABUSED, CONTROLLED, or Manipulated! She can KNOW that she is surviving Verbal, Mental, Emotional, Financial, Sexual, Physical or any other form of abuse. NO ONE deserves to be Abused, Assaulted, Controlled or Manipulated.
YES -- it is a SOUND and SANE and MENTALLY HEALTHY Decision to LEAVE the Marriage -- and she is CORRECT and RIGHT and should do it NOW!
2006-09-09 06:11:44 · answer #3 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Depends on what those "feelings" are. Feelings of what exactly?
If it's feelings that he's cheating, I would say get a more tangible proof to back those feelings up cause feelings alone won't hold up in court. If it's feelings of she doesn't love him anymore, then sure...what's the point in staying in the marriage if she doesn't feel she loves u anymore. If it's just any other feelings, then I would have to say
work it out first before heading to divorce court.
2006-09-09 05:52:57 · answer #4 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
convinced. some boastful, domineering Godless "Christian" adult men have perverted the note "put up" interior the Bible. The Bible tells husbands to put up to their husbands, too. Husbands are to love their better halves as Christ loved the church and died as an option to the church. God under no circumstances stated husbands were to be a father figure to their better halves. they're to be equivalent companions putting the welfare of one yet another because the optimal priority. they're to serve God and help one yet another and use their God given skills for Him and for the different and their households. God stated those who lord over others were no longer godly. those who were the servants of others the position the great in His kingdom. What lady ought to be degraded and married to a domineering authoritarian condescending father figure? would that make her sense loved or opt to furnish love in go back? No. even as God says to put up on your husband it potential he's your excellent priority after your courting to God. those sorts of human beings are misogynists and use faith as an excuse.
2016-10-15 23:44:10 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no not at all try to talk it out it's worth it if you can save it but you must try a little times are hard now days it's all about money stay with it good luck to both of you
2006-09-09 05:57:17 · answer #6 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Divorce is a sin so il say no
2006-09-09 10:17:25 · answer #7 · answered by I Hate Liberals 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
SURE, WHY NOT?
ALL PEOPLES' FEELINGS ARE LEGITIMATE, EVEN IF YOU DON'T AGREE OR UNDERSTAND THEM.
IF YOU REFUSE TO ACCEPT OTHER PEOPLES' FEELINGS, THEN YOU LACK EMPATHY AND DON'T DESERVE TO BE MARRIED TO HER.
WHO ARE YOU TO JUDGE THEM, ANYWAY? WHO ARE YOU TO MAKE HER DECISIONS FOR HER?
IF I WERE HER, I WOULD LEAVE YOU NOW. I WOULDN'T WAIT AROUND, WAITING FOR YOU TO TELL ME HOW I CAN OR CAN'T FEEL, AND WAITING FOR YOU TO DECIDE FOR ME, HOW I AM GOING TO LIVE MY LIFE AND WHAT DECISIONS YOU WOULD MAKE FOR ME......
YOU ARE A NARCISSISTIC FOOL. YOU WILL END UP ALONE, ALWAYS.
2006-09-09 05:54:18 · answer #8 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
if she is "feeling" like he is cheating then yes!
if she is "feeling" like the relationship isnt going anywhere then yes! sometimes "feelings" are the only things that matter
and sometimes men seem to have no "feelings"
2006-09-09 05:52:02 · answer #9 · answered by summer_lebowski 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
no you should tell her her feelings mean nothing and you will tell her what she needs to feel Grow a pair Be a man you little mouse
2006-09-09 05:51:22 · answer #10 · answered by Wondering If ? 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋