We both don't have interest in girls,we are almost seeing each other almost everyday and very closed as we flirted each other (no sex had happened)Both of us are not coming out yet! I think we like each other but we both hesitated to talk about it for a serious relationship!What is the best thing to do?Please help!!
2006-09-09 05:31:49 · 16 answers · asked by gabriel s 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Slow, Gabriel, Slow! I don't know how old you are, but you sound young. Good friends are not always easy to find. Take the relationship day by day. There will come a time when the situation will correct itself. Moving too fast may result in the loss of a best friend. If you are already in your late teens or twenties and you are aware that you yourself are gay. perhaps you should just come out to him and see how he takes the news.
From the time I was 4 until I reached my late teens, my best friend and I were inseparable. I knew I had feelings for him that were very strong, but I also know now, that if I had come on to him, I would have lost him as a friend. (He eventually got married and has a beautiful family) Later when I did come out to him, he was able to accept the news and we are still friends to- day. (55 years later - lol)
So I guess what I am saying is, that if you are both young teenagers, don't force the issue to strongly. If you are older more mature, I would suggest you come out to him and if he is as good a friend as you say, you will keep him as a friend. (unless he wants to take the relationship to a new level which is even a better result!)) In any event, I wish you all the best and good luck.
2006-09-09 06:25:13 · answer #1 · answered by roqofages 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two options: Either have a serious talk about your feelings for each other or just go with the flow. If the moment seems right, someone make a move. It's up to you to decide which way to go. Take some time and think about what would happen as a result of the each choice. Best of luck!
2006-09-09 06:29:04 · answer #2 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually that's pretty odd since I was in teh same situation in high school. This guy in my french class and I would always flirt and make sexual plays on words. I specifically remember when the professor asked us to say will you study with me, and he asked will you study me. It seemed pretty subtle, but we continued playing with that. Little by little it progressed and soon we delved into more personal questions and if we thought so-and-so was hot or not then we started asking from girls to guys, and then he wanted to have sex. Of course I couldn't floow through at that time, but I have to say the best way is usually the slowest, and sometimes the toughest. Just be there for him as a friend first and just let relationship take its natural course.
2006-09-09 07:23:54 · answer #3 · answered by laydlo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, darling. Sounds to me that you have a love jones for your best friend. Take it slow, dearie. If something special does happen, make sure you're both protected. Why don't you guys go to lunch and take a walk in the park or the beach? Be careful and good luck!
2006-09-09 10:16:42 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you both should go out for the weekend (just both)to see if he makes a move first because if u make a move and his really just beeing a silly dorky friend then the friendship would get ruined. Best Luck!
2006-09-09 05:36:04 · answer #5 · answered by lv2bnpr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even I would the same thing with my best friend, withtout feeling anything deep towards him. In such case, I would give it time for things to work out on us. Meaining just remain friends, and if later on we've something for each other, we go ahead and share it, and we take it from there.
2006-09-09 05:45:05 · answer #6 · answered by Mstislav 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you guys sound young
just enjoy your friendship for now, and go with the flow
what will be will be
if you are dead serious about him though, maybe go for a nice meal and then a walk along the beach and you never know what could happen!
2006-09-09 05:34:05 · answer #7 · answered by ☺Everybody still loves Chris!♥▼© 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it like it is for now, if something happens then there you go. If you enjoy the things the way they are now, why change it.
2006-09-09 05:43:28 · answer #8 · answered by Brad B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
omigod, I think both of you are young, my advice: talk frankly between you two and then bang afterwards, if you two like each other then any other thing is not important...
2006-09-09 16:14:44 · answer #9 · answered by apernett 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay friends, and support each other. As you grow older, you'll KNOW what to do.
2006-09-09 08:41:42 · answer #10 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋