After 16 years of marriage he decides he doesn't love me. Fell inlove with someone new over the holiday weekend and wants nothing to do with me. How do i begin to heal...will I ever have a second chance at love?
2006-09-09 05:28:10 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you and I can have a rebound fling - that might make you feel better.
J/K... sorry to hear about that.
do you have kids? if so, this is a good opportunity to reconnect or connect on a different level with them.
You could also take up something to distract yourself from thinking about it so much. Like, dance classes or something that you've always found interesting or wanted to try.
this will also get you mingling with people of like interests and possibly lead to new friendships.
[just dont go alcoholic on everyone you know]
2006-09-09 05:38:48 · answer #1 · answered by AJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-06 04:21:04 · answer #2 · answered by Crystal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing is first, Slap a smile on that face and take a deep breathe and realize the outcome of the solution. Look at your brand new options. In order to heal, i reommend do not think about the good times, think about the things that made you sad and pissed you off about him. You may feel as though 16 years is a long time which is probably right but in all honesty he gave you 16 years of experence good or bad he shared part of your life. Thank him for everything he has done for you (good or bad) and focus on a new YOU. It wouldn't hurt if you involed the good Lord to help you out. Take care and I believe you can get through this. Second chance at love, to tell you the truth the first time wasn't love, because if it was he would still be with you and not make you feel like dirt. Take your time and do not be in a hurry to find a new love. He will find you, and for all you know it could be him. Wanting your forgiviness, becareful when that happens. Cause it will happen
2006-09-09 05:41:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From personal experience, I can share with you that the hurt is to your heart. Your heart is where your tender spirit resides, so the damage has been to your spirit.
Find the place that will help heal your heart.
I promise that it will not be a refuge that contains pain, hurt, resentment, revenge, or bitterness!
(For me it was a wonderful, loving, kind, and ministering new church home, and a Pasor's wife who took me into her care
for a spell),
the love of a women's prayer group,
new folks who were looking for someone else to love
outside of themselves!
Always remember that LOVE multiplies, it is never devisive!
So the more you can multiply your own love for God, yourself, your friends, your family...the less room there will be for hurt, resentment, pain, regret and all the things that hurt you but never harm your former husband.
I pray that you will recover more quickly than I did, and the process does go on -- nothing is overnight.
Be good to yourself.
Challenge yourself to come out on the other side a bigger and stronger person on the inside! You can do it!
I am cheering for YOU!!!!
Bless your heart, and your spirit!
All the best, now and always, Susie
2006-09-09 06:29:29 · answer #4 · answered by susieque 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing I had was family.family time helps the healing processes.Talk to close friends and family and when you start getting a little more comfortable start going out.And yes you will get a cecond chance make sure when you start feeling better that you find things to do that puts you in a social atmoshphere.Remember it gets better.you might look back on this one day when things are better and be glad things went the way they are,I never thought I would but if I look back now I am glad I got my divorce .I am with someone else and my life is better .I hope I have helped in some way.If you need to talk dont be affraid .My exhusband was mean and mentally hard to deal with
2006-09-09 05:34:00 · answer #5 · answered by deedee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes Chula you will have a second chance at love.It is not common but you just will.Just remeber that what you had was good while it lasted but now you can move on and find another person that will love you forever.In life I believe that we have more than one person that is meant for us we just dont meet them until our hearts need love the most.Try not to forcus on what happend but think off it like this I'm free now let's go see what's on the line!Good luck!
2006-09-09 05:34:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes vengeance can be a good step on the road to healing. Get a good lawyer and clean his clock! And yes, there is always a second chance at love.
2006-09-09 05:35:45 · answer #7 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never expected to fall in love after my marriage died. I did though, and you probably will too. My life now is great. My wife and I have been married for 14 years, and I'm happy. I would never have met my wife, unless my ex had destroyed my marriage. Certainly, changes in our lifes hurt, and are scary. Heck, I was married for 18 years, and never cheated, and never worried about my wife. I was wrong. But, life has gone on. Yours will too. I wouldn't want my ex back, if she were the last woman on Earth. Build a new life for yourself, and forget the loser you married.
2006-09-09 06:45:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Your pathetic. I would have got rid of you too. You should have seen it coming. You were probably so wrapped up in yourself that you never saw the signs or cared to notice. Your a very selfish person and deserve to be alone. Love is for lovers. You said after 16 years of marriage or do you mean 16 years of prison. If some girl could come and take him that easily. Then he really never was yours.
2006-09-09 05:34:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
yes you will know you are hurt vary bad it will take time don't stay home go out get a pet to love a lot of things you can do but you have to do it not sit and rot when she left me it hurt so life go's on it's hard i know in time you will get over it sorry for you it hurts more because he left you for the other one we will call her the rat hope it works out for you good luck to you
2006-09-09 05:44:18 · answer #10 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋