do you think thats a good thing or bad? i mean being a male in a muslim society, i couldnt bare to think that my wife has slept with another man. it would give me nightmares and i would feel dirty if i had known she slept with another man. sucked his **** etc.. yukk.. so am i lucky to be a muslim and expect my wife to be "clean" in all respect.? i must say that i am no virgin. i wouldnt expect a girlfriend i was with not be a virgin becaus i know that i am just chilling with her and no matter what, i wouldnt marry her. come on guys and girls what do you think.. are we muslim males the lucky ones or are we asking for too much..?
2006-09-09 04:39:06 · 36 answers · asked by aladinscaves 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i understand wat you mean. all religions say no sex before marriage.. thats the way it should stay. we the society are forgetting gods laws and making our own. this is wrong. at least you muslims still have a little religion left in your hearts.
2006-09-09 05:33:10 · answer #1 · answered by amibothered111 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not lucky. Any man can choose to marry a virgin but for you it is a requirement. No man ever HAS to marry a woman another man has touched. If you ever do fall in love with a woman who has been raped or who made a mistake once, you will just have to live your life without her.
I'm not sure where you got the idea that Muslims must marry a virgin. There is a very strong history of Muslims marrying widows and I'm sure that not all of them came from unconsummated marriages like Muhammed's wives. The prohibition is more about false advertising. It is unfair to pay top dollar for a bride and find that she is not what her father promised.
2006-09-09 04:46:33 · answer #2 · answered by Kuji 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being a british asian I understand you and I agree with you. I am in the same position and guys will be guys regardless. I couldn't marry a woman who was not a virgin yet being a guy you expect to sleep around.
In a way we are quite lucky being in this country because it's easy to get sex where as in asia most women are religous and you know that you wont get anything.
My point is what is a man supposed to do when women are too easy in this country? Loads of asian guys at uni do this. They **** around and marry a virgin to keep family respect and you cant blame them - thats just natural.
I have to say a lot of asian girls being brought up here are slags as well but that must be the british influence. I know if you were living in India or Pakistan you would not have this debate.
Anyway I would not worry about it know but you should do what I do and that is too keep good with your family become a top professional and marry a decent woman - all indian values and you need to belive that is how you should be living.
As you start to get more focus in your life and start getting rid of the rubbish thats around you just remember the core principles.
I hope that helps you. A asian friend of mine who was really a player with women and now married for 5 years helped me go through what your going through so I thought I should pass the message onto you.
2006-09-09 11:03:07 · answer #3 · answered by Siu02rk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you'll have alot of trouble finding a virgin these days, especially if you include no bjs in that. But if that is how you feel then I guess it's lucky for you that you are Muslim. I do not agree with this or the other ways women are treated in the Muslim society, but that is my personal belief. If you were a virgin yourself I could get behind it a little more as a personal belief, but you are holding you future spouse up to a standard that you can't meet yourself. That's not right.
2006-09-09 04:57:15 · answer #4 · answered by benjis.girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say yuk about her having intimacy with another male and even have nightmares---but seem very complacent about the fact that you have done the same and will not carry virginity to the marriage.
So is she not supposed to have any negative feelings about your affaires? Are not the women you are chilling out with, going to be someone else's wives some day? So what right do you have to add to their future husband's yuk feelings and nightmares?
You are not lucky my muslim male---you are just a hypocritical prig that gives the male gender such a disgusting reputation.
If you are a modern educated youth of today----no matter the religion---it is time to take stock of your bigotted thinking, your one-sided traditional expectations and the fools paradise you live in. Just like you are sowing your wild oats so are alot of your muslim girls----but silently and undercover because your society requires them to be virgins----or face the "yuks" from the likes of you.
2006-09-09 04:48:20 · answer #5 · answered by itsmehuh 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well, I don't know that much about muslim's, but why shouldn't your "wife" expect the same from you? What gives you the right to go and sleep around and not her? Yes, you're asking for too much especially nowadays. Just b/c you're a muslim male doesn't mean you shouldn't show a woman proper respect. If you want your wife to be"clean" as you call it, you should give her the same respect and stay clean for her.
2006-09-09 04:45:41 · answer #6 · answered by lonely_dove04 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please try to catch up with the developments in this world, Muslim boy. Which Muslim girl these days is a virgin anyway since you have already admitted you are not what makes you think that you deserve one?
Insentive jerk. Think about it this way, how would your wife feel if she knows you have slept with another girl? It would give HER nightmares and SHE would feel dirty if SHE had known YOU slept with another woman. licked her c**t etc..
2006-09-09 04:44:13 · answer #7 · answered by floozy_niki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why is it OK for you to not be a virgin, but you want a virgin wife? How is that any different? You know it doesn't make sense, why do you continue?
By the way, when you get married, there is no way a doctor can even tell if your wife is a virgin.
2006-09-09 04:43:11 · answer #8 · answered by mollyneville 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So where do all these women come from that you 'use' before you're married ?
About time men like you stopped living in the middle ages and entered the 21st century.
Women are people too and enjoy sex, just not with men with your attitude.
This shows a real fear of being compared to other men in the bedroom stakes.
Makes me wonder just how bad you fear you are if you're this paranoid about possible comparisons.
2006-09-09 05:18:18 · answer #9 · answered by CeeVee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Muslims are taught to respect women for the most part and dont use sentances like suck a d...! A real man would accept a woman irregardless, and since there is no TRUE way to determine if one is a virgin or not, you are just going to have to take her word for it.
2006-09-09 04:42:25 · answer #10 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being Muslim is a big price to pay for maintaining a stone-age definition of marriage.
Frankly, I don't know why you'd want any of that, if that's what you get from being Muslim. Having a partner who is my equal is preferable to popping her cherry the first time.
Get over your Muslim self. No self-respecting decent Western woman would put up with your crap.
2006-09-09 04:45:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋