Did you remarry? Separated and almost divorced, wondering what I have to look forward to in the companion department. Thanks.
2006-09-09 04:20:47 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
why wouldnt you ... you still have a lot of love left so share it with someone
2006-09-09 04:25:42 · answer #1 · answered by canibus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES !!!
Love always abounds
There is lots to look forward to , 1st you will fiend
a new perspective on life , a new value to appreciate
and as the hurt subsides and the ache dulls \
you will find YOU !!
A good person , some one that YOU would want as a Friend
Then you will re find Love .
My wife left 3 times starting when i was 37
the 3rd time never to return I was 39
we divorced 3 yrs later
meanwhile as a separated single parent and a working man
I had started dating
at 43 yrs old I Found love AGAIN ,
it took me some time
been 3 1/2 yrs now since I remarried
the Love grows in small amounts even now , daily we get closer
Fret not LOVE is out there !!!
D.G.
ps. go slow
2006-09-09 04:39:06 · answer #2 · answered by debugger1999 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad so many people on here found love again. But I'm not sure I believe in love anymore. I have been a single dad of a young child since my divorce in 2002. I have dated a few women in the last 4 years but I just have not felt that spark again. I don't know if I have just not met " The One " or if I will ever be able to trust another woman again. Plus the women that are my age (46) don't seem to want to be with a man raising a young child ( 8) and if I have to choose one or the other, I will always choose my child. I do miss having a special woman in my life but I guess you can't have it all. Maybe you will be one of the lucky ones..for your sake, I hope so. Life is different now but it's still good and I have the one good thing that came out of a bad marriage, my beautiful daughter.
2006-09-09 06:13:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gave up on that love stuff long before the wife left. No I did not remarried. I won't either. I have lived with several sense. Liked all of them and still do. I have my life and I live it the way I want. when a woman wants to change me then it is time for her to go. The one here now has been with me eleven years now so I think this time it will last. She does not try to make me into what I am not. I am the same with her. I help her as she does me. She does not like some things about me and I am the same with her. We both overlook those things and do very well. First and foremost we like each other. So much better than what is called love. Most people should use the word lust in place of the word love. For most it is lust and not love. Absolutely nothing wrong with lust as long as people know that is exactly what it is. Enjoy life and keep trying.
2006-09-09 04:36:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I divorced at 42 I had been with the same man for 24 years. I wasn't sure I even knew how to have a date - much less that anyone would be interested in someone my age. Let me tell you - there are a lot of men out there who are VERY interested in older women. I dated two guys that were as much as 12 years younger. They commented on how refreshing it was to date someone who was established in life and didn't play the "games" that younger women play. Get out there and do what it takes to meet people, Take some time to improve yourself physically - exercise, get a new haircut, etc. No - you can't compete with the twenty somethings anymore - but who wants to!
By the way - I did remarry. I met a wonderful man who is incredibly handsome and six years younger than me. We have been VERY happily married for 10 years now.
Go for it!
2006-09-09 05:01:35 · answer #5 · answered by arkiemom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really hope so. I am 40, and I am in the process of preparing for a divorce. I am looking forward to a life after this, I pray to God hat there is something better, there has to be. I am not sure if I would like to marry again, but I am sure that there is a possibility. I would hate to think that I wasted my beauty and youth on something as miserable as what I have or had. There are several people at my job, whom I supervise, who are older than myself, they have re-married, if that provides you any hope. Look around God is so good, he is simply wonderful. I have faith that this is only the beginning, and I am sure that there is something out there for you. Stay encouraged!!!, Do not rush, look for the good. Check out this website: www.jeweldiamondtaylor.com
2006-09-09 04:29:53 · answer #6 · answered by Happy1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I left my first husband in 1995 and it was the best thing I ever did for myself. Our ten year marriage was a total disaster and very painful for me (due to his betrayal, among other things) and until I left him, I truly thought I was dying inside. I was 39 when I left and got divorced officially in 1996, a few months after I turned 40.
I dated three men over the course of about 4 years, and while none of them were perfect for me and had their own issues, they taught me what I wanted in life - an honest relationship based on friendship and deep abiding respect. I had a few disastrous blind dates, as well and was hurt at times. Men were threatened by my success (I owned my own house, made good money, etc), and some were so superficial they thought that a woman in her 40's was OLD. I was younger in spirit than they were!
But it was all good in the end. In March of 2000 I decided to join an online dating club, something I NEVER imagined I would do. I am a native New Yorker so I was always suspicious of these things, but it turned out to be the best thing I ever did. A few weeks after joining I met the man who would become my second husband. Our connection was INSTANT and we were bonded. We talked about everything under the sun, wrote long emails about our lives and had a lot in common. Honestly, I knew more about him in a month's time than I ever knew about my first husband throughout the duration of our relationship, which was 12 years altogether (2 years dating, plus ten years married)!
He moved in my house in May and September 16th, 2000 we married in our back yard. My friends and family thought I lost my mind - I have never been an impulsive sort so they were worried that I was being used or that I was desperate to be with someone. I wasn't. I knew what I wanted (but yes, we both had each other investigated to make sure we were for real) and so did he. We are each other's soul mates and best friends.
We have proven the naysayers wrong, thankfully. Our lives are rich and full. We have our issues but we can work them through sensibly and sanely, and we operate from the position of honesty. There is no b.s. between us. I am happy I took the risk.
So yes, you can find love again and it can be lovely. The one additional comment I have to make is this: I HAVE no regrets for my first marriage. I do not hate my ex husband at all, nor do I hate the men I dated after my divorce. They all taught me a lot about myself and what I needed, and without being with them I never would have met my second husband.
Best wishes in your life and here's to finding what you seek!
2006-09-09 04:41:22 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet Pea 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Am thinking about it...but thinking about getting some help to FIRST knock some of the kinks out of myself so I'll be a more attractive package to offer the next fellow. I have severe obsessive-compulsive-disorder, and am sort of hard to live with, apparently, if the other person is obssessively sloppy and UNorganized, which is what finally burned me out after 22 years of picking up after my other Mister! I am also taking time to learn what it is that makes ME happy, because I have spent a lifetime trying to to make OTHERS happy, solve their problems and meet their needs...and that is what left me 40 years later feeling left out of the loop of Life....never felt like anyone cared about me as much as I cared about them...ended up feeling sorta not too worthwhile. Couldn't do enough for anyone, really. I understand a lot of folks get to feeling this way, but I did not want to carry this silliness into a new relationship. Am allowing time for some healing. In direct answer to the question, however, you bet your bottom dollar that there are plenty of folks out there who are looking forward to being in relationship with someone wonderful!
Good Luck and May God bless you in your journey!
Remember, Life was designed with YOU in mind!
2006-09-09 06:48:37 · answer #8 · answered by susieque 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Also, I would imagine divorcing after the age of 40 would make it much easier to find love as you no longer have any faith in it so your expectations are much lower.
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2016-05-17 11:46:28 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
their is a lot of us out their thy come to find you 40 is not old not at all good to you
2006-09-09 04:53:57 · answer #11 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋