we started going 2gether 5 years ago got married in november last year and 10 weeks ago he moved out and went back to his mums we have had no contact as he has changed his moblie number and his mums house number
2006-09-09 04:18:51 · 27 answers · asked by tell his wife i did 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
then i found out that he was going with someone else in our work who was married with two children i have since leaved my job because of this
2006-09-09 04:32:34 · update #1
Looks like someone had second thoughts. Maybe give him a little time and see if he comes back and explains himself. After that, you should see about annulment or divorce.
2006-09-09 04:27:04 · answer #1 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no real way of answering this question as both of you are total strangers to me.
I sympathise with you being in this situation but can offer no help.
I'm in the autumn of my years and have known a number of women over the years. Thinking back I can only say that I have no idea why any of them found me attractive in the first place or broke up with me when they left.
All you can do is wait for time to heal the wound and look for someone else to be a part of your life.
2006-09-09 12:05:29 · answer #2 · answered by CeeVee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there's your answer.
He doesn't want to be married to you anymore and would rather pursue this other person. Why? Who knows..he's the only one who can provide that answer for you.
I'm sorry you're going through this. I really don't know how you should go about this...there's so many paths you could take.
*Wait and give him space. Let him come to you when he's ready.
*Call his mothers number and see if she will be willing to provide some information.
*Enroll in marriage counselling, even if that means you're the only one that is attending right now.
*Get this divorce papers ready.
I really dont know but those are your choices.
Good luck!
2006-09-09 12:04:27 · answer #3 · answered by my_lil_buttercups 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he felt suffocated in a 'commitment' maybe he wasn't ready for marriage. But you what? He is the LOSER- big time. Many men are like that...they don't know what it means to have responsibilities and commitments...they get 'scared off' easily.
What you need to do is be strong n get on in life..and yes he may come back to you when he discovers that, after all, he cant be happy with a lady who is married with 2 kids. Don't make the mistake of taking him back!
You must move on. Don't try to get in touch with him. Think of it as 'good riddance to bad rubbish'
2006-09-11 04:19:52 · answer #4 · answered by gorgeeous 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound like a nasty piece of work not to even has the decently to let you know and he is prepared to throw it away without trying move on with your life and get divorce proceeding started as if you take him back he might do it later along the line say when you are pregnant he is afraid of commitment or he has met someone else happen to 2 people i know both have moved on and with lovely supportive partners both were pregnant when when their partners walked out on them. good luck I'm sure you will find someone who wants you and loves you and won't break your heart.
2006-09-12 10:13:14 · answer #5 · answered by Nic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have had a lucky escape from this one. He obviously couldn't take the responsibility or like the idea of being tied down to one woman. He has cut off all contact because he is scared. I would get a good divorce solicitor and try and put it down to experience, then move on.
2006-09-09 13:06:37 · answer #6 · answered by GaryUKB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't seem like you learned very much about him in 5 years. In that amount of time, there were clues that this was coming all over the place, but you decided to ignore them. Tell us what those clues were. If you have no idea, you don't need to be dating until you take your blinders off.
2006-09-09 11:24:13 · answer #7 · answered by adamsjrcn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you messing around and he caught you and did not say anything just left? Maybe he was cheating! Were you guys fighting alot?
In any case file for a divorce on grounds of abandonment and move on. He for some reason does not want to be there.
2006-09-09 11:23:29 · answer #8 · answered by hummingbird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well a man like that is not worth worrying about. If I were you I would just stay strong,find a hobby,go out with friends and get over him. Do not show him that you care. Have fun.
2006-09-09 11:47:23 · answer #9 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pressure
2006-09-09 15:00:36 · answer #10 · answered by Caroline T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋