he always abese me, shout on me. spread his things here and there, broke everything, throw things etc.etc.
2006-09-09 04:11:13 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Take him to counseling .. sounds like he has a hard time expressing his emotions ant there fore he is using another form to express it. In addition, find another source to allow him to release his anger - maybe karate (it takes a lot of discipline)
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-09 04:15:39 · answer #1 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Testosterone poisoning run rampant.
Boys can be like that - depending on how they were brought up and depending on the group they are hanging out with. It doesn't happen overnight and you aren't going to fix it overnight.
He needs to understand that he needs to respect you and YOU need to be sure that you are someone that is worthy of that respect. Too many parents just expect respect but do abosolutely nothing to warrant it.
Set down ground rules - for both of you - and stick with them. Consistancy is absolute key. Let him know that you will not tolerate bad behavior. There should be no shouting, quarreling, bad language, thowing things and idle threats. Draw up a contract of a sort and put in there the types of behaviors that you are BOTH going to strive for to make your home a better place to be. You are the adult, it is your home and that is essentially the bottom line.
If need be, get counseling on how to deal with him - you might be able to get a referral through the school counselor. You may have to do some "tough love", but I would try the other routes first. He may need counseling, as well. If so, do whatever it takes to get him there.
At the age of 14, it is going to be extremely difficult, but like I said, this didn't happen overnight.
2006-09-09 04:22:44 · answer #2 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes kids that have been hit too much can act like this. A lot of times, kids that are acting angry all the time don't feel any love from the people around him. Does he feel wanted, safe and loved? If so, then he might be acting like this because of puberty and you should be patient but firm with him. If not, you should show him that you love and care about him.
2006-09-09 04:20:37 · answer #3 · answered by SaraG 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Still you have one or two years left to amend your child as per the general formula given as under:
From 0 to 5th yrs let the child live on his/her own desire.
From 6th to 15th years there should be strict discipline.
From 15th onward he/she will do what ever he/she has inherited during 6th to 15th year.
So for the rest of one or two years keep the child in strict discipline other wise every thing will be lost.
2006-09-09 05:20:03 · answer #4 · answered by ars32 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear mother,
It is natural for a14 year old boy to react when he is not able to get the thing which he wants.We can change his mind by showing good unconditional love. You have to find the inner reason for his anger or unfulfilled anguish. ask his friend to suggest meditation. His friend can change him better. talk to his friend and explain the situation and convince his friend. He will change your son
2006-09-09 04:24:25 · answer #5 · answered by narayanan a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These youngsters have gone of the rock-they need to be taught a lesson. Shun him for a few days, stop pampering him and see how it effects. Also keep a check on his friends-circle for bad elements.
2006-09-09 04:15:06 · answer #6 · answered by anil m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you keep doing what you have done, he'll keep doing what he's been doing. He does these things because the rewards are greater than the consequences. Impose consequences that are relative to the offense. The alternative is to get ready to visit him in jail or prison--take your choice.
2006-09-09 04:20:08 · answer #7 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send him off to a military boarding school until he graduates from high school. He needs discipline, he's going to hate the person who teaches it to him, so pay some people to do it right -- that way he won't hate you for the rest of his life.
My father was like that as a teen. His military prep school saved him as a person, and he was loyal to it for the rest of his life.
2006-09-09 04:18:51 · answer #8 · answered by urbancoyote 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems you have twin attacks - from your husband and the other from your son. in regard to husband, u are the best judge having lived with him for about 15/16 years.
but look, THIS IS YOUR CHILD. You have got a great task to his upbringing. Also know the child psychology.
BEFORE HE IS IN "PRE-TEEN".
IT IS QUITE USUAL AT THIS AGE.
SO BE CONSIDERATE.
2006-09-09 04:32:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should slap him upside the head when he talks back. Does he have a strong fatherfigure in his life? Boys in puberty need one, if not, they start treading on their mothers. Kids need to learn that they don't have s h i t to say.
2006-09-11 05:57:22 · answer #10 · answered by AGoodPerson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋