im getting married soon, any advice for me??

Answer 1

yeah.... don't

Answer 2

Since marriage cannot be without disagreements once in a while, here are some advices I found in an article that will help you deal with your arguments:

Never be afraid to let the person know what bothers you.
You shouldn’t hold back communication - anything that bothers you must be brought up for discussion. You should always feel free to express yourself. And remember, it is not WHAT you say… it is HOW you say it!
Don’t argue while you are still too emotional about the situation.
Things you are saying while you are affected have a way of leaving a damaging mark on your relationship. Instead of lashing out while you’re still emotional, take some time to cool off by going out for a walk or listening to some music, for example. Getting away from the situation will help you gain a much-needed new perspective.
Don't bring the past into the present.
The desire to compare current situations to some past situations is natural but not healthy for a relationship. No one wants to be reminded of their past mistakes. And how can you expect to motivate someone for improvement when no matter how hard they try to change or improve, you still hold them accountable for past actions? If you actually want a problem resolved you have to make your partner feel like s/he can actually resolve it. One way is to keep your disagreements about the problem you are actually dealing with at this time.
Seek first to understand, then to be understood.
It is easy to complain how wronged we are and how our partner never understands us but have we really tried to understand him/her? So many times we forget to take a look at the other person’s viewpoint when more often that not, we would find after an honest look, that we would have done the same thing.
If it is your mistake, apologize!
Don't try to redirect the blame to something or someone else. If you broke a promise, said something you wished you didn't or did something you'd rather not confess to, it's up to you to make amends. Not only will you feel better, but your partner will learn to trust you more knowing you're willing to accept responsibility.
Don’t implicate other people in your fight.
You automatically put the other person on guard when you enter into a major disagreement in front of others. In addition, instead of staying a personal matter, the disagreement will become open to other input. Think about it from your partner’s shoes. Would you actually give an open and honest discussion if you felt you were up against an army?
Discuss the problem till it is solved.
It is far easier to run off and avoid your partner but show respect to him/her and yourself by taking the harder way - work it out together even if it takes all night. Make sure you have enough time to talk and don’t bring up an issue during lunch hour, or on the way out. Nothing is unsolvable when you are working together for the good of your relationship.

And most important of all: love each other :)

Answer 3

Sure. I've been married for a few years now, I'll share with you some of what I've learned.

Treat the other person how you'd like to be treated. It sounds cheesy, but it works wonders.

Remember that you're on the same team - fight the common enemy, not each other.

Pay attention to the wedding vows, especially that "till death do us part" one. It's pretty serious.

You've always got someone you like to hang out and do stuff with. Take full advantage of that.

Remember why you fell for your wife in the first place. It just might make you do it all over again.

Answer 4

Be true
be faithful
be a help mate
remember the wedding band is an eternal circle as your love should be
listen with your heart and not just your ears
put your mate by your side not ahead or behind you
learn to feel when things are good and when they are not and act accordingly
Be the mate to your mate that you would want for you

blessings and if you realy love this person and both give 150% and take only half that you will so rock this world as a couple

Answer 5

always remember your vowels always take your marriage serious be committed to her and love her don't ever cheat on her whenever theirs a problem work on it together don't walk out on eachother and don't fight and never go to bed mad at eachother also if I were you don't let porn play a role in your marriage I'm 22 and my husband is 24 we don't go for that stuff we're enough for eachother if you want someone you have her you have it all in front of you no need to look at other women my husband and I have never cheated on eachother or thought about it just saying sometimes porn can mess up a marriage my ex bf was into that junk we fought all the time just remember to love her and only her show her she's the only one we got married young but we're still going strong congratulations on getting married soon

Answer 6

I just got married so I guess I would be a good person to ask. Just remember the first year is the most difficult. Even if you lived together before you got married, you still have to adjust to being a part of a marriage. Dont ever tell her that anything is "mine" from the time of the marriage on, everything belongs to both of you, no matter who pays for it. Dont ever take that ring off, no matter how mad you get at her, dont threaten to divorce her or take your ring off in anger. Wait to have children if you dont have them already, it will be better to enjoy being married and to work on your problems together before you bring children into the world because once you do, everything changes.

Answer 7

if you truly, deeply, honest feel that there is no other women in this world capable of making you happy and if you are certain that when you take those vows that you will with all your heart abide by them, then sure do it. No one really knows if they will get divorced but in order to eliminate that thought you must be sure that there is no women or man that may lead you astray. If you can handle temptation, than i think you have a good chance. good luck, best wishes if she is the one that makes your heart go crazy for all the right reasons.

Answer 8

Make sure you're ready and love everything about the person. Don't think that you can change a person by marrying them. They will be the same then as they are now. Aside from that, good luck, don't stress, and enjoy the moment! Oh, one other thing, don't go cheap on your honeymoon. Skimp on something with the wedding, don't forget about the honeymoon. It should be something really special.

Answer 9

Don't get married unless there is good communication skills and understanding of each other on all levels. Spiritually, emotionally, physically. If you cannot communicate with each other then there is no point in hitching yourself to some one you will only come to resent.

Answer 10

make sure she is the one you want to grow old with cause this is not a trial period. everything you do every decision you make from now on affects more than just you.you can screw allot of people up with a bad choice. think real hard

Answer 11

I have been married for 13 years, expect nothing!, If there is something about her that you do not like, do not expect her to change, except her for who she is, love her for who she is, enjoy life.