2006-09-09 03:40:14 · 25 answers · asked by muhammad.salah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You can forgive but never forget, because if you do its like they can get away with anything.
2006-09-09 03:41:53 · answer #1 · answered by jestergirl382003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends upon what that anything was. There are things that is absolutely unforgivable.
Being abusive.
Having multiple affairs.
Those are things that should never ever be forgiven.
For someone to say I am sorry for those doesn't mean a thing.
What they really are saying is I'm sorry you didn't like what I did but I will try to not get caught the next time.
If abuse is the problem there is never, ever, any reason to forgive.
You can be 100% sure it will happen again.
If the offense was minor then it is up to you what you can except or not but you said anything.
Only do what is best for you. You have no responsibility to that other person. They should never ever have to tell you they are sorry in the first place.
2006-09-09 03:52:54 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because someone says they are sorry doesnt mean that they really are.
I guess I am being too out there....forgive yes because Jesus forgives us no matter what but dont just sweep it away like dust on the floor.
We use these experiences to learn from and if we dont learn then it was a waste of our life space.
If I did something to you and said "hey bud Im sorry" and you just said okay...you may have opened the door for me to be mentally cruel to you. Yu may invite me right in to repet the same action again. Does that make any sense?
Forgiving is what is right but not allowing a repeat performance is right up there as well.
Please remember that sorry is just a word. Their actions will say more than those two little words...im sorry. make sure they really are sincere in their apology. if not still forgive but move on and chalk it up to experience
2006-09-09 03:52:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Saying sorry is not always enough, in fact sometimes sorry is just a learned response and there is no meaning behind it (you know as kids we are forced or told to say we are sorry, but we don't mean it).
Actions speak louder than words.
And I believe if you are going to forgive, than you should also forget. How awful would it be if someone forgave you then later threw it back in your face, that's not forgiveness. When you forgive it should be forever, use it as a learning experience and never let it comeback to hurt you or someone else.
2006-09-09 03:47:22 · answer #4 · answered by Krispy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That all depends on what that person did. If they killed someone or something like that ,,,,thats a little extreme to be forgiving them., But i suppose if someone is really truely sorry for thier actions and you believe they are,,then forgivness is all good. Everyone makes mistakes and noone is perfect. You will probably feel better about yourself is you found it in your heart to forgive,,,,But thats not saying you have to or will ever forget. God forgives our sins doesnt he???
2006-09-09 03:45:33 · answer #5 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the hardest thing but you have to forgive people whenever they do you wrong believe me I know first hand its the hardest thing especially when you just want to hate and hate. But you have to forgive them you may never forget what they did. You just know now what to expect out of them and know how to better guard yourself with these people if you choose to still have communication. But remember always forgive
If you are a religious person the bible says this:
"Matthew 6:12"
And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors.
"Matthew 6:15"
But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father(God) forgive your trespasses.
2006-09-09 05:16:04 · answer #6 · answered by sweetcincylove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some things I could,but if it's cheating NO,that is something that you really don't forgive or for get and it will not work out in the long run of your relationship.
2006-09-09 03:43:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let's c.. if a murderer says sorry to you after killing someone close to you, should you forgive him? definitely no. it actually depends on the seriuosness of the problem/mistake. i have the same prob too. but trust me, if you can forgive that someone, do it. it's unhealthy to hold grudges against ppl. but that does not mean you must forget and pretend that everything's fine. that's what my 'friend' wants. i think that's asking too much. such ppl should best be forgotten.
2006-09-09 03:50:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on if they are sincere or not and what they did. But, to forgive someone helps you more than them. When you forgive, they no longer have the power over you. So actually, you forgive for your own happiness.........
2006-09-09 03:43:30 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should, but sometimes it's hard depends on what it was. It's hard to forget but you should forgive then good things will come to you if you forgive.
2006-09-09 03:53:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋