2006-09-09 03:33:19 · 19 answers · asked by chikikay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just go up to an empty seat and ask "is this seat taken" and start talking to people
2006-09-09 03:34:35 · answer #1 · answered by ĵōē¥ → đ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there,
I have been there too. It takes a little time to get peeps at a new school to quit seeing you as an alien or peeps at an old school from seeing like an alien.
If you see a group you would like to sit with maybe you could walk up and ask if you could have a seat and join them. I used to always look for the underdogs and go hang with them because I found that they were normally the nicest and closest to having a real heart and soul than you will find in the shallowest of the shallow jocks, cheerleaders, preps etc. The underdogs always seemed to watch my back for me as I did them so maybe your real lunch buddies are right under your nose you just are looking for a higher niche to join in at?
be patient and remember solitude isnt always a bad thing. How about taking your lunch out to the soccer/ball field, laying back and reading a great book while you enjoy your lunch or just use that time to reflect on your heart and what you want from these lunch folks.
Does your caf have the big cookies that are absolutely to die for? My high school caf ladies made the best cookies. could explain my hips now but they made high school more bearable for me! :-)
let me know how you handle things. I have faith you will do fine. It just takes time. Please remember though that it isnt YOU its just the environment and soon pieces will all fall into place.
2006-09-09 10:40:59 · answer #2 · answered by keeperofthebarn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Making new friends is always a little scary at first. I would go with the suggestion of walking up to a group of friendly looking diners from your class, and asking if you could take the vacant seat. If none of them makes an inclusive gesture after that you could show friendliness by joining politely in the laughter, adding a small remark to a conversation, offering a bit of your chocolate or cake to the one sitting near you or even asking a first-timer innocent query that will get them tripping to want to help you. Later when you pass any in the corridor or class, smile and say hi. Another day you could just say --see you at lunch. Build it slowly and you will definately find someone who will be your friend and share lunch time with you. You need to be friendly and approachable, have a ready smile, sense of humour and a willingness to 'join in' before you really find someone who suits you.
2006-09-09 10:43:28 · answer #3 · answered by itsmehuh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the nerve up to start socializing with people. Whether you start off by striking up a conversation with someone from your class or in the lunch line. If there is a seat left a lunch table ask if you can seat there and strike up a conversation even if you just say hi.
Don't let it get you down just how you made friend before you will make them again.
2006-09-09 10:40:31 · answer #4 · answered by sweetcincylove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, this is just the beginning of the school year, so naturally you don't have any friends yet. Don't panick. Join some extracurricular activites in your school, something you enjoy, and you will find other people with similar interests. Until then, enjoy your lunch and don't worry so much about what other people think. It's what you're thinking, what's inside your head, that is making you feel lonely.
2006-09-09 10:43:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to join an after school group that you might be
interested in , you will meet lots of people & make friends
too
OR ask a guidance counselor if there are any other
new kids in the school that you could get to know &
have lunch w/ good luck
2006-09-09 10:39:40 · answer #6 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you see someone that looks like a nice person ask is this seat taken and if not sit down and try to start a little conversation. Such as how do you like this school I am new here. Good luck.
2006-09-09 10:36:16 · answer #7 · answered by Boricua Born 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to someone in class, then sit with them at lunch. I had the same problem for a while after I moved, I am very shy.
2006-09-09 10:36:55 · answer #8 · answered by masterurownmind 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont ever ask if a seats taken just sit 1 seat away from the person u want to make friends with and slowly make your way over there
2006-09-09 10:48:42 · answer #9 · answered by chinoex123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have got to make a move if you want friends,find a seat and sat down and start talking
2006-09-09 10:36:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋