What are the defining characteristics of a control freak?

Answer 1

Control freaks can have many different characteristics. They can be overt, or subtle.
Control freaks can control you by force, or more subtly by guilt, (poor me, don't you feel sorry for me?), or by time, (I'm not ready yet; I'll be right back; I'm ready but I have to go to the bathroom; I need to make a couple of more stops) etc.
They might act so helpless, that you feel the need to take care of them; over and over and over again.
If they know you really want to eat at a certain restaurant, or at a specific time, and have agreed to go with you, they might suddenly mention how they can't eat at that restaurant, (the food makes them ill, they have allergies at that restaurant, etc.) or they are taking medicine which requires them to eat at a later time (surely you understand?), etc.
They can control you with left handed compliments, (oh, did you notice that dress makes you look kind of fat?), or (I'm wearing my blue outfit, and your outfit makes mine look frumpy).
I could go on and on about control freaks, because I was raised by one, and my sister has become a master at it.
The only way to deal with them, is to stay away from them. Control freaks are quite comfortable in what they do, will deny that they are doing it, and will get very mad at you for attempting to point out the fact that they are control freaks. It will NEVER be their fault. Ever.
My advice? Run. Or turn around and say "see ya".

Answer 2

My father-in-law told his wife she didn't need to eat dinner because she had had a big lunch. Honestly. He was terrified of gaining weight.
He controlled everything she did - their life was so regimented it was unbelievable. They got up at 6, had their breakfast, then would go into town to be there as the shops opened. They would have tea t 10 with a biscuit. Lunch at 12.00 on the dot. A nap followed Tea at 3.00 followed by a constitutional walk. Dinner at 5.00. All plain cooking, no sauces, nothing fancy - spag bol was exotic. Then he would go to bed at 8.00. Never did anything, she did all the housework etc.
They never deviated from this routine unless absolutely necessary. I often saw her in tears. She never had a birthday present. When she developed cancer he refused to move into care, insisted she stay and look after him.
She left him at 84 years old. Now lives veryhappily in an old age home, free. And he - he died from, we think, starvation. He wouldn't make himself anything to eat.
That is the ultimate control freak. I've never met anyone like him. A horrible man.

Answer 3

A control freak can be utterly charming - one of the tools of his trade - and he/she will withold affection and notice until the other person gives way, at which point they are 'rewarded' with a small amount of praise/affection. They also make sure there are no witnesses, so they will freeze out their victims friends so they cant get support and get away. They make sure the blame always goes to the victim and that the victim feels a. guilty, b. sympathetic and c. sure that they can teach the control freak how to feel secure., etc. To anyone in this situation I would say get out now. You are in a co-dependency.

Answer 4

Codependence! That's the main one. They are always "rescuing" others, because:
They are the only person who knows how to do things "right."
They aren't afraid to tell anyone, no matter who, that they're "doing it wrong."
If involved in a project that they can't finish, they'll put it on hold for weeks, months or years because *they* have to do it, rather than let the rest of us get on with it, no matter how important it is to others.
If they can't attend a meeting, it shouldn't be held.
Activities really should revolve around them, so of course they volunteer for the leadership positions (that way it gets done their way.)
They love to complain about how busy and stressed and tired they are what with all they have to do, but would never consider doing less, or taking a minor role.
Their offers of "help" often mean "do it my way or I take over; I may take over anyway."

Answer 5

There are none, that is the problem.

That guy on Coronation Street was so well written, he was so good at it.

My control freak did it through suggestion, money, hints, tears, you name it. It is all so subtle though you do not realise till it is almost too late. I spent one Christmas planning my own suicide because of him and pulled back at the last moment because I realised not all he said was 100% true and it set me to wondering about the rest.

I so nearly became a statistic.

Answer 6

he's basically a domineering individual and does not ought to be a narcissist. there are a number of people interior the international who're of an identical form that he's and are not narcissistic. this may be between the function that he's showing to you. He sounds as though he's quite insecure and needs to be stressful of you and it sluggish with a view to sense that he's maintain. basically keep going on with life as you're on the instant doing. you are the guy who's in a position to distinguish basically what's appropriate for you and your life style. I do wish that he does turn around and comprehend which you comprehend what's precise for you.

Answer 7

A control freak NEEDS everything to be done their way.....from cooking to cleaning to organising trips. They need to know everything that is going on, they want everyone to do what they tell them to and they basically want to lead the way

Answer 8

Acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing or situations- some fact of life- UNACCEPTABLE TO ME, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment. Nothing absolutely nothing happens in God's world by mistake. unless i accept life completely on life's terms, I cannot be happy. I need to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changes in the world as on what need to be changed in me and in my attitudes..

Answer 9

have you been accused of being one? control freak wants to be the boss and has to have everything done their way. Undermining the other person making them feel unworthy.

Answer 10

Someone who get's really angry if things don't go their way, like having newspaper folded neatly and not left open or wrinkled everything has to be perfect nothing out of place,