My husband had an affair a little over a year ago, we separated for a while, and decided to get back together. Things are boring right now, I am invisible, his truck and video games are more interesting then sex. I know hes not cheating right now, hes home ALOT, but I dont think his heart is with me.
2006-09-09 03:27:34 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's not always true. Some people learn from their mistakes and heed second chances. If you know he's not cheating on you and he's at home with you all the time, then what's the problem? Things won't always be soooo exciting. Everyone falls into slumps in their relationship. Maybe you guys just need to do something really special together to "light the fire" again. Go out to a romantic dinner, go on a trip to someplace you both want to go to...jjust make a whole day of spending time together uninterrupted by other things.
2006-09-09 03:33:33 · answer #1 · answered by Jenn 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Why did he cheat in the first place? Were you both passionate and in love when you married? Do you talk? I was "invisible" once. So I looked elsewhere. Have you tried everything to get his attention ? Its sad us women have to do that. We think they should just love us and want us. Simple. But many times there are alot of unsaid reasons involved. Was he sexually abused as a child? WHat is his relationship with his Mom? Do his friends have affairs? What kind of support system does he have? He may be mad at you for taking away his "thrill" his sexual release time...who knows Do you trust him? Will you ever? If not , get out.
2006-09-09 03:41:12 · answer #2 · answered by chattykatty 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because he isn't cheating on you will another person doesn't mean he's not cheating per say. Sounds like he's cheating with his truck and video games by making himself both physically and emotionally unavailable to you. It's just as hurtful as the real thing as far as I'm concerned. Sounds like he just doesn't want to be in a relationship right now. He has a lot of growing up to do. Good luck.
2006-09-09 03:33:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe the saying is true but if there was a affair then its only the tip of the iceberg. If you both are willing to work on the marriage then it could be even stronger than before. Do a time line of your relationship and see where the breaks downs are and work on the real issues. Good luck
2006-09-09 03:33:11 · answer #4 · answered by chancesare45 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That saying is true 90% of the time. Judging by your situation right now, I think your best bet is leave him. He is obviously no longer interested in you, and there is nothing you can do to change that. So, pack your bags and look for a good divorce lawyer - you are just wasting your life.
2006-09-09 03:44:12 · answer #5 · answered by Scabius Fretful 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if his heart isnt with you.... you need to move on. The saying once a cheater always a cheater doenst apply 100% of the time. A good percentage but not always
2006-09-09 03:30:21 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes the truth is that once a cheater always a cheater, why would you put yourself through that possiblity of not knowing if hw would cheat agian? and id his heart is not with you then basically thats like cheating ,,
2006-09-09 03:36:01 · answer #7 · answered by sunshine girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no necessarily it depends on alot of things,like the relationship and the circumstances involved in the cheating ,in some cases it's true but not in all of them. it just depends on your sitch. however if he's just playing video games and not paying any attention to you tell him to get off the game ,and spend time with you are just let him go on his way
2006-09-09 04:44:33 · answer #8 · answered by rachel m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is true if you want it to be. If he cheated on you then, maybe he is bored with you or his heart really isnt with you. If he really really loves you, then he'll stop. If he doesnt, then he won't. Or maybe he won't stop, but he really does love you and he might just have a problem with cheating, because he might like multiple women.
2006-09-09 03:35:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not always true but usually is it sounds like you guys have other problems to work out that could lead to him doing it agian.
2006-09-09 03:32:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋