of Im married and I work two jobs 7 days a week. Im trying to buy a house, but have had no luck. My three year old is going through mommy seperation anxiety. He breastfed until he was 1and a half but still grabs my boob when he's sleepy. He comes and gets in bed with me at night, and if I dont have the energy to fight him thats where he sleeps. My husband works a physically demanding job where as I have more of a cushy job. He is always exhausted, and went to bed early last night knowing that sat and sundays he has off. So I was up with my three year old fighting with him, and for a moment I just wanted to get in my car and drive on the open freeway of a black night. Calgon take me away.
2006-09-09 03:09:38 · 5 answers · asked by fryedaddy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes! I used to! But you can do something about it. You take charge - first of your three year old little boy who needs to know that you are the boss and then of your husband who also needs to know that you are the boss. Otherwise you are doomed to the life of a doormat. It is very difficult when you are working so hard - but being consistent is the key. Let your little boy know that he is not to come into your bed and sleep there - and that you really mean it. How long do you think this will last? Do you anticipate that he will still be doing it in six months..? twelve months...?? another two years??? Anything that becomes a habit for him now - like fighting with you, grabbing your boobs, sleeping in your bed - is going to be one hell of a fight for you both later. Think about the kind of adult you want your child to be...and then start to think about how this will happen. A manipulative three year old left unchecked - will develop manipulative skills to an art form by the time he/she is a teenager. You have to act now! Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind and it's hard not to overcompensate for the fact that you are working seven days a week. You need some time out for yourself too......a time that is just for you - a time to treat/reward/pamper yourself - for all your hard work. Things will get better as your child gets older - but you have to put in the hard yards now. Give your little boy as many cuddles as you can every single day - the days will go so fast! Good luck!
2006-09-09 03:32:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is normal. You need so time for yourself to. And my husband does the same and I bust my butt all day and I get to stay up and fight the children at night in the mornings. I guess it is just a man thing. But hang in there it will be okay. Try taking so vitamins for stress. I did and now I am feeling a LOT better.
2006-09-09 03:15:06 · answer #2 · answered by hummingbird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perfectly normal. My advice? Scale back on your hours...you may end up having to finance your home a little more agressively. But do you really want to finally afford that home and realize you missed a portion of your son's life because you were working so hard? And pay attention to your husband too. It sounds like he's just as exhausted as you are. Let him know that you sincerely appreciate his efforts and he will have an insatiable desire to double them...its just the way men are.
2006-09-09 03:18:12 · answer #3 · answered by BarbwireNRoses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get your priorities in order ... your child has to come before material things ... give up one of your jobs and invest that time in your family ... you will regret it if you dont
2006-09-09 03:14:52 · answer #4 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you need a strict drug regiment to keep your mind limber
2006-09-09 03:15:29 · answer #5 · answered by jokedrugs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋