simple examples would be turning the channel of the tv when I'm watching a show, only because he's not interested. Never spending time with me in what i want to be doing. we only spend time together doing what he wants. Sometimes he's pretty stubburn in getting his way. his way or the hwy. In the process of renovating an old house, can you imagine how hard this is...... does't even want to hear my ideas and thoughts as if it would be a waste of time to listen, because what i have to say will not change what will occur......very frustrated!!!
2006-09-09 03:08:27 · 7 answers · asked by arlene6685 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should learn how to put your foot down, especially if you guys are married. Don't be afraid to speak up and step on his toes a little too.
2006-09-09 03:13:51 · answer #1 · answered by Jenn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are stuck with a man who thinks of himself as a man's man.
He knows what he wants and you just have to learn how to live with it. My sister is married to someone a lot like this. She finally gave up and just started going her own way.
She always said she never wanted a man that apologized for himself and boy did she get one. So she has learned to adjust.
I think you are in the same boat. He may be worse however as I don't think he ever pulled the TV thing, but not sure.
In his own way he probably loves you. He just will not let a woman direct his life. Yes this is very hard for a woman to live with but it you want him you must be the one to adjust.
If he is not abusive you are miles ahead of a lot of women. Does that help? No, I know it doesn't. But just consider what you do have and try to live with what you don't.
There is only one other choice you know.
2006-09-09 10:20:49 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him simply, that if he loves you at all, he should listen to at least something. Also tell him if he keeps acting stubborn, you'll take it that he has no love for you and you're ready to get out of the relationship. Take the initiative, don't be a pushover.
Another thing might work is to become independent, get your own tv(rent it for a few days), your own phone, etc and ignore him completely. He'll get the point and hopefully he'll be more understanding.
Don't let anyone control your life. If that's the case, you should get out of the relationship.
2006-09-09 10:12:05 · answer #3 · answered by desigal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's difficult. You should have know all these before you married him. Obviously he's spoiled by his parents or someone that brought him up. How long is your marriage and how old is he now? Do you want to suffer for the rest of your life?
Explain to him at a suitable time, bring up the best example and talk to him peacefully, ask him if he knew or understood the status of the marriage, and, if he ever thought he cared for his other half.
Best wishes to you!
2006-09-09 10:14:20 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel. If he loves you he will listen. Maybe not at first, but he will. I wasn't an only child, but was spoiled and it took me many years to realise I can't always get what I want. Maybe I matured, I don't know, but I don't act like that any more. My husband told me and I didn't believe him at first. But when I am a lone I sit and look at how I behave in the day, and realised he was right. It's just how he was raised and was never told it was wrong.
2006-09-09 10:12:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get two tv's.
is seems he is an intolerant person, and may never grow out of that.
All you can do is deal with it.
Everyone is "pretty stubborn" in getting their way. It's called exterting free will.
2006-09-09 10:11:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is being spoilt as a only child. Very hard to change. Think you just have to let him has his way..
2006-09-09 10:12:13 · answer #7 · answered by Grace is a liar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋