I have a colleague who it 45 and i am 23, we became friends and we get along fine but i am a bit wary of her since she is so much older than me. What do you think?
2006-09-09 03:02:13 · 37 answers · asked by Gal in red 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
nothing wrong with it. my best friend is 55 and im 35. we have been friends for 17 yrs now (since i was 18 and she was 37). in the beginning she tried to take on more of a "mother" type role since i didnt really have one, but it didnt work and we fought a lot. over the years things changed and i matured got married, had kids etc. and our friendship has endured the best and the worst of times. my kids even call her "aunt" but she treats them more like her grandkids since she has none of her own. i believe we will be best friends until we die. she is always there for me and i am always there for her.
i never really got along with people my own age and always gravitated towards older individuals for some reason. i always felt i had more in common with them. of course the older i get though, the closer the gap gets so they really dont seem "older" anymore. maybe your the same way? editing to add: she was also a colleague i met at work!
2006-09-09 03:14:30 · answer #1 · answered by HatesMondays 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have friends who are older and younger, always have. It has never been a problem. Just like all friends, I just spend time with whoever suits the activity. If she means to harm you in anyway, it will become obvious. It never happened to me but I know people can have an agenda at times. Just be alert. The fact that she is a colleague makes me think she is not out to do harm. The word would get out and she would have a bad reputation then. I hope this is just a good friendship- you may find it is a good thing.
2006-09-09 03:07:46 · answer #2 · answered by Melody 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in my late 30's, and have friends and colleagues that range in age from their 20's to their 80's...The age of your friends should never matter after you have matured past puberty. It's wrong for a 13-18 year old female to hang out with a 28-60 year old male and vice-versa, but same sex friends both over the age of 20 shouldn't be a problem for anyone. You can learn from her experiences and she can learn from yours...I don't see what the problem is.
2006-09-09 03:11:48 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same friendship with a co worker who is 50 and I'm 24. But she's really great and has the best intentions.
I would say give her the benifit of the doubt. If she gives you a reason not to trust her then don't but for now..who cares? We can all use some friends and why not one who's older and wiser and has seen things we haven't yet?
Good luck!
2006-09-09 03:05:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what does age have to do anything. If the two of you get along and you have things in common it's fine, as long as it doesn't cross over the personal level and your colleague is fine with being friends. Did you expect to have sleepovers?
2006-09-09 03:06:56 · answer #5 · answered by Shana K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Noor. Trust your instincts. That feeling is trying to tell you something. Pay attention. It takes a long time to make a true friend, and that is even more true if you are colleagues. She may be a fine person, but keep your relationship with her cordial and collaborative, but not intimate yet. Let that grow slowly if it grows at all.
2006-09-09 03:06:03 · answer #6 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age has nothing to do with friendship as all of us seek a friend for very different reasons. If she complements you, supports and encourages you, pulls you up and supports you, joins you in your laughter and tears, defends you, is there whenever you need a shoulder, backpat, hug or shakeup without judgement or censor---them what's age gotta do with it?
Just remember that friend ship is twoways and you need to be there for her in the very same ways otherwise its not friendship its just 'using' another person.
2006-09-09 03:08:18 · answer #7 · answered by itsmehuh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you be wary of someone twice ur age?
You should be happy you can relate to people of all ages, that's considered a good thing not bad.
2006-09-09 03:04:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with that. You should have friends of all ages. It helps bring differing views to your perspective on life and issues as a whole. If you just hang out with people your own age it gives you narrow perspectives and can limit your scope of viewing things.
2006-09-09 03:08:10 · answer #9 · answered by jesus_lover1962 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have nothing to worry about. All ages have their own benefits and it is great that you can be friends with people of different ages. Be happy every time you make new friends regardless of their age, race or religion :)
2006-09-09 03:13:15 · answer #10 · answered by Steve W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋