i first went to one high school and had an ok time but now i have switched schools and the school is better, but im not being able to make friends. I dont know how to approach ppl without making it awkward and at lunch ppl just stand around in groups so i cant really join a group randomly.
2006-09-09 02:46:05 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
here's my advice:
1st, make sure YOU are the kind of person u want as ur friends. so, make sure u take care of urself, ur attitudes, the way u think, the way u judge, or don't judge, others; take care of YOUR responsibilites and actions and reactions to situations; be as open minded as possible, be willing to Learn, and strive to be a Good Person, and Good woman, someone to be admired and trusted and well-liked. so that may also mean u gotta take care of ur Appearance and ur Knowledge, so that u Feel Good, Look Good, and Understand many things, in order to build that confidence in urself.
2nd, i think the more u are happy and positive in ur life, the more attractive u are to others. in a Good way; when u are positive, u attract positive people to you. when u are negative, u kinda attract negative, or "bad" people to you. so while u are working on urself, u are actually working on ur ability to maintain and make Good relationships, with Positive people; because u are feeling confident and happy, u will be able to see, and filter out, the negative ones. stay close to Good, Healthy, Happy people, and stay away from the Mean, Negative ones.... ones that don't prove they are good friends, ones who backstab you. the thing is, the stronger and confident u are in urself, the more likely u can "bounce back" from someone who DOES backstab you; think of it this way, u were the "good friend", and that person treated you badly. therefore, who is wrong? not you. and that knowledge will keep you Strong, and Learn from your mistakes, and keep distance between that person and yourself.
so, long story short, work on yourself, continuously learn and grow, keeping an open mind, and u will be the kind of person OTHERS WANT to be friends with.... and u will be able to "pick and choose" who is a great person to be in ur life, and who needs to change in order to fit in w/ a Healthy, Positive Lifestyle. good luck! :)
2006-09-14 07:25:40 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh daisy. Come over here and let me give you a hug. It is so hard, sin't it. I had to change schools too so I know just what it feels like. I never felt so alone and obvious in my whole life! I felt like I would be left standing by myself for ever. But you won't. Believe me. Somewhere out there is that one other person, that life-line nice person, who is going to be your friend. So....instead of being in public and feeling self-conscious, do what I did (it works): practice at home getting into a place inside that is really calm. It is like meditation. Just focus yourself at a calm little center. This is your waiting place. You are waiting here until the right person suddenly appears. It is a place where you can just be quietly (reading, watching the clouds, what ever) so you are not very conscious of what people are doing or saying around you. In group situations you can sort of go to this calm space inside when you need to and it will make you feel a whole lot better. Practice makes perfect so try it today. Create your quiet space, your waiting place, inside.
2006-09-09 02:53:26 · answer #2 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 12:24:15 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate I'm in my sophmore year of high school (10th grade) and started a new high school. I really hate this new school because I don't really know anyone. Why not try talking to people in your classes and then slowly gain thier friendship.
2006-09-09 02:48:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try to be yourself and hopefully someone will come up to you or try and meet with one person during class or homeroom who will introduce you into there group !
2006-09-09 02:56:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i live in india but i can b ur frnd u know there is always a litlle space for new friends
2006-09-09 02:55:43 · answer #6 · answered by might 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it time dont rush everything takes time
2006-09-09 02:53:34 · answer #7 · answered by joey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it some time
2006-09-09 02:55:40 · answer #8 · answered by arizonaprincess2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
b urself
2006-09-09 02:54:02 · answer #9 · answered by --->*FaFa*<--- 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋