I just received an job promotionand there's one lady that keeps giving me a hard a time. For one thing she's 62 years old and I try to look at that she's old enough to be my mother. I give her, her respect but she gives me a hard time. Now they talking about giving me another promotion and she wants me to recommened her for my job but she claims she don't remember anything. So, everyday I have to tell the same thing again and again. Alslo, when the temp seervices send an employee over she gives them a hard time and they quit. What should I do or say to this lady with out hurting her feelings.
2006-09-09 02:08:48 · 11 answers · asked by hotnpink 3 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
Your bosses may or may not know about her. Yet maybe we have a clue that they do know about her. She does not get promoted. Since she still has a job I must infer that the job she does must be at least OK. Otherwise she'd be fired, I presume. It does appear she is not on a track for promotion. Of course she has invented this big injustice over this fact, but once upper management decides you are not on the track to get promoted, you won't get promoted. You will forever stay at the same level.
Now you need to be careful here. First of all recognize that she is not your friend; she is your enemy and would not hesitate to hurt and damage you in the company if she could. In fact I would highly suspect that she is guilty of calumny against you. So be civil in your interaction but stay professional. Answer her questions politely, but disengage yourself from chit chat with her. She is not your friend. Secondly, unless you are her boss and have authority over her, I would just drop it. Going to your boss might make you out as a whiner. On the other hand, if you do have authority over her, go to your boss and tell him/her you need his/her help on handling an employee. Go on to explain how you try to respect her, but then explain how she comports with you and the other employees. You ask your boss how you should handle this. This demonstrates to the boss that you are not trying to avoid your responsibility, you are wanting to be fair, and you really want to handle this the best way for the company and the employee. You have to test the waters. Sometimes squealing brings more problems than they are worth. You are on the track to be promoted. Wonderful. You deserve it. Your cold-not so cold shoulder treatment of the woman in question will go a long way to shut her up. I work with a craven calumnious backstabbing jerk myself who has tried to provoke me to violence so that he could go to HR and say he is afraid of me and get me fired. I have ignored all the evil he has done to me but I don't chat with him. My only interaction is strictly professional. I remain civil, but the chit chat is no more. I answer his questions. I am polite. Nothing more.
Certainly don't respond to the woman's taunts and put downs. Ignore her. Then when she asks a legitimate question relating to work, answer her sweetly and professionally. Then mum is the word until another professional question is asked. That will cure her of her "talk".
You already know that she shouldn't be promoted, so it is not even a question any more.
2006-09-09 03:21:49 · answer #1 · answered by pshdsa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to her that one reason she may not have been promoted may be because of her interactions with the temps. It takes time to get them in and trained in what they are doing and if she constantly makes their life miserable then they quit, and a new one has to come in and be trained , etc.. Very costly to the company.
Maybe you could tell her if she can show that she can work well with temp(s) then you can recommend her for the next promotion.
2006-09-09 02:15:47 · answer #2 · answered by sirade1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 12:22:59 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to recommend her for a promotion, you should be honest and say that she needs to develop in certain areas before you feel comfortable supporting this. Also, that if she gives you a hard time now, why should you support her? I would personally take that discussion out in the open.
2006-09-09 02:16:39 · answer #4 · answered by Ivan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you cannot recommend her for a promotion due to some difficulties with her aptitude, performance and relationship skills.
Think about it. If someone is satisfied with their current position in the work place - they won't act on your advice. But they won't rock the status quo.
If they want to grow and enlarge their prospects - constructive critisism and a goal to target is the ticket they are looking for.
If they are blind to their faults and shortcomings - they'll continue being exactly who they are today but possibly with more exhibitions of their attitude. Could become grounds for dismissal.
Its win-win-win all the way! Tell her.
2006-09-09 02:16:27 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on the promotion. Don't let her ruin your good fortune. tell a boss you trust about her being mean to the temps. Maybe tell the temps to complain about her. Otherwise if no one listens, it'll have to be when she gets cought on her own. SHe's old and you're young. SHe's probably jealous and feeling her age, so she is taking it out on everyone. Or she might feel if they fire her she can sue for age discrimination. Everyone (who can) uses the discrimination card.
2006-09-09 02:14:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you recommend somebody that turns out to be incompetent, it will tarnish your reputation with management. Don't go recommending this lady unless you think she can do the job. As for being nice, she'll never know whether you recommended her or not.
Congrats on the promotion.
2006-09-09 02:13:20 · answer #7 · answered by The Nerd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to management about it. this old lady is mad cause she is not the next best thing in the company. she is jealous of a young person being promoted. This is why old farts should not be in the workplace.
2006-09-09 02:12:14 · answer #8 · answered by Madonna1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have just two things to tell you.
First, CELEBRATE and have some fun!!!! ☺☺☺
Second, time is the great equalizer!!!!
I have seen the light of 1000 stars,
but none so bright as the light within!
2006-09-09 02:12:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You go to her supervisor and explain the situation in calm, precise terms and let management deal with the situation
2006-09-09 02:10:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋