My husband loves me but no where in my life just I feel good that he is with me our home is complete with him. He is with drinking habit going by car to work , wearing good cloths, working whole day for his friend factory and earning Rs.5000 for me. we are upper middle class with 20000/- minimum expense , rest I have to arrange. He is always worried about his status but not taking any step to improve or somewhat lost his confidence. He is rejected person in his family due to his hot behaviour. I am tired for coping anymore and recently involve with a person who loves me surely and sailing in same boat as he too have same relationship problems at home. Somebody introduce me to take advise for my problems and instead of any solution we fall in love and share our problems which are not having any solution as both the partners are very adament and proud. We have to hide our intimacy and feel sofocated. Should we keep soothing each other without disturbing our family life. we love family
2006-09-09 01:49:51 · 20 answers · asked by aakky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you must keep it quiet and don't disturb family.
soothing and riding is very nice when hidden.
2006-09-09 04:13:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
My mother has been cheating on my father for 7 years (JUST SO YOU KNOW WHAT YOUR DOING IS CHEATING!!!!!) And they have not had any major blow outs BUT she goes through severe deppression ALL the time because she feels she is living a lie and living two lifes and it takes it's tool on her.
Your never really going to find what you need or deserve if your with your husband. If you don't love him anymore then you should leave him and give him the chance to find his own happieness. By staying with him you are being very selfish.
If you have kids then you will be hurting them too. Kid's are very intuitive and they WILL figure it out even if your husband doesn't. Do you want to set that kind of example for them?
I can't have a real relationship now because I DON'T TRUST anyone after all the crazy cheating I've seen.
Good luck.
2006-09-09 01:55:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are cheating with a cheat. All I see is that you are trying to justify having an affair!!! No, sweetie, it is wrong to have an affair. Stop making excuses and take responsibility for the unhappiness in your life and your failed marriage. If you are unhappy in your marriage, then leave it! What your husband does and feels is on him and same with this "boyfriend" you have. Get out of the "muck" of your life. You are focusing your energy on how others feel think and do. Stop being dysfunctional and acting like a cheap whore and deal with the problems that are yours!
2006-09-09 01:59:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a situation that you need to decide by your own.Do what you think it would be the best thing to do.But would be better if you talk to your husband and tell him that you want to leave him and explain the reason why,try to communicate with him.And don't tell him that you have found a lover cause it will hurt him as he been throught with his family.He will found out when you will be out of his life.Good luck.
2006-09-09 02:01:08 · answer #4 · answered by none 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If either you or your "friend" have children then it's a harder choice, because you have them to consider. But, if neither of you have children, then I would say get a divorce. I understand it doesn't happen as much in our society but, people are starting to understand that their quality of life is much more important than living with someone who is awful.
Your family and his family will get over it with time. Get divorced and get jobs in another city. Do what makes you happy. If you have children, you can still work it out. Take them with you. Atleast you have found someone who loves you and cares about you.
2006-09-09 01:56:08 · answer #5 · answered by it's me! 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you are wrong. You are cheating on your husband. It doesn't matter what the reason, there are no excuses for this. Why didn't you talk to your husband first about all your issues? They may have been able to be resolved.
Too late now. You should leave your husband and move on.
2006-09-09 01:57:56 · answer #6 · answered by Jen 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So you are working on each other instead of trying to make your own families a better place. How does that work?
2006-09-09 02:07:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave your husband if you are not happy.
It will only be worse on your family when the secret is discovered if you do not leave him.
You should marry your lover and put the love to a real test
Good luck to you
2006-09-09 01:58:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is TOO working hard ,I think he is a good husband , just too tired ,if he loves the family he will be interested in you, be patience
2006-09-09 02:06:29 · answer #9 · answered by annesweetyfl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know you are wrong. With out a doubt you are wrong. So is the SOB that you're with. You and he are both PIGS with the morals of an alley cat. You both suck! Get the hell out of your affair.NOW!
2006-09-09 01:58:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
what you are both doing is cheating on your spouses AND cheating yourselves. if your marriages are over, then get divorced and move on, otherwise, break it off with your affair and put that energy into your respective families
2006-09-09 01:56:59 · answer #11 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋