question for the ladies or comment for the guys.?

Question

Why is it that whenever I ask a question regarding women I get a load of answers calling me a down right sexist? e.g. A few days ago I asked what you ladies liked about being a woman and I got some answers that would even make Shere Hite turn in her grave(feel free to check my Q&A for more). I don't believe there's anything wrong with such a question now is there? A Few weeks back I actually got reply from a woman who took offence to the fact I called her a lady(what's wrong with that!).
Isn't such overly harsh replying just as sexist as men calling you bad things. I personally feels it gives all you other nice and friendly girls a bad reputation. So what's your view on these women with over sensitive toes? Specially all you nice, friendly, compassionate women. And how do the polite guys feel about this treatment.

By the way I don't feel offended by this kind of reaction. But It bugs the hell out of me that people come to harsh conclusions without having any facts

Answer 1

I remember reading your question. I was disappointed it was resolved, because I wanted to answer it. I am a lady, I like being called a lady, and love being treated like one. The differences between the sexes are what make life interesting. Some women are so hell bent on fighting for equality that they've thrown the baby out with bathwater and forgotten the joys and privileges that come with being a woman. I personally love have someone who'll carry heavy things for me, walk me to my car after dark, and generally make me feel protected. Keep up the good work, I'm sure you make the ladies around you very happy!!

Answer 2

I believe that every generation since day one has changed. The goals, values, and how we think changes with each generation. The roles for men and women is changing (men at home doing household chores, cooking, etc. and women working out of the home). This alone may make women feel differently about their status in the world (and possibly a feeling of superiority). I still like to think that I am a lady, woman, and female. I like to be treated like one. I want my fair spot in the work place BUT there are still things as a female that I cannot do. Some things are meant to be done by brut strength and insight from a male. Others, like bearing children, sweet smelling soft body, & insight from a female are a few. I am proud of being a female. Why anyone would want it differently is beyond me. Generally speaking, you are absolutely right in stating that harsh replies like you got label all the females with a bad reputation. I feel that a female who responds to a question like you innocently asked has either been hurt terribly bad, or has no self respect.

Answer 3

As a gender, women's toes have been trodden on with too much vengeance. So they are more likely to take offence and ask questions after, if at all. I didn't read or answer your last question, but you might check to see if your friendliness quotient is really all you think it is. It never hurts to be very polite. Unfortunately, sometimes even the most polite address (such as lady) can come across as being hurtful. Be patient with us. When we earn as much money as men for the equal job, we might become a bit more easygoing.

Answer 4

OK. As a nice, friendly, compassionate woman, I can tell you that your question is fine, but in details you have put this:

"I like that I am more rational than most women, so I can think straight in most conditions without being overwhelmed by emotions",

thus putting most women a little bit down.

You can say that it was not your intention to put them down, and I believe you. But if you really think that women are irrational and are not able to think straight, would you like to be a woman too?

So, your pleasure of being a man is based on the prejudice that women are something less than you are. But it is not quite true and you should try to find some other pleasures of your gender, that don't necessary need to depend on someone's "inferiority".

Answer 5

I personally do not see a reason why any woman would feel offended by your earlier question, as I know that I am not. I am sure you have noticed that responses to questions dealing with any sexual subject receives the gammit of responses from the real to the bizarre. I agree with you that harsh replies to a reasonable question are out of line and may not reflect well on women overall, but I would hope that most men would have the sense to know that the harsh responses to a reasonable question are not necessarily the majority opinion.

Answer 6

i think its great you are trying to understand the psychi of the other gender i wonder the same in reverse sometimes
many females prefer woman to lady (it is seen as a judgement "proper lady"........) although i know of others who feel wo (womb) plus man making woman is insulting
you cannot please all the people all the time some people will get offended whatever you say.
i love being female i have choices it is acceptable in this day to be empowered and successful in a career but if i want to i can also chose to concentrate on the home and family - both are open to me whereas the latter is less often seen as a viable option for a man/guy/male ;)

Answer 7

Some of women just don't like men - and anything you say will be wrong. You'll never win with those ones.

It's defensive and paranoid true - but then some have been through alot of pain at the hands of men.

So - that's their burden. They're probably going through alot more psychological torment than they could ever inflict on you with a single cutting remark.

Brush it off and move on - you're fine.

Answer 8

I cringed when I read your comments. I don't know what to tell you, other than I'm sorry to hear that you've been given such a hard time lately and that sometimes people are overly sensitive. I hope that your post will cause everyone who reads it to be more considerate of the feelings of others when they post.

Answer 9

most of the women who scream sexist are exactly that. What is wrong with being treated like a lady. My man knows that I can do mechanics, like footie, etc..but he treats me like a woman should be treated. Being a woman is great, men have such a rough time and I'm the most independent, single minded woman I know, but the difference is I'm not scared of being female, being treated like a lady makes you feel like a queen and your man responds in the most delicious ways when he knows you are his lady only, I have no idea what these young women get from relationships and why they have to put on this tough front and be so aggressive.
Sorry girls but a smart woman knows how to use her femininity to her advantage and not act like a butch it is so offensive to our sex and has ruined many a relationship and has caused so much angst in society, just look around us....
I agree with the independence and freedom we know have, but part of me feels sad that we have lost that magic dressing like a woman in the 30's-50's when women looked like women, now we all look bascially the same...
I like doors held open, I like men offering me their seat, I like my man carrying my heavy bags, making sure I'm safe and comfortable, it makes me feel special and cared for, I'm not unable to do these things but I feel comfortable with myself to allow the man I'm with be himself and show his masculinity, it is a real boost for men to feel appreciated and needed, something else a lot of younger women haven't figured out yet because they are so busy being self righteous and rude, and wonder why the man goes off elsewhere......
that's my rant today....

Answer 10

Awww poor Peter, what a shame, you are so hard done by.

It may be because guys who use the name "ladies" are usually sleazy a**eholes who are after getting a sh*g.

Don't take it personally, Im sure you're a great chap in real life, though come to think of it, most Peters arent the best. But perhaps you should reconsider what you ask and how you ask it.