why is divorce so difficult?

Answer 1

Anytime a partnership is disolved it is difficult for the parties involved. This is true in business and in personal relationships. The reason is that human emotion is involved. There may be anger, sadness, and a sense of loss. A marriage is the ultimate partnership. When a couple makes the decision to get married, it is based on compatability, friendship, sex, love, similiar parenting styles, financial goals and so much more. In essence, you are creating a life partner with that spouse. When that contract breaks, all the emotions for other partnerships arise plus many others. Possible ones are inadequacy, jealousy, betrayal, and so much more.

In a divorce you are also going through the greiving process. Although they are not dead, the love that you had for that person is dead. It is why you find that some one who is going through a divorce has similiar feelings of someone who is widowed.

One last thing, even though 50% of all marriages end in divorce, our society has still placed the expectation that marriage is forever, or atleast until the spouse dies. Therefore, if it doesn't, along with everything else, there is a feeling of failure. They were not able to meet their emotional and contractual obligations.

Bottom line: saying goodbye is very hard. However, there is a silver lining. Once a person gets to the acceptance phase, they can get a sense of relief that the hard times are over. They can start anew. As much as it sucks to dissolve any partnership, it sucks so much more to stay in one that is not working. It causes more stress, fighting, and general unpleasantness then just ending it.

Answer 2

there are many reasons why a divorce can be difficult. the more possessions there are between the two the more difficult it is, unless they have already come to an agreement. if there are children involved, that is the worst. as for the pain of losing a marriage, well, i am about to go through one and it is so hard, it is like i can actually feel the heart ache. a divorce has been compared to a death of a loved one, it can be that severe.

Answer 3

divorce is difficult because when you marry it's suppose to be for life, and during the course of marriage you normally bond togeather physicaly, emotionaly, spiritually, and have also shared property income and in some cases have had children and even pets and in some cases one partner still loves the othermso it's like death as it is the death of a relationship and you end cutting each other down just trying to get it done your way and you are both hurting emotionaly as well as the children. if there are any involved. even God hates divorce, he allows it because of the hardening of your hearts.

Answer 4

divorce is difficult because it wasn't meant to be easy..
when you got married it was just two of your feelings that you had to deal with.. getting a divorce you added people to that , inlaws , outlaws, and most generally children have been added to it.. It just isn't the two of you anymore to think about..
divorce is difficult because it usually comes with bad feelings .
hurt and resentment.
it is also difficult because it cost money.
just something you have to work your way through the best of your ability. and get on with your life the best way that you know how
take your time make sure this is what you want.. because it leaves lasting results.
good luck

Answer 5

Most of the time you still love each other, you have been together for a long time and you feel like you are loosing a family member, (which you are) and a way of life. Most people do not like change and when you get divorced, there is change. We are venturing into the unknown, sadness and a way of life.

Answer 6

I have been divorced three times myself. Each time it wasn't any easier. You go into a marriage thinking that this is the person that you will spend the rest of your life with and when it falls apart, you lose part of the dreams that you have set for your future. It does get better as time goes.

Answer 7

Because it goes against the plan for our lives. We are made to have a partner for life, and to keep working at it, so to get divorced is to leave the path. It causes so much pain, especially for the kids. If you are getting divorced I feel for you, hope you get through it ok.

Answer 8

Maybe because we only fall in love and get married but we have to claw our way out to be divorced. I think before the papers are signed and the lawyers are called decide on what you both want before, the lawyers only seem to make it worse, try to remain on a communication basis with your spouse and it should be a lot easier!

Answer 9

Because divorce is man's solution and not God's...that is why problems in marriage should not be ended with divorce. It is because of man's stubborness that they wanted to divorce if things wont go smooth in the marriage...God's only provision for divorce is adultery,other than that couples should talk and work out the marriage. those who divorced not under grounds of adultery and remarries are themselves commiting adultery.

Answer 10

because you are left with feelings of betrayal from a broken promise. these feelings get in the way of reason and many people continue to try to hurt each other through manipulation or by using their children/possessions as pawns during the process. no one really wins in a divorce except the lawyers ... both parties lose something of themselves because of the closeness they once felt for each other.