I need help! my parents died a few days ago! We're all taking it pretty hard. My youngest brother is so little, he stopped talking to us completely, the one he talks to is my 8 year old brother, He won't talk to anyone else! What am i supposed to do. We're trying to get help for him off the internet and stuff. but I don't know what else to do! So please can anyone give me some advice. My youngest brother was in teh car with my parents when it happened. So were the 8 year old brother and my 10 year old brother! What am i supposed to do. I did everything i could think of! Please tell me, I don't know what to do. I'm sooo lost! I've been crying nonstop since it happened! Please could you please help me through this! I'm so lost right now! I can't stop crying, i'm a teenager, teenagers aren't supposed to cry. Anyway could you please be my friend and help! thanks to all those who do!
2006-09-09 00:57:04 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Right now he needs the family's comfort and care and so do you. His behavior is not uncommon for a child who has been through the trauma that he has. Often children stop speaking completely. At least he is talking to one of his brothers. Keep talking to him anyway, even though he does not respond.
Eventually he will need the help of a child psychologist to work through all the issues of grief, loss, and anger.
Be patient for now. Grieving is normal, it's okay to cry. In fact, it is very healthy.
So sorry for your loss...
2006-09-09 01:00:21 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it is never wrong to cry; crying is your body's way of expressing grief and letting out emotional stress- it is okay to allow yourself to cry and I hope you aren't so hard on yourself. Give your little bro time- he has been through a very traumatic event and is probably kind of in shock. He doesn't really know how to cope with what happened and he probably doesn't want to talk about it because it is too painful. The best thing you can do is show him love, by reassuring him and hugging and being close by and stuff. It probably feels like your world has been ripped apart, and that you have a gaping hole inside of you full of anguish, but please know this- time heals even the most violent and wrenching of wounds, trust in this and don't be afraid to ask relatives and friends to be near you in your time of need. Love and hugs to you.
2006-09-09 01:05:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the littie to a shrink, it will take time and a lot of love and understanding, there is a lot of hurt and hate, he will always will talk to the 8 years old. it closer to his own age, that is normal with the pain and loss. Like i said go see a Doc, there is only so much you can do. Be a loving sister. you are the head of the family now, I will say a pray for your family,
2006-09-09 01:07:29 · answer #3 · answered by dmncprkr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SAMANTHA, I AM SO SORRY ABOUT WHAT HAPPEN TO YOUR PARENTS. IT'S OK TO CRY HONEY. CRY ALL YOU WANT BUT YOU ALSO NEED TO STAY STRONG FOR YOU YOUNGER SIBLINGS. YOU WILL ALL GET THREW THIS TOGETHER. WHY ARE YOU ON THE INTERNET LOOKING FOR HELP? I THINK YOU SHOULD GO TO AN ADULT THAT YOU TRUST MAYBE FAMILY AND TALK TO THEM ABOUT THE SITUATION. THEY CAN HELP YOU. I CAN'T IMAGINE HOW YOU FEEL RIGHT NOW BUT JUST KNOW EVERYTHING WILL BE OK.
2006-09-09 01:02:03 · answer #4 · answered by FRECKLES 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You brother will need concelling. Try not to rush him. Let him greive in his own way, it will come. See about getting him some councelling though.
I'm very sorry to hear of your loss. I hope that things turn out for you all.
2006-09-09 01:04:44 · answer #5 · answered by aawatson3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Samantha I'm so so sorry for your loss.Fall to your knees and pray,Prayer is talking to the Father as you would someone in person.Your little brothers and sisters are not to young to talk to God either.The Bible says.When ever two or more are gathered in my Name I am with thee.
2006-09-09 12:12:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋