hi, I'm 12 Years old girl and i've know enough about puberty.
here is the situation! huh..
when i was 11, i've fallen in love with a handsome boy who was my cousin "Nick", before loving him, i used to play with him sports and basketball he was always teaching me how to play basket ball, his GF is so so so manly and doesn't have Feminine Personailty. However, I feel from his eyes that he do also love me when he knew that i do love him (from my doings)!
but now every thing changed from about 2 months . when nick when for a holiday to france, I saw ethan who was my enemy but now a days he is my LOVER! He changed into a nice boy! I didn't talk to him from about 3years or more, and when we first met , i didn't feel something, it was just normal! but when he arrived i went to my bed crying! i don't know why!but i don't care! form that moment love spread in too my heart!
now nick came back! i still love him deeply and can't put my eyes into his eyes!
whom love i follow?my first love?
2006-09-09 00:53:15 · 16 answers · asked by Joelle 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i know that i'm 12 but still what should i do! keep dreaming and heartbroken just because i'm 12 years years old!!!!!!!
if you think that i'm too young help me to forget them! get me tip please!
2006-09-09 01:01:11 · update #1
well hun,love is a strong word.The feelings you have for Nick are more than likely not as strong as you may feel they are.I am saying that,not because i doubt how you feel because that isnt my place or my right but im saying it because he is your cousin.You could be misreading your feelings.You could be misinterpreting how you feel about your cousin as romanticly,instead of you just love your cousin because treats you nice.You shouldnt have those feelings for your cousin and if you are then you need to speak to an adult about them.Now,Ethan,on the other hand you care about.It is normal to care about someone and at your age you can care about someone as well as one who is in their 20's or 30's can.Whichever way you choose to go about this,please be careful.I urge you to be strictly friends with Nick,as he is your cousin and you shouldnt have those feelings for him.Ethan,sure be friends and see it where it goes dont jump into a relationship right away even speak of your feelings with him and his with you and see where this leads.Good luck.
2006-09-09 01:52:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, everybody is telling you that you're 2 young. And actually you are. But I think you really have your heart set on it. So what you should do is the following: make a list about the 2 boys, the pro's and con's. For example: nick; negative: HE IS YOUR COUSIN!!!
And you also make a list about ethan, compare the 2 lists and choose the one with the most pro's and the least con's. And just tell the other boy you are in love with another boy and you don't really see it ending quickly.
Wich is not really true because your still 12!! and there are still plenty more fish in the sea for when you are older. Just don't turn into a sl** and have had 28 boys when you're almost 15!!
Then everything is fine with me!!
2006-09-09 10:24:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for boy two, Ethan
2014-04-29 22:10:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
get ethan. nick is your cousin! you can't expext to get married with him can you? even if you do, there will be genetic disorders when you and nick finally have a baby. the baby will have defects in mentality(not as smart as other kids, maybe down sydrome for worse cases) as both your genes are to similar. i'm sure you don't want that do you. anyways, i don't think your parents will agree to your relationship with your cousin. you should test ethan 1st. make sure he really loves you and its not just his raging hormones getting him attracted to you. give him some time. if he still loves you and you feel the same about him, go ahead with your relationship. and you have to make sure you like the way he treats you too or you can just tell him in the face "I HATE YOU!!!"
haha... no la. just joking on the i hate you part. reject him tactically so that he dosen't take it too hard. if he still dosen't accept, ask an adult to help you.
main problem right now is that you are to young to have this kind of relationship it will affect your studies in a negative way. talk about it at least after your PSLE.
2006-09-09 08:06:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your too young for actual love, and you say Nick is your cousin? You shouldn't like your cousin as more than well, your cousin. So like Ethan instead. But not love, like.
Don't throw yourself into adult situations, I know what it's like to think your grown up when your twelve. Because, I am. However, my mother always taught me that love was for when your at least 16. However, sometimes I feel like I "love" but it's really not love, it's a fake love you have when your twelve. It's really just a strong strong point of "like".
Besides, Nick has a girlfriend already. So Ethan is your best bet.
2006-09-09 07:58:57 · answer #5 · answered by ChaiTea 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what youre feeling is infatuation,, not love,, youre too young to understand love right now.. leave the boys alone for now and get involved in school and maybe an afterschool activity such as sports ,or a club... when you graduate high school that will be your ticket to start searching for your boy toy,,,,maybe in college if you choose to do so,,, dont throw away your child hood on a whim,,, live life as it was meant to be ,,,as a kid,, play, go to the movies,go skating, bowling or some other activity, a good education and a foundation for the future,, will far outweigh any boy youll meet at the ages of 12- 18 so set up things for yourself and be smart,,,
2006-09-09 07:59:07 · answer #6 · answered by John C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl if this is true, you need help. First of all, at 12 years old you couldn't possibly know what love is! I am 27 and I am still confused. Furthermore, has anyone ever told you that it is not right or even normal to fall in love with your cousin? You need to talk to your parents or whomever is raising you. At 12 years old you should not be so into who you need to love...you should be focusing on school and finding out about yourself.
2006-09-09 08:00:55 · answer #7 · answered by lcplyr7 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have certainly got a situation. It already seems that the guilt that you carry has made the decision for you. Be gentle when you break it off with Nick. Be truthful. By the way there will be another after this new guy. Be smart about it.
2006-09-09 08:01:29 · answer #8 · answered by SylviaD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try to neglect those guys n u try to not to contact them, or limit the no of meetings with them, because I m sure that this is not love its just an affection.
If u wanna test weather u really r in love or not then do one thing:
Dont meet them for atleast a yr. then even if u have the same feelings for them then u can say that its not merely an affection or infactuation.
At the same time explain those guys properly why r u doing so.
2006-09-09 08:23:08 · answer #9 · answered by Vishal J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 12, its not love. Its infatuation. So, dont get overwhelmed! Take it cool. Decide if you can be friends with both, of course without any sexual connotations!
2006-09-09 08:08:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋