Why do people who lack the desire to figure out something bother me?

Question

I go crazy anytime someone close to me, a family member or a friend, doesn't bother to figure out something they're trying to do. They simply just drop the task at hand and forget about it. IT DRIVES ME NUTS!!! Why are some people okay with not figuring something out? Why do people have to ask someone else to solve or fix it for them?!? Do people not get satisfaction out of solving their own problem, or experimenting with something different ways until you can get it to work? Oh and the worst is people who dont even ATTEMPT something, they just ask someone to do it for them because they dont give themselves the credit to possibly be able to figure it out!

ok let me give an example, a friend of mine has had a digital camera sitting in a box for about a year that he has never touched, yet he always complains about not having any pictures

another example

my friend's computer is running slow, and instead of her trying to figure out why, she just says its broken without even attempting to fix it herself, and crys to her father to fix it

Answer 1

This is an intriguing question. I've found that when I felt this way (and I often did), the problem was with me and not them. I worked as a high-tech comm. technician for many years, and many times I was called upon to fix things other techs walked away from. It seems I was pi--ed off because I had to do thier job for them, but in reality I had unrealistic expectations of them. Everyone is made differently, and the things that are important to me aren't necessarily important to anyone else. Don't go nuts over this; if there weren't people like that then people you like wouldn't look so good (perfect). love, rat

Answer 2

I've noticed this too, that the satisfaction of getting things done is a very rare thing these days. But it didn't completely disappeared as I see from your question. People these days are all about getting as much as they can with a minimum amount of effort from their part. And this doesn't sound right to me.

Answer 3

Simply because what you value as good attributes in a person are different to what they value. Some people don't have that driving desire where as you do. Because theyre attitude does not match yours you are frustrated by it. No person is the same since we all experience the world differently.

Answer 4

It's called 'Human-Nature', to do the least amount possible... In our 'culture' of immediate-gratification. And the folks you are referring to, will continue to, be lazy minded, slackers until they have to "Face the Music," and suffer their own consequences.

Listen to Bob Dylan's "Like A Rollin' Stone." that sums it all up!

Answer 5

Isn't it ironic that you would post such a question on a site devoted to people asking others to provide answers or solutions for them, when often the people haven't bothered to figure out solutions or advice for themselves.

My advice: Figure out this quandary yourself...

Answer 6

it is really annoying, people these days are lazy and think the whole world owes them somthing, i think its because of all the stupid goverment programs like welfare and social security and not enough beatings for breaking the law

Answer 7

A flaw in their character. They want to be 'taken care of'. Laugh at their woes and solve your own dilemnas. :>]}

Answer 8

no one cares these days, it's all about gettin it done & finished by the weekend. how ever it takes.

Answer 9

RAISE YOUR STANDARDS.

MAYBE YOU JUST HANG AROUND PEOPLE WHO HAVE ENTITLEMENT ISSUES.

MAYBE YOU ENABLE PEOPLE TO BE LAZY BY FIXING EVERYTHING FOR THEM.