to make a long story short, me and my baby father knew each other because we are both in the military. however, i did n't know he was married, he said he was divorced but he lied. then once i found out he said he is separated trying to get a divorce. but that was a lie too. because he left to be with his wife. he claims that the military was moving him to hawaii, but he requested because he wife was moving to hawaii. thruogh all of this i found out i was pregnant and he didn't believe me now DNA test prove he is the father. he hurt me so much because he lied and he left me all alone. however i still care for him. and i think deep down he cares for me too but he is married. i would never tell him how i feel because i respect people marriage. so he finally admit he is married. and now 1 year pass and he said he is mad at his wife because he wants a divorce and she said no to wait until she gets back from iraq. i truly don't believe that. i just thinks he wants to play games with me.
2006-09-08 22:54:50 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What he wants is immaterial. He IS married. He IS a lying, scummy, butthole. He cheated on his wife, and put you in the position of helping him betray his wife. He should be held accountable. Begin the process to make him pay to support his child. MONEY. It is his responsibility. There is no reason to allow him to walk away. As to IF he is getting divorced- who cares? You'd be better off with ANYBODY else, rather than a cheating, lying, lowlife. Especially a US military person, betraying another military person, while they are serving in a war zone. That's worse than scummy, and waaay beyond nasty. It borders on subhuman. You'd be better off having affairs with Saddam and Bin Laden. Compared to this guy, they are shining examples of honorable behavior. At least THEY haven't pretended to be anything but enemies.
2006-09-09 00:47:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stay strong and stay away from him as for your well being. He is probably going to try to use the child to get to you. In the best interest of the child you need to let it bond with the dad but you don't have to be around. He knows you still care about him. If a man has been intimate with a woman, five years can pass and he will try again. He will say anything.
Those military guys are slick since so many of them are geographical bachelors and have wives other places. You can weed out the men that just want sex by making them wait a long time before you have sex with them. If a guy is real then he is getting to know you in the process. You could also ask around and do some investigating to find out if he is married. You don't want to be stuck in that situation again. But there are always the civilian guys who are not as apt to up and leave like the military guys. The best way to find out a man's intentions is to watch his actions and to make him wait. Men have ways of telling on their self. You can already see this guy is repeating what he has already done. Good luck.
Thank you ma'am for serving our country. I am proud of women like yourself and your contributions.
2006-09-09 07:34:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you... I would stay away from the guy.
However... The guy needs to pay you child support. There is absolutely nothing wrong with receiving child support from a man you want nothing to do with.
It's not mean. It's just business.
Take care of yourself and your baby the best you can for now. Then find yourself an new man and live a happy life. The pain from this will slowly fade away over the next few years as other happy thoughts take over.
2006-09-10 02:34:47 · answer #3 · answered by Hawaii SEO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey lady that's really bad to hear that man you trusted with you life is a devil and was never serious, but what i advise u listen to your heart, soat out yo feelings, justify yo feeling for him then decide coz now days very many men don't tell the truth about their love life when he wants a woman he would never let anything stand in his way.
Give him time if he is yoz then he will divorce his wife and he will proving to u by producing the documents not words.
Give him a deaf ear don't allow him to lie to u again.
2006-09-09 06:22:58 · answer #4 · answered by Halicate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for you and your baby. This is a very tricky situation. It can lead to many people getting hurt later on down the road. You will ultimately be the one to decide what is best for you and your child. If you want my advice If I were you I would forget about him. I know it is hard but there is a soul mate somewhere out there for you. I wish you and your baby Happiness.
2006-09-09 06:09:13 · answer #5 · answered by Fade~Away 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop the insanity. If you are both in the military, report his actions to his Commanding Officer or First Sergeant--unless he is the Commanding Officer or First Sergeant.
2006-09-09 06:21:51 · answer #6 · answered by Teacher Man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are right on about him playing games with you. Does he pay child support for your child? If he doesn't then he should and you should want him to help you support your child. This is his responsibilty too, make sure that he lives up to that.
2006-09-09 06:33:32 · answer #7 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up!
This is what happens when you don't think about the consequences of sex with someone whose background you know very little about.
Move on, this guy isn't worth the paper his ID card is printed on...
2006-09-09 06:05:15 · answer #8 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're a booty call to him he wants you b/c he knows you are stupid enough (no offense) to believe him and his lies. find someone new because you deserve better
2006-09-09 06:10:54 · answer #9 · answered by Natalia's mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your right he is a game player remember that....
2006-09-09 06:00:42 · answer #10 · answered by lol_des 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋