ive been wit my baby father 4 4years and recently i found a gals number in his phone, so i said i would give him a chance 2 tell me da truth but he still denide it so i rang da gal up and she told me he bought her alcohol and gave her and lift home(u can guess wot happened) wen i asked him dis e said he didnt no wot i was talkin abt. so then i chucked him out and now he wont even speak 2 me for my 2 year old sake. its like i done sumtik wrong and i jus so confused i got a 2 year old daughter by him and im 8 months pregnant, its makin me so depress help!
2006-09-08 22:13:24 · 13 answers · asked by midge 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Poor dear misguided Midge,
You did the right thing by making him pack his bags and get out!
It could of course be that this girl was lying to you and thus, your ex is hurt that you will not trust and believe him.
See if he is willing to talk to you about the visiting and caring for your daughter and soon to be born baby. Don't pressure him in to talking about anything else, do not yell, do not sscream, do not argue. If he is not talking to right now, let him be. He probably needs some space too.
However, you have children with him thus, may I suggest that you seek counseling, even if he might not want to join you, because it is going to be a long road as a single parent and if you are feeling depressed, it may get worse.
If things are not going to work out after all that, might I then suggest that you start thinking of the future for you and your children. Go back to school, learn about computers and spell check, get yourself a good job and say goodbye to your past.
2006-09-08 22:22:58 · answer #1 · answered by Funny Frankie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys lie, girls lie, everybody lies. They lie because they don't want to tell the truth, cuz they're scared of the consequences of telling the truth. The thing is, girls lie too, but they do less stupid things. Guys tend to do more stupid things and therefore have to lie more to cover them up. I think you did the right thing, you gave him enough chances to come clean. It's awful of him to stop talking to you when you almost have 2 kids -- alone now. He's huge scum. At least you'll have child support, if the guy can hold down a job. Just focus on being a good mother now, and the right guy will come along, just stay away from jerks like the last one. The ball is in his court right now, if he wants to take his fatherhood responsibilies. Just try to stay mature if ever does try to contact again, since he is still the father of your kids, they have a right to still see him. Good luck with everything. This time, hold out for a good guy. Being lonely is hard, but as you know now, it's harder when you're lonely because of a crappy guy.
2006-09-08 22:23:07 · answer #2 · answered by blindly_invisible 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be responsible for all this mess , created by you . Why don't you try to live in peace by avoiding confrontations / nagging / complaining etc . Concentrate on his positive point also , like he comes home to be with you every night , he hugs children and do play with them . You better adjust your nature , if you want to lead your balance life in a happy atmosphere . Good luck .
2006-09-08 22:22:11 · answer #3 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First you have to be sure he did what you are feeling he did. If he did dump his you know what now. I hate to say that for the babies cases but once a cheeter always a cheeter. Move on you and the kids will be better off if he is doing what you think
2006-09-08 22:18:28 · answer #4 · answered by cowboygene2u 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well first if chucked means you punched him then that's wrong but men lie cause they are dumb and they would rather try to get away with something if they could then once they get caught then they know they really cant tell the truth so it continues into a big fat lie and the truth will never come out
2006-09-08 22:20:08 · answer #5 · answered by khissmyputtytat 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The truth is you could be supermodel hot but most guys just need to conquer as I put it NEW trim. Watch Eddie Murphy Raw and listen to his analogy about "The same old cracker".
2006-09-08 22:20:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Despite you being right in kicking him out for cheating, I think you have to expect that he would not talk to you either out of embarrassment for getting caught or anger for the same.
I am insulted by your question, ALL men do not ALWAYS lie.
2006-09-08 22:17:21 · answer #7 · answered by Raj 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i'm an agnostic no longer an atheist yet i will nevertheless answer your question as my tackle this seems correct to it. what's actuality? There are countless opportunities as to what could be. Christianity takes basically one view of this and says its maximum suitable, basically one out of such a lot of. we gained't be attentive to the actual nature of actuality. How ought to we? we don't have adequate counsel to be attentive to. apart from, whilst questioning bearing directly to the character of actuality there is no thank you to gauge what's greater in all probability than what because of the fact the priority we'd routinely use as a reference factor for estimating percentages is strictly what we are questioning. possibly the actual universe is all there is. possibly each thing is techniques & the actual universe is basically an phantasm because of the fact the philosophical idealists theory. according to possibility our thought of separateness between issues is an phantasm and all is one. possibly as a substitute of being the various guy or woman minds we journey ourselves as, we are one great techniques and returned, the separation between minds is an phantasm. according to possibility the universe is composed fullyyt of understanding. possibly understanding is the inspiration of all capability, it is the inspiration of all matter, so as that understanding is the beginning place of each thing that exists. according to possibility we live in some thing similar to a digital actuality. possibly there's a spiritual area it is the actual worldwide outdoors the digital actuality. From our vantage factor interior this digital place we predict of of the religious area as unknown, specific, sacred, outstanding, besides the fact that it ought to no longer be. possibly the religious area exists yet its basically uninteresting & mundane. according to possibility we chosen to pass into this illusory, digital actuality as an get away from it. or possibly solipsism is the actuality & purely my understanding and its phantasm exists. Or, possibly actuality is this, or that or this different undertaking, or possibly some thing that i've got no longer even seen yet, possibly previous my mind's eye & my comprehension in my contemporary state of life. it is no longer actual seeking to p.c.. basically one thought and say, "i will have faith in this." i does not opt to besides. The myriad opportunities open the doors to astonishing innovative wonderings & ponderings and being immersed in questioning approximately those issues is one in each of my superb joys in life.
2016-10-14 12:10:00 · answer #8 · answered by bridgman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im so sorry for u. I dont know what to say coz you're situation is just so complicated. Im sure that u wont hear me out if i'll advise u to leave him. so...please pray and listen to what your heart is saying. God bless.
2006-09-08 22:19:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hurrah for raj!!He is correct in saying that not all men lie-you really should not make assumptions deary-i too am insulted.
2006-09-08 22:26:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋