2006-09-08 21:56:05 · 8 answers · asked by Archange| 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Not sure about the nature of your situation but this is what I did when I was ready to get over my last serious relationship. Hope it helps:
Get a small journal or something and gather every single thing you have that reminds you of your bonny lass. Go through the stuff, play the songs, look at the pictures and write whatever thoughts and feelings that emerge. Cry, curse whatever you have to do to get your emotions out. When you are done be just that---done. Throw away the stuff (keep maybe one pic that isn't romantically connected like the two of you with a group of friends and stick it where you won't be tempted to stare at it like a keepsake box or something) and the journal, pat yourself on the back for having the ability to care for another so deeply and commit to getting on with life.
No playing "our song" over and over or lingering when it comes on the radio. Avoid your milestone places like where you first kissed, first date and such for awhile. If a situation that may bring up a memory of her can't be avoided just acknowledge it to yourself (ie. "Oh I remember doing this with so in so and we had a good time. Hope she is happy.") and then quickly focus your attention to something else.
Get a new hobby, join a social club (wine clubs, book clubs, sports clubs), learn a new skill (hint: cooking, sailing, etc. is like kryptonite to us women- ok at least me). Hang with the guys and keep yourself and your mind occupied on healthy everyday things.
Finally, date, date, date. The saying is true-- there are more fish in the sea (and often times better ones). It will take some time but before you know it the sting won't be so bad (especially with the pictures and such out of sight) and you will be enjoying life and who knows maybe even a new love. Good luck!
Note: If after all this you STILL can't shake the girl (knowing that it's over) seek a counselor.
2006-09-08 23:22:20 · answer #1 · answered by m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only time will ease the pain of your loss. To jump too soon into another relationship would be a mistake, not a solution; rebounds rarely last. So take it slow, and get to know someone as a friend first. All you can do is take one day at a time, and DEAL WITH IT!
I know it's hard no matter what age you are, but in general, the younger you are, the easier it is to bounce back. Also, the longer you are with the person who has left you, the harder it seems to be to adjust to their absence.
Just know that you are NOT alone! Many many of us are forced to face the agony & torment of a break-up we didn't want. I know this sounds like an over-simplification, but we just have to move on and believe that something better awaits us. Hang in there.....
2006-09-09 05:29:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has stopped loving you and there's no avenue to make up, then let go! I know it is not easy, but you have to.
Life goes on and its not the end of the world is it? Unless you learn to accept the truth in your mind, you will not be able to let go. Once you do it, you will have peace of mind and time will heal your hurt. You will then be able start the next chapter of your life.
What's past is past and what's matters for you is now. Use what happened to trigger the break-up as a lesson you have learned for the future, to ensure you do not make the same mistake again. To learn from your mistake is to progress and improve.
2006-09-09 05:06:59 · answer #3 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
simple ...............
just try and recollect the reason why u both separeted what were ur problems that u had during ur relationship.
there are two things that gonna happen either u will see that the girl doent worth a recall or else u will discover that the problem which broke u apart was not a problem at all and u actually can mend it .And be with ur loved one all over again
2006-09-09 05:01:26 · answer #4 · answered by sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its love there its so hard to forget , ever heard of loosing a loved one, but if you have mistakend love with feelings( you had feelings for the girl) then just live your everday life and it will get better.
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2006-09-09 05:00:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, think about her bad sides and focus on it. Second, try to get involve in something that you're interested with. Third, have fun with your friends. Last and the best way..though a bit unfair..is to get a new gf. Good luck!
2006-09-09 05:01:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from me, if you are truly in love with her, you will never forget about her. All you can do is hope that over time, her memory will become less painful.
2006-09-09 04:58:56 · answer #7 · answered by whidd2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't forget somebody you love by choice. in time... you will remember the girl, but maybe you will not remember the feeling anymore.
2006-09-09 05:10:43 · answer #8 · answered by windows82 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋