I have been with my boyfriend for a long time but I have a good male friend .. My b/f and I have been fighting alot and my friend has been there for me. I can never thank him enough for all her does..My friend is married ( I have know him for 17 years) his wife does not like me and my b/f can not stand him. Every time he has a problem at home he comes to me and I do the same. We have this connection I can not explain. He knows everything about me. About 2 months ago I had a big problem with my b/f and went to talk to my friend--I never thought of him as aanymore then a friend while I was talking to him we started kissing and one thing lead to another and we ended up having sex...It was incredible...I care about him and we talked about what happened and how we both wish it could happen again. I know its wrong but I have very strong feeling for him...mt b/f has accused us of cheating in the past it has not happened till now...should I tell him or just move on?
2006-09-08 21:43:58 · 24 answers · asked by chick29 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have never cheated on a boyfriend before and never had any intentions.. As far as ruining his marrage there is alot more then me in his relationsship problems..He right now stays with his wife out of obligation to his daughter...His marrage problem are not because of me.
2006-09-08 21:51:31 · update #1
If your boyfriend is the one that cause all your problems and make u unhappy then move on and ignore him.
Friends can be lovers it's possible because what brougth you closer is the one thing u can count on (Friendship) and to get u even closer that happens to be (a Relationship).
U can be together as long as u keep your friendship alive.
If he has a problem with his wife let him deal with it and wait when their relationship don't work out or he can divorces her to be with you.
It's best not to tell your boyfriend coz he already hates your friend...see if someone hates your friend and u go out with him then causes problems....Choose b/w the two.
If your friend chooses not to or can't divorces his wife then ..just be friends and forget what has been and don't worry about it.
if he says he wish it could happen again then...he should of been with you from the start and left his wife but it may not happen.
Don't act like nothing happen and yes u can talk about it but it best just to forget so u still ook at eashother as friend and JUSt friends!!
if he makes u happy...just go for it....no need to worry about ur b/f it's not like he is doing any good with u Now!!
2006-09-08 22:00:45 · answer #1 · answered by *~`h!8@Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a very hard situation with no winners, no matter what you decide to do someone will be hurt. it is possible that the pull you both feel toward each other is because you are soul mates and meant to be together, you do not say if there are any children involved which would also be another consideration, maybe the fact that you have been there for each other at times when you were feeling vulnerable has also led to you finding comfort with each other, only you can answer your own question as only you know your true feelings, think long and hard , weigh up all the pro's and con's and talk openly with your friend before you make any decisions, it will not be easy no matter what the outcome but i do wish you all well, good luck.
2006-09-08 21:54:46 · answer #2 · answered by mythmagicdragon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend isn't going to leave his wife, which I assure you he isn't-then move on and just act as though nothing has happened. There is nothing to be gained by telling your bf but clearing your conscience and hurting him, Do Not let this happen again, After all is said and done your friend will still be with his wife, your bf will end up getting tired of your BS and you will be the odd man out. Be realistic, good friends are harder to come by than lovers! Don't jeopardize the friendship with your behavior!
2006-09-08 21:51:28 · answer #3 · answered by old dude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you seem to be a very loving person..and there is nothing wrong with that. but you should be honest in any relationship..whether it is a "serious" relationship or not. you must understand, that everything you say or do in this relationship with your boyfriend is being monitored and known by you 'friend'...he can and never will trust you if he sees how you deceive the one whom you used to love...he will always (in the back of his mind) wonder if you will do the same to him....let him know how honest and trust worthy you are by telling your b/f the truth...yes consequences hurt but lies hurt worse in the long run. you need to consider this, your b/f is surely worth your honesty even if you feel he is not. everyone deserves to be told the truth. also consider how your friend is mistreating or lying to his wife. if he is not willing to let her go and move on as you are considering, where will that leave you. alone is the answer. you want the truth right....love deserves the truth... live a life free of 'what ifs' and live a life of truth. blessing to you on whatever you decide.
2006-09-08 21:54:43 · answer #4 · answered by yethelives 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it, both of you have to drop everything for each other to make it work and based on what your saying i doubt it, (but if I'm wrong you both should take the true path and drop the false relationships ASAP just don't be too surprised if that not what he wants) he is using you.
Wake up and smell the **** your in.
If I'm right drop them both and put it under your belt as a experience in life, as you can't repair it (NO YOU CAN'T EVEN IF HE NEVER KNOWS), move on, move on.
2006-09-08 21:53:28 · answer #5 · answered by Bill M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Such a triangle maayn! Woah!
To untangle it, dump your bf, whether u be honest with him or not, just move on. And about your friend, he's married! and has a daughter for God's sake!! Leave him too, get away, if possible to move to a different city or farther location, then do it, and don't let your friend into any details..
Start yourself a new life..
2006-09-09 00:38:40 · answer #6 · answered by chilla-z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him alone if you are his real friend i would leave him alone bc he is married and stay away for awhile for bf that is totally up to you if you still have feeling for him then stay with him but if you dont leave him but i would for your friends sake just tell him it was a mistake and i would stay away for awile so he can sort out things with a straight head bc you do not want to become the other women and him never leave his wife. i know this will be difficult but if you leave him alone will have plenty of time to really sort out his feeling with a straight head and he will make a clear dicsion with no pressure even though you might not mean to pressure him with you being around there will be so if do want to know his true feelings about being more then Just friends part i would just leave him alone for his marriage sake and see what happens from there. i know this sounds hard but it is for the best for both of you. like i said b4 if you stay away for awile then you will know where is true feelings lay.
2006-09-08 21:53:01 · answer #7 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are incredible ! If you're on such bad terms with your bf then why not dump him this moment? and if your "lover-friend" is cheating on his wife with you then why doesn't he divorce her and marry you? This would solve all of your problems and it will be a happy marriage indeed because you both seem to know and love each other. Good Luck !!!
2006-09-08 21:51:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When 2 people of the opposite sex get together a lot and tell each other everything, things are bound to get out of hand. I don't blame his wife for not liking you but I blame her husband for seeking you out all the time. And I don't blame your boyfriend for not liking him because whether you know it or not, even before you had sex, the two of you were intimate due to telling each other everything. The two of you need to decide if you will break up with each other, or if he will break up with his wife and you break up with your boyfriend and the two of you get together. If not, then it's best not to see each other anymore. Get a best girlfriend to tell your troubles to.
2006-09-08 21:49:38 · answer #9 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just one more cheating dirt bag,the same as your "friend" pure and simple.Never mind sugar-coating it with the whole life history thing,you and your cretin cheated,no-more-no-less.The two of you should have linked up 17 years ago,that would have saved the hurt,humiliation and trauma that OTHER people are going to go through because of your personal desires.It is women like you that give women a bad name,and cretins like him who give men a bad name,sod off and die,the both of you.
2006-09-08 22:16:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋