my dad gets mad at me for the stupidest reasons?

Question

then he'll yell at me and about 10 or 20 minutes of not talking to each other he wants to apologize and expects me to forgive him that easily. im not too good at forgiving people. i just say that i do so he'll leave me alone. but he always does this. why wont he leave me alone? he knows that i hate the town that i live in. i hate the school that i go to. i hate the people (teaches and students) who are there. and i dont want to have to come home and hate him too. he must want me to move out as soon as im done w/ highschool. maybe even before. cuz that is what im thinking. i want to go back to the town that i moved from and live in an apartment or something like that. he is the reason that i have the scars on my wrist that he never sees. i've run out of options. what do i do?

Answer 1

SCARS!!!! next time cut deeper

Answer 2

I swear, some of you just don't get it. Why do you think some people act the way they do? Kids are a direct reflection of their environment! Of COURSE she hates everything if her dad yells at her all the time for no reason. Him wanting her to forgive him just makes her hate him more because now she has to be fake and how dare he dictate her emotions and not give her time to work it out for herself? Believe me, chick, I understand where you are coming from. I used to have days where I wanted to kill everything I saw, whether I knew them or not. It is hard to grow up correctly in a war zone where YOU are the enemy. Some teenagers aren't typical "I hate everything cuz I'm 15" cases because most parents ain't Ward and June, you know? You sound like you've been holding it in though, girl. That's never good. Maybe you could try telling him, "Look, dude... I'm not ready to forgive you. When and IF I am, I will let you know. Until then, stay out of my face already." And if you can get out, with a legitimate job and everything to support yourself... do it. I did and it saved my life. Probably my mom's too. :0)
Everything is so much better when you aren't being told continuously what a $hitty person you are and how you do everything wrong all the time.

Answer 3

You sound pretty frustrated. If you're to the point of cutting yourself or inflicting injuries on yourself some other way, it's pretty serious.

My suggestion is to go see a professional counselor and tell that person exactly what you've written here. Counselors - good ones, at least - are skilled at helping people find options.

Do you feel like you could go to your dad and tell him you need to see a counselor, or would that simply open up a new set of complications?

If that doesn't seem like something you can do, does your school have a halfway decent counselor you can talk to? Sometimes those folks can help you find resources. So can your regular doctor. Give him or her a call.

If worse comes to worse, there's always the folks at the national depression and suicide prevention hotlines. They're available 24 hours a day, are toll free, and are usually staffed by trained counselors who are happy to listen, and who may have an idea of what resources are available to you.

So - even though it feels like you've run out of options, there are people out there who can help you find new ones. Please go talk to one of them. And good luck!

Answer 4

How about you go to a counceler and talk about your feelings to them? It could be the schools or someone out side the school system. You should depressed, and if you move your sadness might not go away, what happens then? You need to just talk to someone, show them your scars and they can help you be happy again. If you still hate there move out when you get out of HS but solve the cutting and depression. For your father... he is worried about you and he cant express how he feels to you. Talk to him, he can help you, but stay honestt and tell him not to yell at you. He will listen.

Answer 5

You sound soooo unhappy that I can only tell you to seek counselling, forget the school counsellor,(you hate that school), go to the nearest Medical Clinic, a walk-in type. Ask the doctor on call to refer you to "family" counselling. I know you don't like that idea, but there are many,many reasons you and your father are a "odds" right now, and although sympathy will be extended to you and probably criticism that you will find very negative, only a Professional can get to the root of the problems you are now facing at this point in your life. These ARE hard times for you as you grow into adulthood and come face to face with all of life's challenges. Be patient with your father, he loves you and as you grow into maturity, so does your father. Good Luck and let us know how you make out.

Answer 6

Dear Miss Dead heart,
I know someone who can help, but b4 that lets look into Dad. Just what you said is going on has got to make him a very frustrated person. I have known lotsa kids who wished their Dads would talk to them at all let alone care enough to raise their voice.(15 years as primary caretaker in a residential care center. I know you look at him as the one who knows cuz he was the big person who taught you stuff, we all get that perspective. Adults are really just big kids. There are lotsa new things for him if he just moved. If you want to start feeling better then know this. People feel good when they try to help someone else. Sounds to me like you have been depressed for a while and sometimes when a person is depressed on the inside they want to blame it on the situation they are in when sometimes it is actually a chemical imbalance where certain glands do not put out the right amount of this or that, and they have drugs that might help. Your school counselor can perhaps direct you toward a person who can figure all that out. Just so you know the major life events you mentioned cause lotsa people to get depressed.

Now about my friend. He is a super natural kinda guy who can and often does heal broken hearts. You have to ask Him for help because He is a gentleman and does not force himself on anyone. Because He is super natural He can come to you in the privacy of even a closet, or a bedroom. All you have to do is in all sincerity, and a desire to make things better and a heart that is willing to acept help, cry out to Him using His name and say please help me. Later you may want to ask Him to guide you on a more permanent basis, but for now you can just pour your heart out and He woill listen and help. His name is Jesus or you can call Him yes-u-ah. I know many who havecalled out and recieved help. Happy hunting, or hunting happy

Answer 7

Your Dad wants whats best for you he loves you and that's why he yells.He probably has a better job in this new location and can provide for you better.I am also a father and I was once a teenager.I hated new places growing up but we moved a lot.You will make new friends and get use to your environment.Don't take it out on him.

Answer 8

I would guess that the problems lie within you, not your Dad so much. There seems to be a lot of hate in you. You should work on relieving yourself of those burdens.

Oh BTW...get help with the wrist issue. There are better answers to your problems than that. Talk to your Dad. Make him listen.

Answer 9

I totally feel you up to the wrist cutting part, just keep your head up, and at the begening of each day before u get out of ur bed just try to mentally let every1 get a fresh slate...unless a person puts gum in your seat when i gave her the gum to chew, you know people like that your just piss you off ...sorry i was off track yah just keep your head up and smile when you first meet someone that day...it helps

Answer 10

Stop cutting yourself and go see a counselor. You need help right away. You should also speak to the father about the situation, even if you think he will not understand the situation. Cutting yourself is not going to help. Maybe go to friends that could actually help. I'm going to pray for you, and hope you find a solution to your problem.

Answer 11

Foregive. It is easy if you try and rewarding too. You will like the positive feeling it gives you. It takes more energy to hate than it takes to love. Once you come to realize that you will find contentment and happiness.