OMG My husband is cleaning. Now what?

Question

My husband cleans house rarely He NEVER cooks He tends to mostly create mess wherever he goes. I have 7 people in my home, 5 are children. While we do not have filth, things are in a little bit of disorder most of the time. I just cannot keep up with everyone. I work & go to school. I am only human after all

The house stays relatively clean. But then the kids are extra messy, I work late, or have finals and the house looks like a tornado hit it. This is when the 'Almighty Mr. Clean' arises from his throne to declare, this home a pitiful site unworthy of his presence, and sets to power cleaning. He wants to toss everything out, he yells at everyone. He cannot just clean he has to make a tirade. Acting as if he is the only one who EVER cleans.SHaking his head and asking why? over and over again. Like the 4 year old is going to answer him. They look at him like he is daft.

What should be my responce to this behavior? Am I to be thankful? How do I control the anger I feel? Yes, I luv him

Answer 1

GIRL I FEEL YOU my husband does the same thing god forbid he cleans once in while right lol just be glad he is cleaning and just tell everyone when he rants like that just to ignore him and let him clean. HE IS CLEANING AFTER ALL right
just let him do his thing girl he is just ranting there nothing to that rant im sure. or if you really want to talk with him about how you feel when he rants like that when he is cleaning but make sure you tell him that you do appreaciate the fact that he does help you when you confront him about his ranting
Well good luck to you i do feel for you i am also going to school and have a husband like yours and i also have a 4 year old and a 1 year old.and we have 7 people total in our house

Answer 2

I'm sorry to hear that you have married a manchild. I do all the cooking and when we clean house I help till it's done. The only thing I don't do is laundry. Even that I will do in a pinch. My point is that a lot of men (and some women too) even in adulthood, want a "mother" to take care of them because they're lazy.

Sounds like mom needs to take control of the situation in order for it to change because right now everyone is happy because you are doing all the work and they do little if anything. So why would they want the situation to change?

Start a chore list and include the kids. If they choose not to help, punish them in some fashion and stick to it. Take charge, girl! YOU CAN DO IT!

Answer 3

Talk to him.. first of all whatever the problem is convince him not to show it in front of your children. It's the worst thing for a child to know that things aren't like there supposed to be. Your house is for your kids the perfect world.. dont let him ruin it! Try to do the house work during talking or having fun with your husband or children, tell him to do the same.. don't think it as a "have to do" thing, be happy that you have the luxury of a house and the luxury to have it clean! From what i read, your children are full of energy, you're a very lucky parent!

Answer 4

You should be thankful for his cleaning. But if it were my husband I would sit down and have a talk with him. It seems like he is forgetting he is not the only one working. Just take time to calmly talk to him and explain that the kids do not understand that everything has its place and they are getting upset about his yelling. Tell him you are trying to get a career and work and take care of the house but it is hard and you would like him to help out sometimes and tell him if he is just going to yell and carry on that you would rather do it yourself. Guys are really weird when it comes to stuff like this, especially the ones that think women should take care of the kids and house and not need any help. This is a hard subject to approach and I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 5

have a place for the kids to put there stuff put a name on it and tell them that thay have to put there stuff away or out it goes into the garbage and do it an old friend tried this buy throwing out all there stuff through the kitchen window and the kids were so shocked that from then on if it was left out and not put away out it went the same with clothes put them in the hamper or you will have to wear them dirty cause i only wash clothes that are in the hamper good luck and ask your husbond if he would like you to yell like he does once a week give the kid who does the best work a special treat

Answer 6

He does it with the aid of fact he's a administration freak. i could tell him that it makes you sense rather undesirable, and if he cares approximately you he could cut back out the criticism. Then on days he can administration his criticism, tell him you savor it. provide him a hug for each time he does not make a remark. i could additionally divide up the chores in accordance to what makes him craziest. Say he mops the flooring while he gets abode for that Pine-Sol smell (my husband does a honest volume of cleansing with the aid of fact of my bronchial asthma, nonetheless I stay at abode-- possibly you should declare hypersensitive reactions!) and the loos, and you will do the laundry. my husband used to whinge approximately how I loaded the d/w and folded the laundry, till we had teenagers and we've been given so busy he replaced into basically grateful it have been given carried out in any respect.

Answer 7

Tell him you took a vote and nobody wants to be around him when he acts like this and then take the kids out for pizza. He'll enjoy the space and you get to come back to a clean house.

Answer 8

you should not be thankful for one. when the storm has calmed down and dissipated,
you should ask him if he thinks if you are doing a good enough job of being a wife, mother and student; i get the feeling that he does not really approve completely of you not always there to clean the house.
but asking him the question may shame him enough to make him more understanding
good luck

Answer 9

Surely your husband got another Women.
You should checked on him. This could be something fishy cos men to do something different when the there is changing in their routine. Slight changing of our routine could lead to unpredictable action or attitude.
Just take a good talk with him. Sure he will tell you something.

Answer 10

COME-ON BABY--YOUR HUSBAND IS CLEANING..DISTRIBUTE SWEETS IN THE WHOLE SOCIETY..(over-look his manly guesture) MAKE HIM FEEL GREAT, IF YOU THINK YOU ARE SMARTENEOUGH...SHOW IT. GIVE HIM ALL THE SEX HE WANTS, HE WILL GIVE YOU ALL THE WAY A PERFECT HUSBAND HAS TO BE.....YOU BE GOOD, HE WILL BE GOOD. (Dont tell me you never guessed or knew this , he will be of this type b4 you married him)
Take Responsiblity Of Your Own Action, FOR YOUW OWN-SAKE.. rest thoose angry females are going to miss-guide you cause they dont even have a husband or family.
GOOD HUSBAND -GOOD WIFE ...SO YOURKIDS WILL ALSO BE GOOD.GOD-BLESS