I'm a married woman and my husband likes for me to be on top but it hurts so much and I dont enjoy anything like that.... What can i do to please him I jsut like it when he is on top of me
2006-09-08 20:33:33 · 16 answers · asked by Tee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-09-08 20:36:08 · update #1
I guess it hurts b/c its very big and long
2006-09-08 20:59:24 · update #2
Hi Tee, I bet you were a virgin when you got marry.If this is the case,You will have to wait a while, So you can losen up and you may need help on that.If your husband would go down on you,this help alot to really losen you up.Once this happen, and you get used to riding on top,you will really like it.It makes a women feel in control and instance of him making love to you,You feel like you are the love maker.It's really a great feeling.
Clowmy
2006-09-08 20:49:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really shouldn't hurt, because your in control of the depth of penetration. I'd be willing to bet the real issue is more about your comfort level and different positions. Your husband loves you....he just wants to enjoy you. Sex is a lot of fun....explore it and experiment with it. You need to also be comfortable.....but try to relax and give a few things a chance. Your husband wants you on top so you can be in control and he can experience you making love to him.....if that position really doesn't work for you, use your imagination. The possibilities are almost endless.
2006-09-09 03:56:39 · answer #2 · answered by wendy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure why it hurts you so much, it shouldn't. There is a great book called 101 sexual positions for couples. You can probably find it on EBay.com or Amazon.com pretty cheaply, or even check to see if your local library has it. You could try it dogie style. Where you are on your hands and knees and he is behind you. A lot of men seem to enjoy this and you should to. You may also want to try a goggle search for sexual positions.
I hope this helps you at least a little.
2006-09-09 03:39:51 · answer #3 · answered by Kali_girl825 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried reverse cowgirl? Also if you are facing towards him, tell him that you are in control, sometimes leaning into his chest helps as well. Plenty of lubricate .. there are a lot of other positions that will help as well. Even one that is a lot of fun in the bathtub that Cosmo Kama Sutra Book has that is called Niagra Falls. I would strongly suggest looking for books that are related into Kama Sutra.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-09 03:35:38 · answer #4 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The reason why there is pain is actually physical. His penis is hitting your cervix and probably bruising it.
Tell him. Tell him hard sex on top is a nono, and learn together how to have sex in that position in a soft, gentle way.
2006-09-09 04:22:17 · answer #5 · answered by rohwaldy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You enjoy what you enjoy, you just need to tell him that, just communicate your wants and needs. No real man would want to hurt you, so he either complies with your wishes or you consider moving on to find someone who doesn't hurt you.
2006-09-09 03:37:38 · answer #6 · answered by live2ride 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
let him be on top first...then when you are feeling good change positions that always works for me...then just move as much as it makes you feel good you are in control when you are on top...
2006-09-09 03:38:23 · answer #7 · answered by Angie29 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't hurt on top. Actually it should be the most comfortable position. Maybe you should see your gyno. As far as pleasuring him I would try grabbing his *** and helping him.... well you know, a little harder.
2006-09-09 03:37:36 · answer #8 · answered by geskuh 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
then tell him that you like him to be on the top.
2006-09-09 03:50:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
practice makes perfect
2006-09-09 03:45:42 · answer #10 · answered by John 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋