is it too soon for me to be in aserious relationship or should i just be alone for awhile?
2006-09-08 20:00:46 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hi Karen,I was married for 24 yrs and found out he had been cheating for the last 7 of them.I tried to keep the family together for another 4yrs and they were the worst years of my and our children's lives.It took another 3 long years to get my divorce and I feel it was time wasted.Don`t do what I did,get out there and find someone who will love you (no exceptions).You only have one shot at this life and it`s far too short to sit around and wait or feel guilty.I found being alone awful and after a lot of pressure from my teenage daughter,I took the plunge and started dating again,it was a hard thing to do at the time ,but I met the most amazing man and we married 6yrs ago.I`m the happiest I`v ever been in my entire life.I thought I`d had a happy marriage,but it was nothing to what I have now.So my advice to you is don`t hang around,everything is possible,get some happiness back into your life. Good luck to you.
2006-09-08 23:01:14 · answer #1 · answered by AMANDA G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it time for a serious relationship ? well....only YOU can answer that, You have been sperated for 4 years and thats been a great break and uv had time to moved on some what. However.....if ur anything like me when the divorce finally came through it kinda upset u in a strange but deep way. U cant ignore that sorta thing. my advice ? leave it 6 months for anything serious, BUT no need to stop dating or anything just keep it light hearted till YOU are ready for the serious side......Its YOUR life and its about YOU ! thats the most importanant thing to realise now, u havent got a husband to be beside (or run after or clean up after etc etc) only thing......when ur ready....u will know it, trust me i speak from experience and it will hit u from no where lol
2006-09-08 20:30:48 · answer #2 · answered by Phantom Viper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no right and wrong time for any of lifes transitions you have to make up your own rules and find a way to listen to your self and your needs wants and fears.
No one knows what the legacy of your relationship and divorce is but there is bound to be some hurt and some feelings of tentativeness about making new realtionships - as others have said take it easy.
Make friendships and learn to start a different phase of your life and monitor what you liek and what you dont like - Its a good time to be free and learn about yourself in relationships.'Serious' will develop whenever you are ready. Have fun!
2006-09-08 21:29:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 years is plenty! I met my man 5 months after he left his wife and I was amazed when a few of his friends told him it was too soon for him to be seeing anyone! He had been wanting to leave her for 10 years but had been persuaded against his better judgement to stay. Happiness is not so readily available that you can just postpone it for a more convenient time. Don't worry about "rules" or what anyone else says. Just relax and go with the flow.
2006-09-08 20:18:28 · answer #4 · answered by Specsy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My god woman, 4 YEARS!!! you should have been out there 3 and a half years ago. There are soooooo many more fish in the sea and it doesnt have to be serious. Just go for abit of fun, you never know what itll turn into.
Good luck babe xxxxxxxxxxxx
2006-09-08 20:04:38 · answer #5 · answered by Liane 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take some time to adjust but that is dependant on you. In essence you have had four years to heal but now you need to sever the soul ties. Heal first my sister. The fact that you are asking this question would seem to suggest that a little more healing time would be good.
2006-09-08 20:21:47 · answer #6 · answered by insane2mad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do what feels right for you!
I separated from my Husband March this year, Our divorce hasn't come through yet and he's already moved in with his girlfriend........
I think 4 years is long enough! Good luck!
2006-09-08 20:30:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 years is a long time, it depends on how you feel in yourself don't rush in just because others are doing it or he has someone else etc, do it for yourself - I was single for a while as I spent too many years with him and wanted my freedom and have fun with my friends and make new ones too and I felt strong enough to move on then without having someone else to stress me out.put me down etc.
2006-09-08 20:10:04 · answer #8 · answered by flowerpower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest being alone for awhile and get used to being your own person. Find out who you are and what it is you really want in life.
2006-09-08 20:49:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG
Not too soon at all. I would of had a bf when seperated.
Four years is a very long time.
Go for it girl
2006-09-08 20:14:53 · answer #10 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋