I really really like this boy hes super cute , funny and nice , but hes my age (19) and lives at home, and he has a little job, he doesnt have all that much money, and he doesnt have a car and ,those are major things I think a bf should have
2006-09-08 19:28:55 · 19 answers · asked by goldieluxxx 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Don't settle.
2006-09-08 19:30:30 · answer #1 · answered by tina m 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Money shouldn't be an issue, but the sad truth is that it usually is. But while we're on the subject: the guy you like is 19 years old and you're expecting him to have a car and lots of money? Most 19 year olds don't have both of those things unless they were born with a silver spoon in their mouth. If you are expecting a man to be funny, nice, cute, and rich at 19, I think you have your own problems. Because of that and your age, I believe you are too young and immature to have a serious relationship. I'm 20 years old, but I'm very mature for my age, if you couldn't tell by these excerpt. Don't expect too much out of a 19 year old. I think you should date the guy anyways just to see what he's like. You're young; don't jump into serious relationships so fast. Date a variety of guys so you'll know what you like and by the time you get older and more mature, you can enter the dating world with an idea of what you're looking for.
2006-09-08 19:42:33 · answer #2 · answered by mikey062804 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If YOU think it should be an option (and you say you think a bf should have those things), then I think you've answered your own question, no? Personally, I've never given a damn about whether someone has money or not.... I know I'm in the minority here, but a person's good heart and good values are MUCH more important. I would go so far as to say that when someone does have a lot of money, it seems their values are messed up.
2006-09-08 19:34:53 · answer #3 · answered by Helaine D 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
no not really, but yes money does help, but your boy friend is young and he is trying at least you said he has a job, give him a chance. if you love him money should not matter. at 19 years of age that is pretty good that he is working. so what he doesn't have money or car for right now, just give him a chance, maybe he is saving up for a car.... be patient with him....if you go after a guy just for more money you may end up losing...
2006-09-08 19:48:59 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I started seeing my partner 5 years ago and he didnt have a great job but at least he was working. I dont look at a man's finances. Its not about what he can provide for you. Its about what YOU BOTH can bring to a relationship and it doesnt have to be money either. If you both love, respect and treat each other equally it is more important than what he has in his pocket.
I work fulltime and am pregnant, my partner has cancer and is receiving treatment and has no job. By and by i am with him through the thick and the thin and that is the way it should be.
2006-09-08 19:32:37 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
More important than money at his age is ambition, as in what he hopes to become and how he plans to get there. When he talks to you does he mention making a better life for himself or is he still hung up on speakers and rims? And what are you doing for yourself? You need to learn NOW that you have to build a life around the idea of being totally self supportive. With or without him you have to be able to take care of yourself, otherwise you will be just like him depending on someone else who won't be around forever. When you have your own car, job, money, ect.. then you find someone.
2006-09-08 20:21:15 · answer #6 · answered by jbsim75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is only 19.He has not had the chance to get ouy and make big money yet.Besides money is just an object it is easy to get.When choosing a mate look for love.It can be hard to find.If you can find true love you can about do without the money.
2006-09-08 19:35:01 · answer #7 · answered by Desperado 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i'm overjoyed for you if a million - he's as devoted to following Jesus as you're 2 - he has the means (or the aptitude means) to assist you once you're married 3 - you know him interior and out (2 months is a few distance too quickly IMO yet i'd be incorrect) 4 - that both one of you're widely used with the help of maximum persons of the others friends and loved ones 5 - that your proposed existence plans adventure up contained in the significant information (ie little ones y/n, position of worship, academic aspirations and achievements, friends, nuclear kin, occupation(s), area(s), funds..............
2016-11-25 21:42:44 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL NO it shouldn't matter. He's freakin 19!! All that is important is that you like him and that he has a job and has a good work ethic. Get over it--he's not super rich and doesn't have a car.....cry me a damn river!
2006-09-08 19:30:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well sure you should think by 19 he would be alittle man and have something right??? I know a 19 year old that has his own yard business..and he does very well..at 50 dollars a yard.. he buys the equipment he needs and repairs it too with the money he makes and he is a very good manager of his business..So sure why not ..they should have responsibilties...hope i helped..
2006-09-08 19:37:20 · answer #10 · answered by ck1_content 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I dont think anything is wrong with it being an option, however it should NEVER be the main or only option.
2006-09-08 19:44:00 · answer #11 · answered by High? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋