lately i feel like packing up my bags and leaving my home for a few days alone without my husband and my kids whats wrong with me seem like since he stopped working and started laying his lazy asss around the house and hanging with his friends all the time and in between me coming home to kids screaming and running through the house immediately when i get home i just feel like turning around and going back out the door why do i feel this way?
2006-09-08 19:11:27 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe you should pack up your bags for just a weekend and give him a dose of his own medicine. If you can go without worrying that he will neglect your children and step up and realize what it's really like. My hubby works and helps me with my son (for the most part) but there are times I would like to leave for the weekend and stay in a hotel alone. I had a career before my son and planned to be a stay at home mom but I recently came to the conclusion that I have to go back to work part time...to maintain or get back my sanity. Honestly, it's hard caring for children and when you don't have a supportive husband, I imagine it's unbearable. You shouldn't have to support his lazy @ss and I say take a stand...if he doesn't get his act together you should kick his @ss out. You don't want your children getting the idea that it's okay for him to behave in this way and hell you will have one less mouth to feed. Desperate times call for desperate measures. Best of luck to you.
2006-09-08 19:24:35 · answer #1 · answered by chrissy757 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and let him know that you need help around the house. You love and respect the guy time but family time is more important and though you know he will be working soon (hopefully) you want him to bond more with the kids and give you some free time.
Let him know that you also need time and maybe take one night for guy time and one night for you to go out! You are probably burned out and let's face it the whole thing sounds a little overwhelming!
Sounds like the mutual respect needs to start happening! Who is raising the kids? Tell him how you feel and that he needs to get working and help you out! You may or may not be a stay at home Mom but I hope you are, it's the best well there young and he should be backing you up all the way! I think when the kids are young you give up the guy time for family time (except occasionaly), he needs to be a man an help you! Good luck!
2006-09-09 02:35:50 · answer #2 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're stressed out. You need a vacation. Your husband is being very inconsiderate of you and your needs. You need to nip this in the bud girl. Put your foot down. Yell if you have to. Don't let him walk all over you like this. Be sure to punish your kids too. Sometimes crying helps. Show them that you'r serious and they all need to straighten up their act. Don't leave irresponsibly though. Make plans in advance. Hire a sitter and do what you wish with or without your husband. Everyone needs a break now and then. Just because you have a full time job doesn't mean you're not MOM all of the time.
2006-09-09 02:44:28 · answer #3 · answered by charity2882 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is mere frustration. This will happen to every woman if husband resigns his job. They tend to have infiriority complex. A fear that u may not take care of him. Are his friends of the same kind free brids that same feathers are flocking together.
In that case no use escaping from the house
Because he gets tounted more. Tell ur parents
or brother never to inlaws they tend to support him saying
afterall he is a man and only ladies should adjust and all that crab. Even their family friend can help. Never leave the house in this environment. Kids get frightened. Best thing is ignore him even if shouts for kids sake. If the kids are old enough to understand tell them to ignore father.
2006-09-09 02:23:31 · answer #4 · answered by ketav 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are not happy with how things are going on right now and need some alone time to get your head together..
You should also talk your husband and explain that he needs to play the part of husband and not teenage son. You need his support like he needs yours and now is the time....
Stress is not a good thing can cause damage to your body so take it easy.. Maybe an oatmeal bath will help or a nice read in the park alone ...I wish you the best
Good Luck
2006-09-09 02:22:40 · answer #5 · answered by Tee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are totally not alone in feeling this way!! I too have had those thoughts and I dealt with it by going away for a weekend all by myself and it was great. By the end of my little getaway I was beginning to miss my family so it accomplished what I wanted it to. Sometimes it is good to be away from it all so you can be just you and not 'mommy' or 'wife'...too often as women we give too much to everyone else and leave nothing for ourselves. So start planning and give yourself some TLC, you'll be a better mom for it.
2006-09-09 02:42:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My girlfriend had the same kind of husband. SHE worked 3 jobs & HE wanted HER to get another one! HE wasn't working or attempting to find a JOB!!!
I have been right where you are. JUST go, LEAVE, TAKE a break from everything & everyone. MAKE sure HE Knows WHY you are taking a MINI VACATION!!!
LET HIM KNOW, YOU EXPECT things to be cleaned etc when you get back!!!!
YOU have a RIGHT to feel that way!!! It is extremely stressful to come home to that situation! START yelling!!! LOL MAKE YOURSELF HEARD!!! Don't bottle all this up inside!
YOU might want to consider FAMILY COUNSELING!!! Start with YOUR local Mental Health Clinic. They do wonders!
2006-09-09 02:32:11 · answer #7 · answered by jennifersuem 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For good reason! Your being taken advantage of, by your husband and your burnt out!
When you can arrange it, take off for a couple of days or a week. Leave him a note, tell him you needed to get away and when you think you'll be back! You need time away to think about things!
It will be his job to tend to the bills, food and beer money, I wouldn't leave him any money. I would see to it there was stuff for the kids but that would be it. It's his job to provide!
2006-09-09 02:29:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are overwelmed and your husband is not helping you out. He should at least get the kids in order if he is not working. He also should be doing the chores around the house.
2006-09-09 03:49:15 · answer #9 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it!!! Or better yet, go on strike! Tell hubby and kids you will do NOTHING except go to work! Let them figure out what's for dinner, who gets the kids up and ready for school, how do the dirty clothes get clean without the "laundry fairy". You should not be expected to do everything. Don't let them take advantage of you girlfiend! Good luck!!!!
2006-09-09 02:17:08 · answer #10 · answered by Cinner 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋