ok.....My bf and i have been together for 3 years. I love him and he loves me, and just like any other couple we have had our fights and arguments.
Most of the times...i go to my mom for advices and i guess i havent realize that everytime i go to her...she dislike my bf more and more.
Now we r just expending more time together and she cant accept the fact that we may have a future together.
She has basically told me that i if i go ahead with this relationship, she will be out of my life....i dont know how else to talk to her...she just doent understand me....
How or what can i say to her..?
2006-09-08 19:09:04 · 8 answers · asked by Martita 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Dont share with her anymore.....
2006-09-08 19:15:52 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happens with friends and mothers. Every time you have a fight with your bf - you get mad and hurt and run to mom and tell her how awful he is.
She sees her baby girl crying and hurting and supports you and loves you - and hates him for hurting you.
Then you talk to him, he sweet talks you, there's affection and private stuff, you make up.
Mom never saw any of that.
Now you go back to her and try to tell her how great he is, but she seems distant. She still remembers vividly how upset you were just a little while ago. She remembers how he hurt you -even if you now forget. She never got any apology, any flowers, any promises from him.
Over and over it goes.
Now, you have no idea why she's feeling a little cool towards him? He keeps hurting her baby girl!! She probably wishes he'd just disappear so it won't ever happen again. She loves you, but she's waiting for the break up to happen, again.
It's a rough place to be in.
What to say to her? Just leave her out of your personal relations. Keep your business with your lovers, to yourself.
2006-09-09 02:50:01 · answer #2 · answered by lucy_shy8000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest there is only one thing you can do! I don't mean to put you down so please don't take this wrong as I am truly trying to help! Apologize to your boyfriend and your mom for making him such a jerk at times, imagine the situation reversed and he told his mom things about you, you get the jest!
I would tell you mom that you exaggerated to get the attention and never gave her his side!
Tell her to please give him a chance on his merits and learn a lesson here, mom's love deep and we're very protective, tell her that you appreciate her very much!
I would try and keep your problems with him not around her, what can you except? She loves you and nobody that loves you is going to be crazy about anyone or anything hurting you!
Good luck!
2006-09-09 02:13:42 · answer #3 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's only getting one side of the story.....the bad side all the time. Try telling her about the good things he has done for you. Of course your mom is gonna hate him, she is your mother and protective of her daughter.
But then again....she is older and wiser. And you can't polish sh*t! Maybe he is a jerk and you can't see it?
I think you have to ask yourself....is this what I want for the rest of my life and will I be happy and satisfied? If not....move on. Don't marry thinking you're gonna change him....he is who he is.
Just my thoughts.....
2006-09-09 03:28:40 · answer #4 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you got to pick between them,,,sorry she gave you the ultimatium, I would usually pick against the person giving me that, but she is your mom, so I would try to talk to her, she must have a reason to be saying this, and she should be thinking of what is best for you, so keep that in mind, also know that she will always be there for you in the future, but may not be there for a while if you pick him...is he really worth all that....there are plenty of good guys out there, so look around before picking against mom.....
2006-09-09 02:21:10 · answer #5 · answered by wizzard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs to let u live Ur life and let u do what you want instead of making childish threats!
2006-09-09 02:13:46 · answer #6 · answered by cute_redneck_girl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's a mother, she'll get over it!!
2006-09-09 02:11:19 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get Married...........she'll understand..........
2006-09-09 02:16:36 · answer #8 · answered by nathaniel b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋