We had a baby a little less then a year ago. When we first got together...he told me he was separated from his wife. So I took a chance and started dating him ... but he's still not divorced. He has gotten the paper work together and stuff but thats it..I feel as if i have been lied to and maybe deserve better. Am I being too harsh?
2006-09-08 19:07:02 · 12 answers · asked by bigbratbabygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok he broke it off with her because she is a very violent person she slit her wrist and blamed him for it we were ok with each other then something happend im not sure but she is 300 lbs and she is really nice at first but then gets violent he said the only reason they got married was for cheaper car insurance they had a son but she wont let him see his son long story so he decided to singn off all rights because she wont let him see him and she is also planning to move to florida so ok the 7th of this month is his bday and she called him and started flipping out on him last year so i took phone off the hook this year .. ok so that should be enough..
2006-09-08 19:24:28 · update #1
Yes, it may take a while and money he doesnt have....
2006-09-08 19:21:54 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not. If he plans on being with you then he needs to move on. The real question is what kind of marriage that he was in that he do not really want to break it off? And who broke up with who? Are you on talking terms with his ex to find out why it went sour....
I would look into this a little more before I got so serious with this person. Maybe he is still in love with her and if she decides to come back to him he will leave you in a heart beat..
Talk to him and ask him how he really feels about the previous marriage and why he still holding on to something that is not there?
I know a man who was with a woman for years hooked up with my BF and the whole time there is the other woman in the pic however it always seems as if its the other woman that is messing with my BF calling her house etc... come to find out e has been telling her things to make her think that it may be another chance at getting back together.... What is he really saying to this woman and if he wanted to leave her he would have done it a long time ago... dont you think....2 years is nothig at all to be with someone 2 years I was getting to know my husband... However, I feel that you need to chill a bit and see what happens...
But if that was me I would have left a long time ago I will be second to no one
2006-09-09 02:13:10 · answer #2 · answered by Tee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so...
He's separated from her so it's not like he's with her when he's not with you. Just because he's not divorced doesn't mean anything. Hugh Hefner has been separated from his wife for some time and they're still not divorced even though he had had countless girlfriends since then.
But, you should still keep your guard up just in case. Tell him that you'll feel better about your relationship if he took the last step and divorce his past.
2006-09-09 02:08:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can't be too serious of a relationship if the guy's still married. Why in hades did you have a kid with someone before you're married anyway? By your description you didn't wait very long before getting knocked up. Very classy. In short, you can't blame him exclusively, you are responsible for the current status of your life.
2006-09-09 02:15:35 · answer #4 · answered by 101pupil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, you shouldn't have gotten involved with a married man!!! Doesn't sound like there is a future here - you put the cart before the horse and were selfish, and now no one is happy. Sometimes it pays to delay gratification, eh?
2006-09-09 08:14:13 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you ******* a married man deal with the consequences...she is always going to be there even if they get a divorce because they have a child together..
2006-09-09 04:36:15 · answer #6 · answered by Angie29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no youre not too harsh. First, he needs to make a decision. Its not fair to you or his wife. You should put your foot down and tell him its time to make up his mind and follow through with it.
2006-09-09 02:10:23 · answer #7 · answered by lil_jammo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no..i dont think your being harsh..he said he was going to get a divorced..and he didnt..he lied to you...and it also shows that...hes not sure if he wants to..but then again..do you want him to be in your life? so that your baby can have a father? its a tough choice, think it through..
2006-09-09 02:09:36 · answer #8 · answered by Ginny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you are going to date someone else also as long as he stays married, and see what happens, if he leaves then you never had him, if he gets the divorce final, then he is yours...
2006-09-09 02:11:25 · answer #9 · answered by wizzard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your not...some guys procrastinate to see how much they can push it with their recent girl annnnd what they can still do with the ex...this guy could be scared seeing how serious you are or doesn't want to ruin things with the ex...if you see no progress whatsoever,DUMP HIM.
2006-09-09 02:11:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you stupid? No ofence but NEVER look for a married man and HAVE A BABY with! damn!
2006-09-09 02:10:31 · answer #11 · answered by Jerdy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋