Should teens always obey thir mom?

Question

Should we always obey our moms or are there cases when it's reasonable to disobey? Sometimes she can tell you something out of order. I don't say crazy things like cutting yourself with a knife, or things like stealing or killing, but things that don'tseem reasonable at all. Some moms tell their kids to do things that embarass them and have no logical reason, maybe just because they think it's beautiful. On YA I read a message of a 13 yo girl who has to wear frilly pinafores even when she's not doing something in the kitchen, just because her mom thinks it's the right thiong to do. This doesn't make sense (my mom is not like that, but forces me to do things I dont consider reasonable, and at least so far I've obeyed just because she's my mom)

Answer 1

You should always be respectful to your mother.

Truly try to understand her point of view on things. Give her the benefit of the doubt.

If you really don't understand her reasoning, don't get hysterical, just tell her that you don't understand, but that you'd like to.

Tell her that you respect her wishes then ask her if there is a reasonable compromise between your wishes and hers.

Most people, including mothers, respond well if they feel respected and trusted.

However, if your mother is completely nuts then you're screwed. If you obey, you're probably doing something wrong. If you disobey, you're inviting her wrath.

I'll pray that your mother is a sane and reasonable woman.

Good luck.

And by the way, this was a great question. I think you'll get lots of answers.

Answer 2

People judge teen parents because of what the statistics show. That the VAST majority of them are ill prepared to have a child. They're less likely to be financially independent, less likely to succeed in their relationships but MORE likely to have another child within 2 years. Shows like "Teen Mom" (which I don't think has EVER had a passably intelligent subject) don't help your cause. And some of the other answerers were right about teen parents acting like the world is out to get them and they're the only ones who are judged...every person on earth, but especially every parent, is judged for everything they ever do. Also, I can't help but notice that teen mothers on this site and others are seemingly incapable of asking a question or providing an answer that doesn't announce that they are a teen parent. As if that fact makes them more worthy of sound advice and/or praise than any other parent. Would I change my username on here to "26 y/o Mommy"? No, that would be stupid.

Answer 3

Most Moms have a reason...either personal experience or someone close to them. No, I would'nt make my daughter wear frilly clothes, but she is NOT wearing the jeans that show her butt, or are so tight that the seams disappear UP her butt.We have lived just a little more honey, and sometimes we do know what we're talking about. My daughter is 14, and we don't always agree, but she knows there is an issue of trust working here. Violate my trust, and it"s very hard to get it back. Don't disobey mom just to disobey her. Remember that she loves you, more than you can know.

Answer 4

No, you don't always need to obey your parents. If your parents have really stupid rules, and you've explained as sensibly as you can a to why you don't like it, then the obviously don't cre about your opinion. I think being a teenager is about growing up, finding new things and accepting new responsibility. Parents that deliberately patronise or embarrass you deserve the same amount of respect they show you.

The best tactic is to get good grades, smile, be polite and agree with them. Then do whatever you want. That works for older siblings, teachers and bosses too.

Answer 5

It seems like you are an obedient child, lucky you. If I had more sense and listened to my mom in the past I probably would have eliminated much of the heartaches and pain in my life. Regrets always come last yet we go on. Your mom I am sure just wants whats best for you, because she loves you and like most moms maybe will try to do everything to make life easier for you. Whatever it is you decide on remember always that she is on your side or why else would she bother .

Answer 6

No, I mean you should try and do what you are asked to do, but in the real world sometimes parents just expect things that they had to do and sometimes it just isn't good for todays society. I am a mom of a 23 year old and I am sure that she may have heard me, but when I wasn't around she did what she wanted. Thats life and I know that I did it when my mom said things. That how we learn and experience things. Just remember that we say these things so you don't have to learn lessons that you really don't have to if you would listen us. But again we all find that we learn the hard way.

Answer 7

You should always obey your mom. Remember, they're moms and they want the best for all of us. So every rule and order should be obeyed because they are good FOR YOU. I mean telling you to eat healthy food wouldn't make HER any healthier but you right? Love them, treasure them, anything. Because you know someday you will miss these days with your mom. This is all my opion and belief. Thank you for reading this.

Answer 8

if you're talking about your mom telling you to do things "just for show" then it's reasonable to have a calm (i.e. no yelling or changing the tone of your voice) discussion with your parents and express why you think it's not necessary. be sure to hear her out too, don't interrupt when she's speaking; let her finish her thought. you seem like a good kid, but just remember you live under her roof so you have to follow her rules...i know it's cliche, but she's your mom, she provides for you and takes care of you, and she's been through more stuff than you, so chances are she knows what's best.

if you get anything from this, it's this point: make sure you keep the lines of communication OPEN, CALM, and mature. mom's like seeing maturity in their kids. trust me. my mom loves me. haha.

Answer 9

As a former teenage daughter and now a mother, yes, there are times that it is more reasonable or realistic to do your own thing. Just treat your mom with respect when it is reasonable, and understand that she may not agree with you just like you don't always agree with her. Odds are, though, that you will be fine even when you do your own thing.

Answer 10

For the most part yes because she's been around for more years and knows much more than you know.

Sure you can disobey SOME of the time but your mother is usually correct, never underestimate mommy.