I found out that the other day my boyfriend called my bestfriend to ask for advice about a surprise gift he was buying me, it turns out that they talked on the phone for about an hour which seems very odd to me. She told me that he called and then I asked him about it later. They both told me they talked about the life and whatnot and their stories match up but something just doent feel right to me.
I told him never to call her again because they are not friends like that and he said ok and apologized but when I was telling her how I felt she got an attitude and told me he called her again later on that night, although I checked his phone and he didnt call her. I dont know if both of them are lying or what. My friend told me that what we were talkin about was dumb & got an attitude. WHo should I believe ? Any good advice that can help me please!!
2006-09-08 18:24:28 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Monitor the situation, see if you can catch him in the act. Like act like everything is all good then he will start making dumb mistakes. Then give him some freedom and continue to watch, if you are all up in the face he will be more careful but if u back off(it is hard) then both might screw up and you will see for sure what is going on if anything really is going on.
2006-09-08 18:29:48 · answer #1 · answered by sirsayer21 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you get suspicious over what sounds like a harmless phone call it seems you have some issues with insecurity. If the stories match AND make sense, you need to take a closer look at yourself and the reasons behind your insecurity. If I were your friend I'd have gotten an attitude too if I knew I'd done nothing wrong. I'm sorry, but I have to add that since you are not married, you had no right at all telling your BF he could NOT call your friend again, no wonder they are both upset. At this point I'd suggest therapy to discover why you are so distrustful. And I really do wish you all the best, you can't live not trusting those you love, if things don't change you'll find yourself alone with no one wanting to be around you, PLEASE seek help before it gets out of hand. God Bless hon.
2006-09-09 01:38:26 · answer #2 · answered by Daydream Believer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that perhaps you were being a bit oversensitive. Your boyfriend is friendly with your friends, and was asking about a gift for you. He apologized. Your bestfriend got an attitude, did you confront her with an attitude? Perhaps she had an attitude because she feels that you don't trust her. She was helping him with a gift for you and you accuse her of trying to steal your boyfriend? Not nice. You checked his phone, they didn't talk again. Apologize, tell them you were overreacting, and hope that they both love you enough to let it go. Don't let your jealousy ruin both relationships.
2006-09-09 01:33:12 · answer #3 · answered by mightymite1957 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If they spent an hour talking and got defensive than I would say they were getting to know each other better. You will save yourself a lot of pain by finding better friends.
2006-09-09 01:28:41 · answer #4 · answered by Ned B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump them both. Who wants a boyfriend that talks to your best friend and vice versa without your permission. How disloyal can some people be. Can't they see that only you are the master.
2006-09-09 01:31:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Sounds like the friend wants your man I'd watch her. So far hubby sounds innocent.
2006-09-09 01:29:59 · answer #6 · answered by tpurtygrl 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you should just watch it for now........too early to come to a conclusion. keep your eyes open.
2006-09-09 01:34:09 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Mandeville 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋