My husband and I have been married for 6 years... He loves to have sex everyday .....However I do not only want it like once a month... he gets really upset about this and I dont want to hurt his feelings but I just dont like to have sex... Hes 56 and I'm 25 How can I please him and myself at the same time
2006-09-08 18:11:29 · 30 answers · asked by Tee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
meet somewhere in the middle, If you love him and want him to be happy then can you try more? even if you're not "in the mood" maybe you can get there. talk to him about foreplay. A nice back rub and all-over kisses might make you pur. At 25, once amonth is a kinda infrequent, so ask yourself " do I really enjoy sex?" see if you can find ways on wich to do so. read some books and experiment. if you like it more, you'll want it more.
2006-09-08 18:20:38 · answer #1 · answered by BNLCy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl let yourself relax---he is your husband afterall . shave--play with yourself during sex. Sex , and love go hand & hand.....So, you better learn how to enjoy it , or eventually he will find someone who does enjoy being with him!Sex is wonderful , a very enjoyable thing when it is done right anyways . You have to figure out what feels good to him by trying all kinds of things . He should do the same for you also , be creative. I'm going to tell you , if you don't want to be alone--> you must find a way to enjoy sex , or learn to compromise on having it more often than you like! Once a week would be a good compromise between once a day , and once a month.
2006-09-09 01:23:27 · answer #2 · answered by listenup_yall 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were 19 and you married a 47 year old man? That alone would suggest that there is something much larger than differing libidos in your relationship. I'd figure you're more of a trophy than a partner (and the desire for a daily romp is very clear evidence of that as well) You two are going to need some serious counselling if you are going to change that situation. Good luck
2006-09-09 01:19:54 · answer #3 · answered by Johnny Canuck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that the flame on the candle is burning out on your marriage. Having sex with your husband should be something wonderful not worrying about hurting the other partner feelings of not wanting it all the time. To me it seems like if you have lost int rest in your husband because of the age difference. Now 31 years is a big difference in a relationship. Especially in the attractiveness towards you. All I can say is you need to be honest with him and tell him how you feel don't be lingering him into something that is not real anymore it's not fair to him nor to you.....
2006-09-09 01:28:56 · answer #4 · answered by Krissy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he know this before marriage? If so, he should be patient with you and willing to wait. If he didn't, it may be an emotional issue you have with him or sex. There are many underlying reasons for the decrease in your sex drive. It's not abnormal for a woman's (or a man's) sex drive to drop off. In my opinion, what you need to do is examine whether you don't enjoy intercourse in general or just with your husband. I agree with some of the others when they said you need to talk to him about it. If he gets defensive and angry, most likely you need marriage counseling. If he doesn't want to go that route and doesn't seem to want to work it out, there may be no chance of salvaging your marriage.
2006-09-09 02:19:35 · answer #5 · answered by DrkCrwlr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok you are 25 ! and he is 56 ? girl take advantage of the older man syndrome.. don't you know that older men will give you sex the way you want it I mean they don't want to go chasing girls again it is too hard.. so they'll do everything to you as long as you give a little and make him wait then give a little more tease him, older guys love that stuff and in return he will give to anything...if you p---- whip him you'll only have to worry about sex once a month.. he wont be able to have it all the time he'll be drained out....lol..lol..lol..
2006-09-09 01:44:50 · answer #6 · answered by pinballsuz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
y do u like sex only once a month maybe he's not doin it right.you can try doin 69 so that ya both recievin oral sex at the same time.or u can let him finger pop u while u jerk him off.but if u want to be pleased at the same time than y not just have sex.is their an emotional reason or lack of emotion that make u not want to have sex that often.
2006-09-09 01:16:20 · answer #7 · answered by jade 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There must be a reason you don't want to have sex with him. Are you in love with him? I mean there is a big age difference if you married for the wrong reasons this could be a problem. Sex is a big part of a relationship exspecially to men. You may need to reevaluate your relationship it may be time to move on.
2006-09-09 01:18:20 · answer #8 · answered by confused 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ur husband is going strong even at 56. Normally, men at his age lose interest in sex. Ur lucky gal. Satisfy him, as well as ask him to satisfy u. Whereas abt ur prb, talk to him that u dont want to have it everyday, make him understand by ur love. I think he will understand u.
2006-09-09 01:39:32 · answer #9 · answered by ashlesha19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to break it to you, toots, but he probably married you half for your body and to get it. When a man more than twice your age and who could be your father marries you, it has to be about that most of the time. Sorry, you'll just have to put up with it; I'm guessing he was married before- why don't you find out why he ditched his other wife/wives? Probably because they got old and ugly and stopped screwing. Sorry this is so cynical, but when I see a spade, I call it a spade.
2006-09-09 01:18:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋