Well, recently my ex-boyfriend and I had broke up like 2 days ago, and we brke up for the dumbest reason ever. I don't know why, call me selfish, but whenever he is having such a fun time with his friends I get really pist because he starts acting different. And I hate that crap. So one night when I called him he didn't pick up, and i called hsi friends and they ddint pick up either, and i called his house and his grandpa said he's not home, which was fu*ken BULLSH*T! So I went over there that ight to get my puppy's bed and stuff, and i knocked on his window to call him, and what a surprise, I see him and his friends, and I got mad, and i knocked on the window again, but this time the window BROKE in many pieces. And I was so frustrated because it was an accident. And he ran out yelling and talk sh*t, and I was made but I didnt apologize really, all I did was yell back! I feel so bad, and his amily hates me now. and its hard to move on. he had abused me in the past many times. 1 1/2 yr
2006-09-08 18:10:04 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get out of this relationship now. He's abusive and dishonest and it looks like you have a tendancy to become violent. You need support from adults and I would advise you to welcome any help they can give you. Please, for your sake, don't persue this relationship any longer.
2006-09-08 18:13:19 · answer #1 · answered by Jeanne G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if he was an abusive boyfriend you should be glad that you are finally away from him. I know you may love him, but he obviously doesn't love you if he would abuse you. No one deserves to be abused in a relationship, guy or girl.
As far as the fight which caused the two of you to break up, you are right, it was silly. Every person needs their alone time with friends away from their boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife. I'm sure while he was hanging with the guys and kept getting bothered by you it got on his nerves. That's not to say that he didn't like you or anything like that, but it sounds like each time he hung out with his pals you got upset and that's not fair. Obviously you were really upset if you knocked on the window so hard that it broke. Getting so mad about such a small issue is never good. I suggest paying to replace the window and apologizing to his family and him as well.
It may seem hard to move on at first, but with time it will get better. The two of you obviously didn't have a good relationship to begin with. At least now, you can try to find someone else who will treat you better and that you can get along with better. Always remember, in a relationship good communication is the key. Instead of getting mad and yelling and screaming, try just simply talking to your partner in a calm manner to solve problems.
2006-09-09 01:17:47 · answer #2 · answered by Meagan M 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean he 'abused' you? If he did, then why are you even asking this question? You were wrong to have a temper tantrum and break the window. He's getting tired of you anyhow. You seem really the jealous type. Work on that because with that and your temper you won't keep any guy. Move on.
2006-09-09 01:14:18 · answer #3 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Screw him, if he can't be himself around you and his friend at the same time he's no where worth it at all. About the broken window you should apologize. His friends most likely think your a psycho b-i-t-c-h and they're most likely talking **** about you right now. So let this jerk go, hes not anywhere near worth anything you've got to give. Talk to another guy and let him see what he's missing out on and that you deserve someone better then a two faced boyfriend.Us girls have periods, babies, etc. Jerks are one thing we can most definitely cross off our to-do list.
2006-09-09 01:15:25 · answer #4 · answered by Liliac 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, maybe you should not call him and his friends too much, sometimes he just needs to spend time alone with them, maye then he could act all crazy and different but he has the right to. does not mean that he does not care for you. but to think you actually call him all over the place and come to his house, knock off his window, that would have freaked anyone out too. if you are not happy, move on, otherwise sit him down and talk things over.
2006-09-09 01:19:14 · answer #5 · answered by hoang anh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay girl here's my take.
You got mad becasue he was with his friends? You're lucky you didn't catch him in his room with a girl.
You are being possesive and you're stalking him. He didn't answer his phone. Wait until the next day. Didn't your mom teach you anything?
He's abusive? Then why the hell are you with him? Again, did mom not teach you anything? Have some self esteem.
2006-09-09 01:22:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
End all contact.
You need to speak with a professional, and I mean that in a kind way. You deserve to be happy, but there are some things that you will have to sort out first.
2006-09-09 01:20:00 · answer #7 · answered by rocketman33 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like the both of you are wanting to be in control of this relationship! That is not possible, the two of you should want an equal relationship! Since the two of you are not married, you guys should just go your separate ways!
Good Luck!!!!
2006-09-09 12:21:48 · answer #8 · answered by bigred 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1.The relationship sounds horrible.
2.You sound whiney, psychotic, and controlling.
Stay seperated. Have a nice day.
2006-09-09 01:13:33 · answer #9 · answered by ZackisDead 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's not worth the bother. Just forget about him and move on.
2006-09-09 01:49:52 · answer #10 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋