If both of us are shy, then who says "the words"-love" and when?.?

Question

I am old enough to know these things but I dont. I am the shy but pretty and friendly, presentable but volnerable. Above all, I want to meet and date the man I love. They tell me I should,not chase the man, they tell me to be patient, the y tell me to be nice. After all these, how do I take the opport and not lose the man I had taking a liken to without rushing or blowing it all off.?
For months, I feel this shy guy likes me and I do but he does not say anything. How best can a lady show a man she is also interested if he is. How can a lady know if the man is only being flirty or friendly. How long shd I wait before giving up?
Any matured and expereinced people.

Answer 1

I know what it's like to be shy... but you have to build your courage to take what you want... OK think of it this way... your a little kids and your mom put's candy in front of you and another child... if you don't take the candy right away the other child will grab the candy from you right? Now you are an adult if you don't grab what you want someone else will grab it from you... If you want him bad enough you are going to have to take him... when I was in high school (12 years ago) I had a friend that taught me to get over my shyness... and I was very shy... she told me the candy thing and now I am telling you... trust me it works... go up to him and in any verbal way you possibly can tell him as much as you can with out over doing it... what I am trying to say is go up to him and tell him what a wonderful man he is "your such a sweetheart" or something along those lines... wait for a response... if it's a positive response take it one step closer... "maybe we can go out sometime for coffee (or what ever you think)... It's a harmless question to ask... after it's over you will feel better and even if he turns you down... the next one won't!!! but I doubt he will. Take it slow, be yourself... but take that candy that's placed in front of you or someone else will!!! Good Luck

Answer 2

You need to find out. Sometimes the only way is to be direct. If you think this guy is worth it, then you maybe need to suggest getting together for a date of some kind, and then if he accepts, find a way of gently saying that you're interested in him, and does he feel the same way? You'll be taking a risk, because the guy may say no and he's not interested, but he may also say yes and that he is interested. You need to find out so you can stop wasting time one way or the other, i.e. you'll get a chance to try developing a relationship with this guy, or you'll find you need wait no longer and can move on.

Answer 3

As a shy guy I can say -
PLEASE DON'T WAIT!!
Talk to the guy, otherwise it'll never happen. It's amazing how long us 'shy guys' can sit around admiring pretty friendly women without doing anything about it.

Its hard to say how best to approach the situation as I don't know how much you talk to the guy already. Just up the friendly levels until its the most natural thing in the world to ask him to meet up some time. Guys are ALWAYS love it if a girl is interested, especially 'pretty and friendly' ones, so don't worry he'll be putty in your hand. Just don't wait for him.

Good luck

Answer 4

Christ all Mighty it smells like pot pourri in here!! Enough of the crap, listen up here Girlie. I'm not shy, I always make the first move; and I can help You! Two deep breaths, then exhale. Go over to Him, ask Him to buy You a coffee. Sit down with the coffee, and Him; and talk. About the weather, a movie; the boil on Your Mommas bum; but talk. After the coffee is drunk up, say I've got to go, I had a real nice time talking to You. Blink Your eyes at Him twice and split. If He doesn't approach You for another coffee He isn't worthy of Your attention. If He does, it's on!!! Good Luck little one, we all need what Your looking for.

Answer 5

You`ll never know if you don`t make a move to find out.Someone has to step forward.If you have waited and he hasn`t done anything then there`s nothing wrong in you speaking to him first.Whats the worst that could happen,he says he isn`t interested,then at least you would know.You might be embarrassed but you`ll live.

Answer 6

My guy is shy but I knew how he felt and how I felt, so one day when he made me a cup of tea I said in a jokey way "you see this is why I love you" and then changed the subject, later that day he said them words, he said when I had said it the pressure was off as he knew then he wouldn't be shot down or laughed at.. 4 years on we are married, so good luck..

Answer 7

Tell him, you will lost nothing, once i met a guy & became friends aftera day or a week, i know he likes me- i trusted my intuition, we went to play bawling together, had dinner and disco`s but he never told me anything &my friends were the one telling me how the heck we are going out together if we both dont like each other-- told them i know we`re both attracted to each other but i am hesitant to tell him, my male friend told me it is better to tell this friend if we are both shy because i will lost nothing or else action`s without spoken words are nothing. So i indeed up telling him one night after our dinner how i feel for himm. I lost nothing, in fact i gained a LOVER.

Answer 8

I think the girl should make a nice facial expressions, or you want to be cloe to that person

Answer 9

Get over your shyness! You will miss out on to much out here in this fun world!

Answer 10

If you feel he likes you, he probably does.

Trust your intuition.

Men like women more than women like men, generally. At least, they seem a lot more interested, even if its just physical.